Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Mister_DoItNice]

Damn fam, I’m putting quite a bit of funds into the a new gal I’m dating. The thing is, I do believe she has wifey type qualities and I can usually smell when a broad is using me for something (which is okay if its reciprocated, i.e. courting her/taking her out in exchange for a fella getting that real good pinuss/head touch).

What I do appreciate is that there are still good women out there that like to be court but don’t understand that not all dudes cake like that. I mean, it’s getting to the point where I only want to see her once a week cuz after 7 dates in, I prolly spent almost half a g on food/drinks/gas/gum etc.).

Now, I’m not a simp in any form of the word. But when you are infatuated with somebody who shows that same kind of interest, how frugal are you supposed to be? To convey leadership and manhood to a babe, you gotta be able to provide (and if that means relinquishing funds to support the outings, then so be it).

But by the end of the day, I guess what I’m trying to say is that it’s only worf it if there’s certainty that she’ll stick around and love you for you (and not the fact that you’re basically filling a void or acting like the Dennis Rodman of the companionship; straight rebound).

My money game ain’t strong, and she has been quite accepting at the fact that I’m a grown dude who takes care of his folks (or, lives at home, I try to make it seem like I’m keeping the domestic shiit in check so I come off as a provider. LOL. But it’s genuine – I love my folks. Can you blame me? Yes you can but don’t).

Her little gestures here and there tell me that she’s interested (i.e. before knowing my residence, telling me that we should meet up closer to my place so I didn’t have to keep driving to her area,

My biggest short coming is that I still live at the crib, but I think my other qualities make up for the ill-independence (I do plan on leaving the nest, but right now, the struggle is in the monetary strife, so I just gotta watch what I spend cuz the clothes, Jay Oh’s and alcohol flow ain’t help my cause. Y’all know that I eat tuna and cheese kaysadeeyas so I have money to spend on her on the weekends? A fella could be eating good at least 3 nights a week, that vegetary with the brown rice shiit – but I sacrifice for the name of love).

J. Lo fukked up when she said love ain’t cost a thang. Shiits putting dents on my account so bad, Maaco wouldn’t fukk with it).


So if this ain't courting, then its better to just skip the trial...


cuz i'm already guilty as charged.


*pleads the 5rst*


.

The real question is do you spend time with her outside of a date setting? As in just relaxing at your place or hers. Maybe a movie night? Or has she covered you on any of these dates? 7 dates in and you're footing the bill for everything? Doesn't sound right to me.

 

[DaRealness]

Damn fam, I’m putting quite a bit of funds into the a new gal I’m dating. The thing is, I do believe she has wifey type qualities and I can usually smell when a broad is using me for something (which is okay if its reciprocated, i.e. courting her/taking her out in exchange for a fella getting that real good pinuss/head touch).

What I do appreciate is that there are still good women out there that like to be court but don’t understand that not all dudes cake like that. I mean, it’s getting to the point where I only want to see her once a week cuz after 7 dates in, I prolly spent almost half a g on food/drinks/gas/gum etc.).

Now, I’m not a simp in any form of the word. But when you are infatuated with somebody who shows that same kind of interest, how frugal are you supposed to be? To convey leadership and manhood to a babe, you gotta be able to provide (and if that means relinquishing funds to support the outings, then so be it).

But by the end of the day, I guess what I’m trying to say is that it’s only worf it if there’s certainty that she’ll stick around and love you for you (and not the fact that you’re basically filling a void or acting like the Dennis Rodman of the companionship; straight rebound).

My money game ain’t strong, and she has been quite accepting at the fact that I’m a grown dude who takes care of his folks (or, lives at home, I try to make it seem like I’m keeping the domestic shiit in check so I come off as a provider. LOL. But it’s genuine – I love my folks. Can you blame me? Yes you can but don’t).

Her little gestures here and there tell me that she’s interested (i.e. before knowing my residence, telling me that we should meet up closer to my place so I didn’t have to keep driving to her area,

My biggest short coming is that I still live at the crib, but I think my other qualities make up for the ill-independence (I do plan on leaving the nest, but right now, the struggle is in the monetary strife, so I just gotta watch what I spend cuz the clothes, Jay Oh’s and alcohol flow ain’t help my cause. Y’all know that I eat tuna and cheese kaysadeeyas so I have money to spend on her on the weekends? A fella could be eating good at least 3 nights a week, that vegetary with the brown rice shiit – but I sacrifice for the name of love).

J. Lo fukked up when she said love ain’t cost a thang. Shiits putting dents on my account so bad, Maaco wouldn’t fukk with it).


So if this ain't courting, then its better to just skip the trial...


cuz i'm already guilty as charged.


*pleads the 5rst*


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It doesn't sound like your girl is bringing anything to the table at all fam, I'm just gonna be real with you. A smile, a few touches and winks here and there don't mean a thing. Anyone can do that. What does SHE offer you? And why do you have to keep proving yourself to her all the time? What is she trying to prove to YOU? How does she try to impress you apart from suggesting y'all meet closer to your home?

When the chemistry is right, you wouldn't have any doubts nor would you feel the need to ponder over anything.

The mere fact that you state you only want to see her once a week because of how costly it's getting says it all to me.

 

[Swing]

Her little gestures here and there tell me that she’s interested (i.e. before knowing my residence, telling me that we should meet up closer to my place so I didn’t have to keep driving to her area,

Maybe I'm over analyzing, could be nothing but make sure she aint got no man tucked away

 

[Duhmarcus Danderstein]

Rapdon. You raise a lot of interesting points. Perhaps I am confusing the two but I wish I wasn’t so enamored by the babe. You know, i only truly started dating in my late 20’s and I urgently did a lot too soon (the last 3-4 years was just dating very frequently and trying to narrow things down, testing the waters and attempting new things to quote unquote – get it out of my system, all while figuring out what I like/want/require in a mate).

I do need to reevaluate what I’ m doing and not be so fukkin’ self conscious cuz I don’t want to lose her (I’ve been telling a lot of people about her and if we somehow sever, I’d feel like a real idiot – I do care about what my peers think to an extent, but I realize priorities are more important).

Thanks breigh.

The real question is do you spend time with her outside of a date setting? As in just relaxing at your place or hers. Maybe a movie night? Or has she covered you on any of these dates? 7 dates in and you're footing the bill for everything? Doesn't sound right to me.

Date number 7 was last Sunday and we were at my place. We just laid down and watched the Pro Bowl. She doesn’t say, “Oh can we get something to eat, can we do this. That.” Never that.

If we just sit and chill, do the minimal, I guess she’s fine with it but I’’m not. I get insecure sometimes cuz I always feel like I got to put on a show – if I don’t entertain her enough, the risk would be losing her to another cat who’s trying to win her heart.

Now, she’s at her apt alone this week cuz her roommate is going back to her motherland. She hasn’t mentioned wanting me to come over – but I told her Sunday that I usually don’t let girls know where I live so soon cuz most broads are crazy and I’m not trying to get stalked. That alone should have warranted some kind of invite on her behalf but nil.

Who knows what’s really going on in her mind. She’s not use to dating guys of my background – though that’s no excuse, I’ll just use that in my own head to give this thing some leverage until she gets more comfortable with me.

I don’t know breaighs. My sister’s boyfriend is having a party this Saturday and I invited her; mentioned it a couple weeks back. So she’s coming and meeting the sis, her mans and my friends for the first time. We’ll see how this goes but I’m starting to have my reservations because I’m not trying to be perceived as a sucker (mind you, the last 4 chicks I dated it was almost purely sexual – don’t know why I have to treat her different but I guess its due to me liking her so much, thus, I guess I’m simpin’).

What I do want to include before you think I’m a total idiot (oops, too late) is that during dinner (it was just a chinese spot down town, still ran me 40 bucks though) was that she started opening up to me about her family woes, how her mom got more possessive thru the years and how her father’s passing was tough. And I see the pain in her eyes breaighs. No superman.

Also, after I ordered the food, I went to the restroom and when I came back, the cuisine arrived and she kindly placed some food from the platter onto my plate. Now, I think that was a very kind gesture on her behalf and I really appreciated it.

That’s the thing breighs. That’s the kind of stuff I used to be envious of when I saw my dudes in relationships get the luxury of experiencing. I was single the first 27 years of my life so – this kind of stuff is quite the novelty to me.

My last relationship wasn’t a very fruitful/healthy one, so after the breakup, I resented women… that’s why I decided to go on this sexual conquest/rampage and fukk whoever, whenever without responsibility and attachment (it wasn’t a deliberate goal, total subconscious one, but it wasn’t my personality to engage in that type of lifestyle).

Now that I found somebody – I don’t want that empty, meaningless philandering. You know? That’s probably why I started to care again. Wanting to give my heart to somebody I think is valuable to my life and worth spending time with.


Date number 8 is this Saturday and i probably won't have to spend so much loot because we're going to a house party. But i don't want something so trivial to cause a disruption/delay in my feelings for somebody i want to bond with.

She talks about how her friends are all having babies and getting married and her moms pressuring her to have one and such. If she's just weeding out candidates and looking for a provider - i can't be that guy (yet).

But at the same time, i don't want to lose her, fam.

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[↓R↑LYB]

Here's a quick lil gem, don't be this nikka

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[CrossBones]

a real chick is going to be happy to meet up with you, even if its just at the crib, for a walk in the park, or at her place so she can cook for you. dont get me wrong, a little bit of spending may happen, but it shouldnt be the crux of your whole relationship and time together. her appreciation, and understanding of the value of your time with her should be evident in her attitude and actions.

let me put it like this, women arent dumb, and they know what theyre doing 98% of the time. if she is making it seem like you have to spend dough to kick it with her, then shes a golddigging type who gets off on that kind of relationship. this isnt an accident. if you propose to do some more low to no cost activities and you see she aint with it, then you know what shes about. this important and why we say that the man has to lay out the groundwork for the pace of a relationship. someone who is unappreciative, or a schemer, will not keep up with someone who seeks some cooperation or something in return.


bottomline is this, dont be selfless. make sure her actions show as much effort and appreciation as you do. thats a good partner to have. just take care of yourself first, then see if she can accept and respect that. otherwise, you know what you have to do

 

[Duhmarcus Danderstein]

Maybe I'm over analyzing, could be nothing but make sure she aint got no man tucked away

That’s what I’m starting to become afraid of. My ex was still living with her man’s during the duration of our time together (I guess I can’t even call it a relationship if she most likely was still getting pounded by the guy).

But it was my first time spending significant time with a woman and the first time a woman really showed me interest – that’s why I maintained it.

Even with that girl though, I fronted the bill EVERY time (the only time she paid was to apologize for telling me she made out with another dude at the club – and in retrospect, she prolly fukked him too!).

That’s neither here nor there.

But you can see how fukked up my head is and how much mental torture I’ve endured in the past year that petty stuff doesn’t get to me.

Also want to tell you guys that I’m naturally a generous person. If I have time and money, I always spend it on family/friends. But after the holidays, death of a family member that had me taking time off from work with no pay/plane ticket – now is a bad time for me. But I’m lonely breaighs. Can you blame a fella?


If she has a man, then that's on me for not asking early on. I just assume because she hasn't brought it up and just wanting to spend time when i ask her. She hasn't flaked yet and always tells me she has fun hanging out with me.


*sighs*


This morning started off fine, now i'm beginning to feel a little depressed - but why do i feel like such an idiot right now?

So embarassed.


I guess we'll see what happens after this weekend.


Will let you guys know the end result.

 

[CASHAPP]

That’s what I’m starting to become afraid of. My ex was still living with her man’s during the duration of our time together (I guess I can’t even call it a relationship if she most likely was still getting pounded by the guy).

But it was my first time spending significant time with a woman and the first time a woman really showed me interest – that’s why I maintained it.

Even with that girl though, I fronted the bill EVERY time (the only time she paid was to apologize for telling me she made out with another dude at the club – and in retrospect, she prolly fukked him too!).

That’s neither here nor there.

But you can see how fukked up my head is and how much mental torture I’ve endured in the past year that petty stuff doesn’t get to me.

Also want to tell you guys that I’m naturally a generous person. If I have time and money, I always spend it on family/friends. But after the holidays, death of a family member that had me taking time off from work with no pay/plane ticket – now is a bad time for me. But I’m lonely breaighs. Can you blame a fella?


If she has a man, then that's on me for not asking early on. I just assume because she hasn't brought it up and just wanting to spend time when i ask her. She hasn't flaked yet and always tells me she has fun hanging out with me.


*sighs*


This morning started off fine, now i'm beginning to feel a little depressed - but why do i feel like such an idiot right now?

So embarassed.


I guess we'll see what happens after this weekend.


Will let you guys know the end result.

No offense breh but you sound like a simp in denial.

 

[Jahmal]

Damn fam, I’m putting quite a bit of funds into the a new gal I’m dating. The thing is, I do believe she has wifey type qualities and I can usually smell when a broad is using me for something (which is okay if its reciprocated, i.e. courting her/taking her out in exchange for a fella getting that real good pinuss/head touch).

$500 / 7 =~ $71 per date.


Why haven't you smashed yet?


SMH @ dudes starving themselves all week to take some girl out to dinner and go home with a dry d1ck. It seems like you are her FOOD TRICK. You take her out, feed her and she gets up with the next man afterwards.

 

[rapdonttweet]

That’s what I’m starting to become afraid of. My ex was still living with her man’s during the duration of our time together (I guess I can’t even call it a relationship if she most likely was still getting pounded by the guy).

But it was my first time spending significant time with a woman and the first time a woman really showed me interest – that’s why I maintained it.

Even with that girl though, I fronted the bill EVERY time (the only time she paid was to apologize for telling me she made out with another dude at the club – and in retrospect, she prolly fukked him too!).

That’s neither here nor there.

But you can see how fukked up my head is and how much mental torture I’ve endured in the past year that petty stuff doesn’t get to me.

Also want to tell you guys that I’m naturally a generous person. If I have time and money, I always spend it on family/friends. But after the holidays, death of a family member that had me taking time off from work with no pay/plane ticket – now is a bad time for me. But I’m lonely breaighs. Can you blame a fella?


If she has a man, then that's on me for not asking early on. I just assume because she hasn't brought it up and just wanting to spend time when i ask her. She hasn't flaked yet and always tells me she has fun hanging out with me.


*sighs*


This morning started off fine, now i'm beginning to feel a little depressed - but why do i feel like such an idiot right now?

So embarassed.


I guess we'll see what happens after this weekend.


Will let you guys know the end result.

Man you started out your posts by saying you aren't a simp. No disrespect but yeah, you are. You've told us about two women and you didn't have either one tied down in an actual relationship but were still infatuated and spending money on them. You're way too desperate.

 

[rapdonttweet]

$500 / 7 =~ $71 per date.


Why haven't you smashed yet?


SMH @ dudes starving themselves all week to take some girl out to dinner and go home with a dry d1ck.

lol I probably wouldn't even spend 71 in the first 7 dates.

 

[Illuminatos]

Rapdon. You raise a lot of interesting points. Perhaps I am confusing the two but I wish I wasn’t so enamored by the babe. You know, i only truly started dating in my late 20’s and I urgently did a lot too soon (the last 3-4 years was just dating very frequently and trying to narrow things down, testing the waters and attempting new things to quote unquote – get it out of my system, all while figuring out what I like/want/require in a mate).

I do need to reevaluate what I’ m doing and not be so fukkin’ self conscious cuz I don’t want to lose her (I’ve been telling a lot of people about her and if we somehow sever, I’d feel like a real idiot – I do care about what my peers think to an extent, but I realize priorities are more important).

Thanks breigh.








Date number 7 was last Sunday and we were at my place. We just laid down and watched the Pro Bowl. She doesn’t say, “Oh can we get something to eat, can we do this. That.” Never that.

If we just sit and chill, do the minimal, I guess she’s fine with it but I’’m not. I get insecure sometimes cuz I always feel like I got to put on a show – if I don’t entertain her enough, the risk would be losing her to another cat who’s trying to win her heart.

Now, she’s at her apt alone this week cuz her roommate is going back to her motherland. She hasn’t mentioned wanting me to come over – but I told her Sunday that I usually don’t let girls know where I live so soon cuz most broads are crazy and I’m not trying to get stalked. That alone should have warranted some kind of invite on her behalf but nil.

Who knows what’s really going on in her mind. She’s not use to dating guys of my background – though that’s no excuse, I’ll just use that in my own head to give this thing some leverage until she gets more comfortable with me.

I don’t know breaighs. My sister’s boyfriend is having a party this Saturday and I invited her; mentioned it a couple weeks back. So she’s coming and meeting the sis, her mans and my friends for the first time. We’ll see how this goes but I’m starting to have my reservations because I’m not trying to be perceived as a sucker (mind you, the last 4 chicks I dated it was almost purely sexual – don’t know why I have to treat her different but I guess its due to me liking her so much, thus, I guess I’m simpin’).

What I do want to include before you think I’m a total idiot (oops, too late) is that during dinner (it was just a chinese spot down town, still ran me 40 bucks though) was that she started opening up to me about her family woes, how her mom got more possessive thru the years and how her father’s passing was tough. And I see the pain in her eyes breaighs. No superman.

Also, after I ordered the food, I went to the restroom and when I came back, the cuisine arrived and she kindly placed some food from the platter onto my plate. Now, I think that was a very kind gesture on her behalf and I really appreciated it.

That’s the thing breighs. That’s the kind of stuff I used to be envious of when I saw my dudes in relationships get the luxury of experiencing. I was single the first 27 years of my life so – this kind of stuff is quite the novelty to me.

My last relationship wasn’t a very fruitful/healthy one, so after the breakup, I resented women… that’s why I decided to go on this sexual conquest/rampage and fukk whoever, whenever without responsibility and attachment (it wasn’t a deliberate goal, total subconscious one, but it wasn’t my personality to engage in that type of lifestyle).

Now that I found somebody – I don’t want that empty, meaningless philandering. You know? That’s probably why I started to care again. Wanting to give my heart to somebody I think is valuable to my life and worth spending time with.


Date number 8 is this Saturday and i probably won't have to spend so much loot because we're going to a house party. But i don't want something so trivial to cause a disruption/delay in my feelings for somebody i want to bond with.

She talks about how her friends are all having babies and getting married and her moms pressuring her to have one and such. If she's just weeding out candidates and looking for a provider - i can't be that guy (yet).

But at the same time, i don't want to lose her, fam.

.

That’s what I’m starting to become afraid of. My ex was still living with her man’s during the duration of our time together (I guess I can’t even call it a relationship if she most likely was still getting pounded by the guy).

But it was my first time spending significant time with a woman and the first time a woman really showed me interest – that’s why I maintained it.

Even with that girl though, I fronted the bill EVERY time (the only time she paid was to apologize for telling me she made out with another dude at the club – and in retrospect, she prolly fukked him too!).

That’s neither here nor there.

But you can see how fukked up my head is and how much mental torture I’ve endured in the past year that petty stuff doesn’t get to me.

Also want to tell you guys that I’m naturally a generous person. If I have time and money, I always spend it on family/friends. But after the holidays, death of a family member that had me taking time off from work with no pay/plane ticket – now is a bad time for me. But I’m lonely breaighs. Can you blame a fella?


If she has a man, then that's on me for not asking early on. I just assume because she hasn't brought it up and just wanting to spend time when i ask her. She hasn't flaked yet and always tells me she has fun hanging out with me.


*sighs*


This morning started off fine, now i'm beginning to feel a little depressed - but why do i feel like such an idiot right now?

So embarassed.


I guess we'll see what happens after this weekend.


Will let you guys know the end result.

 

[sixsixtwo]

The ‘A’ Guy «

Chasing Amy «

 

[Swing]

That’s what I’m starting to become afraid of. My ex was still living with her man’s during the duration of our time together (I guess I can’t even call it a relationship if she most likely was still getting pounded by the guy). Just be careful breh, these bytches have no conscious, dont get killed over no hoe. And if the bytch got a man, just leave that shyt alone.

But it was my first time spending significant time with a woman and the first time a woman really showed me interest – that’s why I maintained it. I feel you, we've all been there. Learn from that and respect yourself

Even with that girl though, I fronted the bill EVERY time (the only time she paid was to apologize for telling me she made out with another dude at the club – and in retrospect, she prolly fukked him too!). She probably did, did you cancel that bytch tho?

That’s neither here nor there.

But you can see how fukked up my head is and how much mental torture I’ve endured in the past year that petty stuff doesn’t get to me.

Also want to tell you guys that I’m naturally a generous person. If I have time and money, I always spend it on family/friends. But after the holidays, death of a family member that had me taking time off from work with no pay/plane ticket – now is a bad time for me. But I’m lonely breaighs. Can you blame a fella? Be happy that you're alone, do for yourself what you do for others... you seem like a dude that puts others first, thats cool and all but let them deserve that and even then you come first.


If she has a man, then that's on me for not asking early on. I just assume because she hasn't brought it up and just wanting to spend time when i ask her. She hasn't flaked yet and always tells me she has fun hanging out with me. Not your fault at all, even if you would've asked if she aint shyt she'll tell you she's single.


*sighs*


This morning started off fine, now i'm beginning to feel a little depressed - but why do i feel like such an idiot right now? Good! Now take that feeling and be about your shyt and it will fall in line.

So embarassed. but turn that into


I guess we'll see what happens after this weekend.


Will let you guys know the end result.

 

[Duhmarcus Danderstein]

All you guys are right. All of you guys.


To the last girl that i was supposedly in a relationship with, yes. I simped.

The 4-5 girls in between. None of that.


But it looks like i'm relegating myself into my old ways.


Thus, in its overall essense of the term: yes. I'm a simp.


Back to what Crossbones last mentioned. Okay, i know what i have to do now. The funny thing is, even during the dates, as the bills came, i was like, "Ahhh fukk!"

But as a man, you have to play it cool. My problem is that i didn't play it smart.



Illuminatos, give me a break. LOL! I'm hurting inside cuz i'm clouded by wanting to be in love.

Desperate is a term I usually don't associate myself with cuz i generally have a very lax approach to life, but... if my actions speak otherwise so if i'm labeled as such - i'll accept it.


Now i just have to realize it and change it. If you keep grilling me breaighamtons, thiz what it jizz... i deserve it.