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Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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Another subject that is critical to the subject of leadership is authority. One simply must have authority. Essentially authority boils down to the power to make decisions and to have your decisions followed. This is important because without any authority, you simply are not a leader. You are merely an advisor. Your decisions will only be followed 'by the discretion' of the 'advisee'. Thus, as a man to whom leadership is trusted, you must have authority.
Now, we can have authority based upon fear or authority based upon respect. Authority based upon fear is that which is based upon negative consequences happening to that who you are leading. For some men, this involves verbally berating a woman, threating to leave her, etc. This is by-far inferior to establishing your authority based upon respect. Authority based upon respect is established by having an objective that is clear and effectively communicated. It is established through consistency with the values you espouse, with competence at performing that which you said you would and with the general fairness that is prevalent throughout any decisions you make.
This is not only important in dealing with women, but with life in general. As a man, you want to have authority at your workplace, and you definitely want to have authority at home with your wife and kids when you have them. Without this, there simply will not be any true leadership in the home, which will eventually sew dischord and chaos. When you issue orders, they have to be based upon a sense of fairness and of both parties mutually benefitting. This will in turn, foster more trust, more respect, and ultimately more authority.
A key reason why a lot of women simply do not follow what many men do is because men are not establishing their authority out of respect. They are utilizing fear or manipulation to accomplish their objectives. Their decisions are not based upon fairness, nor are they mutually beneficial. This sort of leadership soon fosters distrust and eventually your authority will no longer be heeded. Ultimately, this weak leadership will be discarded or rewarded with manipulation or devious behavior in return.
A lot of women simply do not follow men's orders in this day and age because men continually lie and manipulate, and the only party that will benefit in the short-term is the man. Who would follow such an individual? Instead, if you allowed the terms of your objectives be stated truthfully and plainly, and your decisions benefitted the woman, as well as yourself, then there is a much higher likelihood you will be followed. For example, would oyu invest with someone who you've invested with prior and they were ultimately found to have stole your money in a pyramid scheme? Absolutely not. Would you give your money or follow the instructions of someone who you once gave money to, and they turned your dollar into a thousand? Absolutely. If you want to be followed, you have to operate on truth and mutual benefit. With that said, you must also avoid dealing with those who will not deal with fairness and mutual benefit. Do not keep manipulators around you.
The key point to take away from this is that real men do not sell dreams. They make them come true. If you are to establish a strong and true authority, you must base your decisions in fairness and mutual benefit and refuse to deal with those who do not see likewise.
Now, we can have authority based upon fear or authority based upon respect. Authority based upon fear is that which is based upon negative consequences happening to that who you are leading. For some men, this involves verbally berating a woman, threating to leave her, etc. This is by-far inferior to establishing your authority based upon respect. Authority based upon respect is established by having an objective that is clear and effectively communicated. It is established through consistency with the values you espouse, with competence at performing that which you said you would and with the general fairness that is prevalent throughout any decisions you make.
This is not only important in dealing with women, but with life in general. As a man, you want to have authority at your workplace, and you definitely want to have authority at home with your wife and kids when you have them. Without this, there simply will not be any true leadership in the home, which will eventually sew dischord and chaos. When you issue orders, they have to be based upon a sense of fairness and of both parties mutually benefitting. This will in turn, foster more trust, more respect, and ultimately more authority.
A key reason why a lot of women simply do not follow what many men do is because men are not establishing their authority out of respect. They are utilizing fear or manipulation to accomplish their objectives. Their decisions are not based upon fairness, nor are they mutually beneficial. This sort of leadership soon fosters distrust and eventually your authority will no longer be heeded. Ultimately, this weak leadership will be discarded or rewarded with manipulation or devious behavior in return.
A lot of women simply do not follow men's orders in this day and age because men continually lie and manipulate, and the only party that will benefit in the short-term is the man. Who would follow such an individual? Instead, if you allowed the terms of your objectives be stated truthfully and plainly, and your decisions benefitted the woman, as well as yourself, then there is a much higher likelihood you will be followed. For example, would oyu invest with someone who you've invested with prior and they were ultimately found to have stole your money in a pyramid scheme? Absolutely not. Would you give your money or follow the instructions of someone who you once gave money to, and they turned your dollar into a thousand? Absolutely. If you want to be followed, you have to operate on truth and mutual benefit. With that said, you must also avoid dealing with those who will not deal with fairness and mutual benefit. Do not keep manipulators around you.
The key point to take away from this is that real men do not sell dreams. They make them come true. If you are to establish a strong and true authority, you must base your decisions in fairness and mutual benefit and refuse to deal with those who do not see likewise.
SnugglesDaBear
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^nice info.
alot of this information is to be nuanced... its not to be applied directly to every situation your in... alot of it you have to apply it to your situation...
never letting a woman feel like she knows you doesnt mean DONT EVER TELL HER EVERYTHING ABOUT YOURSELF, but it does mean that even for guys in relationships, you never want your girl to get too comfortable with you... you want to surprise her every once in a while... it comes down to the whole "teach her everything she knows, but never everything you know" idea...
You ever notice the subtle pride a woman has when she "figures something out" about you? I've been with my girl for 5 years and every once in a while she says some shyt like "you always do such and such when such and such happens". I usually like to switch that thing up afterward...
Gotta be a boss type of man if your expecting boss type chicks.
If you want to be fukking 9s & 10's you need to be a man who is doing something with his life. You cant expect a beautiful chick to wanna run with you, if you have nothing going for yaself.
If you want to be fukking 9s & 10's you need to be a man who is doing something with his life. You cant expect a beautiful chick to wanna run with you, if you have nothing going for yaself.
But what is a 9 or 10 sir
What I thought was a 9 or 10 a few years ago is not anymore
As a man I think you should do what you want, drive what you want live within your means.
I think that he means that if you want a bad chic (ex. look good, has a good job, in shape, no kids, mentally stable, etc), you got to have the same qualities yourself. A lot of guys need to realize that you cannot pull a Beyonce or Kim K type of chic being a nikka working at Burger King. Those chics wants a man who doing big themselves or even better for the most part.
Not necessarily true. Confidence trumps any material possession or accolade you've ever accomplished. An dude making an average salary with confidence about himself can bag a bad bytch. I've dated broads making well into the 6 figures, chicks that could be models, etc. Everybody has insecurities. These chicks are no exception and are susceptible to powerful game and charisma.
Rule of thumb is that you want to be what you attract, but you could pull any broad. The question becomes how long will you be able to sustain her if your shyt ain't right?
Rule of thumb is that you want to be what you attract, but you could pull any broad. The question becomes how long will you be able to sustain her if your shyt ain't right?
I dunno...I cant help but feel like most of yall are saying that 9's or 10s aka simply good looking bytches deserve a man that has his shyt going on...becasue they are good looking.
And that is one of the main reasons men go down the heartbreak path in the first place. They've done everything they can, the girl is clearly being waste but they like her and envision being able to walk around with her on his arm and receive daps and looks so they put up with all the bullshyt.
This is the same reason why dudes who are nerds with potential get mad when they see thugs taking all the women at a young age thinking "When I get my 6 figure salary and graduate as an engineer with job at an Energy Company...then theyll see." But alot of the time it doesnt even change for em and they still fiendin for some p*ssy. Cause thats a poor way to think. Why would you even want bytches who werent there during the grit and grind to want you just cause you on point now. Maybe my ego is too big but fukk that.
My motto is that a girl deserves what she goes for no matter how beautiful she is. Once a man is able to realize that if a girl is sexy as hell, yet still goes for dating idiots...then she is in fact an idiot and the two deserve each other. Once you walk forward with that mindset...youll save yourself a lot of bitterness, and resentment...and end up much happier with someone who truly cares for you. Dont let her know about that Lexus you about to peel off in after meeting her. Dont let her know about the fact you work at a Fortune 500 making moves and earning 70K a year. Everything should be taken at face value on her end when she first meets you. Don't discount yourself, and dont offer a premium.
And that is one of the main reasons men go down the heartbreak path in the first place. They've done everything they can, the girl is clearly being waste but they like her and envision being able to walk around with her on his arm and receive daps and looks so they put up with all the bullshyt.
This is the same reason why dudes who are nerds with potential get mad when they see thugs taking all the women at a young age thinking "When I get my 6 figure salary and graduate as an engineer with job at an Energy Company...then theyll see." But alot of the time it doesnt even change for em and they still fiendin for some p*ssy. Cause thats a poor way to think. Why would you even want bytches who werent there during the grit and grind to want you just cause you on point now. Maybe my ego is too big but fukk that.
My motto is that a girl deserves what she goes for no matter how beautiful she is. Once a man is able to realize that if a girl is sexy as hell, yet still goes for dating idiots...then she is in fact an idiot and the two deserve each other. Once you walk forward with that mindset...youll save yourself a lot of bitterness, and resentment...and end up much happier with someone who truly cares for you. Dont let her know about that Lexus you about to peel off in after meeting her. Dont let her know about the fact you work at a Fortune 500 making moves and earning 70K a year. Everything should be taken at face value on her end when she first meets you. Don't discount yourself, and dont offer a premium.
There were jewels dropped in this thread earlier about this, and it went something like this...
You have to think of yourself as the prize, not the woman. Develop the mindstate that you are interviewing her for a position in your life and not the other way around. We've been conditioned to believe that we have to sell/market ourselves to women.
In reality, we see a woman we like and we step to her. We take her out. We get to know her. We shouldn't attempt to be the man that she wants us to be, and this what happens to most dudes after conversing with a woman. We get so caught up in her looks or her material possessions that we do whatever it takes to seal the deal. This is where we go wrong.
remember that you define the women you date. I always say behind every pretty woman is a dude who didn't want her for some reason or the other. Keep that in perspective whenever you start to think that a woman is too good for you.
A dude with confidence and no money will trump a dude without confidence and loads of money, but not a dude who has both. Theirs definitely a hierarchy. This is of course in the quest to acquire a woman, doesn't mean your girl will just leave you for an "upgrade" all willy nilly.
DallasTxRep
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Only give her one way to communicate with you.
She doesn't need your twitter, facebook, and your phone number.
This is how you get caught up; tell her to pick one and keep it movin
She doesn't need your twitter, facebook, and your phone number.
This is how you get caught up; tell her to pick one and keep it movin
