Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Definitely a balance to be had.

A quality woman could fukk you day one and a shytty one could make you wait 4 dates. Artificially waiting never works imo. As for the first 2 months at least she and you will be playing a character on your best behaviour.

If the chemistry is there sex will happen quickly I’ve found. I personally like to have it early, as if I don't have sexual compatibility with a woman I’m wasting her time and mine as I will be seeking out other women if we ever got together seriously.

A woman's sexual desire or her trying to hold off and be ‘good', shouldn’t mark her out as wifey. Its you as a man peeping her other actions. Because whether we will admit it or not if a woman has decided to fukk around on you she’ll be doing it and that goes for ‘good' and ‘bad' women.

We put the chicken before the egg and wonder why we confused/taking Ls lol.

Dudes cant even answer why they even out with the chick, and by the time they realize what they want from a woman its too late/time has been wasted. It seems that this topic offends brehs where dudes keep trying to prove they got things under control when they dont. Dudes go out the house with zero gameplan on what they want and end up in these scenarios where they fusing how you treat a thot/homie/girlfriend all together
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The dudes who are effective and get the best ROI have a game plan and goal defined on why they want to even interact with a woman before even walking out the house to find a woman.

The breh smashing chicks without dates is doing it because his goal is 'man I need some sex'. The man who finds a wife gets it done by saying 'man I need a wife'. If you dont want pure sex or a wife then you looking for a BFF :mjlol: if thats what you want because you're lonely then just say it, Dudes gotta dead their egos
 

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I found myself being that way after a string of ONS but then I thought about it and was like I can get why they don't and I'm missing out on a lot of opportunities here let me chill. A lot of them don't wanna look like a hoe which I respect and on top of that they don't know you too well so I get why they may say No. Even if they really want to have sex they will refuse or fight the urge.

I give them to the second date to warm up but I got to at least touch a titty, grab/spank they ass or in the very least kiss them the first date though.

So how do you feel one vets a woman and examines she has wife qualities?


As for breh @Atlrocafella he's going with the flow and not rushing it cause he's looking at it long term and not concerned with just smashing as he said and I respect that. Many of us in his shoes would try to hit ASAP but my question is has that approach worked for you before?

I mean think about it, what if she is pulling it back cause she wants sex and you ain't make your move yet. I'd view a woman as wifey potential but Id still try to create that passion. It seems if you don't the relationship can lose its spark and next thing you know you get hit with the let's just be friends or she pulls back/ghosts you.

I can respect it. As a man we are all entitled to our ways of handling women. It’s just in my experience. The women that don’t come back the first night tend to be the ones that are just out for what ‘they can get’. Ie. free food (which is why you only do drinks or coffee on the first date), may flake next time, or just plain wasn’t that interested.

Just because they come over doesn’t mean we have sex. I’m perfectly fine with that. I like to create a very comfortable environment with no pressure. That way she can decide if she wants to take it that far or not. It’s really to get a chance to converse and get to know her better without distractions or having to keep running up a tab.

As far as if having sex quickly has worked for me. Yes it has, but that’s because I know what I want. Sex. I’m not looking for a relationship. Also, I’ve had a relationship that lasted 8 years after we smashed after the first week. So waiting for sex and leading to a relationship are not mutually exclusive.
 

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I can respect it. As a man we are all entitled to our ways of handling women. It’s just in my experience. The women that don’t come back the first night tend to be the ones that are just out for what ‘they can get’. Ie. free food (which is why you only do drinks or coffee on the first date), may flake next time, or just plain wasn’t that interested.

Just because they come over doesn’t mean we have sex. I’m perfectly fine with that. I like to create a very comfortable environment with no pressure. That way she can decide if she wants to take it that far or not. It’s really to get a chance to converse and get to know her better without distractions or having to keep running up a tab.

As far as if having sex quickly has worked for me. Yes it has, but that’s because I know what I want. Sex. I’m not looking for a relationship. Also, I’ve had a relationship that lasted 8 years after we smashed after the first week. So waiting for sex and leading to a relationship are not mutually exclusive.
exactly bro lol.
 

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Finally bushed this woman I had been talking to. Never wanted to do anything besides text and talk. Maybe I'll put that energy into getting my body right.

you shouldnt even be talking to women until your body and money right. Better start now so you can come back hard summer 2022. 7 months or so, so no excuses
 

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you shouldnt even be talking to women until your body and money right. Better start now so you can come back hard summer 2022. 7 months or so, so no excuses

My money isn't a problem. I'm not fat either. I'm thin, just getting pudgy in the stomach area. I wear a 33 and 34 sized pants.
 

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Men shouldnt “go with the flow” we not in HS bro lol
I hear you. So question, how do you feel a man should vet a women if they seek a long term relationship or wife?


Definitely a balance to be had.

A quality woman could fukk you day one and a shytty one could make you wait 4 dates. Artificially waiting never works imo. As for the first 2 months at least she and you will be playing a character on your best behaviour.

If the chemistry is there sex will happen quickly I’ve found. I personally like to have it early, as if I don't have sexual compatibility with a woman I’m wasting her time and mine as I will be seeking out other women if we ever got together seriously.

A woman's sexual desire or her trying to hold off and be ‘good', shouldn’t mark her out as wifey. Its you as a man peeping her other actions. Because whether we will admit it or not if a woman has decided to fukk around on you she’ll be doing it and that goes for ‘good' and ‘bad' women.
That's true definitely could be a quality woman and you smash the first night. It's not a solid indicator of character at all tbh but as you said they wanna put on their best character act but a hoe gonna be a hoe and a good quality woman can still give it up to you the first night. However if a woman is too easy would you wife that? If she gives it out like samples or is too eager to smash without you really trying much doesn't that quickly disqualify her? I would just beat the p*ssy up and forget about her real quick. It's best if the chemistry is there and in those cases it usually happens quickly as you mentioned in your post but you still have to pursue her somewhat or build that chemistry up and escalate things.
 

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I can respect it. As a man we are all entitled to our ways of handling women. It’s just in my experience. The women that don’t come back the first night tend to be the ones that are just out for what ‘they can get’. Ie. free food (which is why you only do drinks or coffee on the first date), may flake next time, or just plain wasn’t that interested.

Just because they come over doesn’t mean we have sex. I’m perfectly fine with that. I like to create a very comfortable environment with no pressure. That way she can decide if she wants to take it that far or not. It’s really to get a chance to converse and get to know her better without distractions or having to keep running up a tab.

As far as if having sex quickly has worked for me. Yes it has, but that’s because I know what I want. Sex. I’m not looking for a relationship. Also, I’ve had a relationship that lasted 8 years after we smashed after the first week. So waiting for sex and leading to a relationship are not mutually exclusive.
Great points I hear you and if it works for you then that's what's matters breh.

It's just I left potential smashes on the table. I look at it like almost a 50/50 thing, sometimes you smash on the second date and sometimes you won't and the Chick will just be wasting your time or wanting free food and attention. That's why I only entertain the idea of a second date if as I said I sense passion there and the chick lets me rub her breast or we have a passionate kiss, things like that. Where it's like I know she wants it but she is fighting the urge and sticking to her guns. That to me eliminates the time wasters who won't want you to touch them at all let alone be passionate with you.
 

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I hear you. So question, how do you feel a man should vet a women if they seek a long term relationship or wife?



That's true definitely could be a quality woman and you smash the first night. It's not a solid indicator of character at all tbh but as you said they wanna put on their best character act but a hoe gonna be a hoe and a good quality woman can still give it up to you the first night. However if a woman is too easy would you wife that? If she gives it out like samples or is too eager to smash without you really trying much doesn't that quickly disqualify her? I would just beat the p*ssy up and forget about her real quick. It's best if the chemistry is there and in those cases it usually happens quickly as you mentioned in your post but you still have to pursue her somewhat or build that chemistry up and escalate things.


Dont over complicate things. Your questions tell
Me you go through the world aimless when it comes to women.

Before you even leave your home you should have your goal defined.

if you engage with a woman you examine if her characteristics align with your goal. Its that simple.

Dudes dont have a goal then come in here crying because time was wasted or a woman bounced/cheated on them.
 
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