Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[T-K-G]

Is it me or as the older you get...and the more you hold a door open for a woman etc....they are more rude. Like you literally have to come out and say "Thank you".Am I a jerk for thinking this.

Nah you right, i done gave up trying going out of my way to be nice to women

you gotta channel your inner Cam, sure i'll hold a door for a woman, because im naturally nice like that, but a girl got an attitude with me im not gonna still be smilin in her face

i get more bytches in cam-mode anyway

 

[Rich Spirit]

I agree stay away from women with kids I'm telling you don't do it.

My godson mom is a single mother she always rails against her baby daddy yet some mornings when I drive him to daycare baby dad vehicle is there, even when she had a bf baby dad was thee

I've always had bad experiences with women with kids, I just never works out

 

[winb83]

I had a chick today beg me for a ride somewhere and I told her no ask one of her friends, then she brought out that guilt trip, I have no one else to ask.

I would have asked her whose falt is that. I'm sick of women and their sob stories. There are very few times in life where we are victims. Most of the time we are directly responsible for what happens to us and where we are in life.

Two of women's favorite things to do is duck personal responsibility for themselves and act is if some man should step in and save them just because they're women.

 

[MikelArteta]

I've always had bad experiences with women with kids, I just never works out

It's not worth it
Relationships are hard as they are already without a baby daddy and kid in the mix, and it doesn't matter when 1 year, two years if baby daddy changes you will be kicked to the Curb, like I said my godson mom is a single mom I've seen it all, the puzzy is always available to baby dad,
And he can show up at any time.

To much risk to little reward
Ppl gotta learn the hard way though

 

[Emperor Sol]

To all of the brothas looking for long term relationships or marriage or what have you, a word:

Don't forget to actually scrutinize your partner and see if she has qualities sufficient to become your wife. Actually think about it and don't just get caught up in the emotional roller coaster of the relationship. Can she cook, clean and do laundry? Does she have a problem with doing these things? Does she nag? Is doing things for you a problem, no matter what those things are? Does she even WANT to do things for you? Women these days are less and less willing or even able to do very basic, homely tasks. You don't want a useless wife, do you? Do you want a woman who will probably set your kids up to starve to death before they hit a year old?

Is she genuinely a nice person? Is she caught up in material things? More importantly, what's her main priority? The relationship itself (the concept of it as well) or you? A lot of dudes don't realize that the broad they're with cares more about the idea of being in a relationship than actually being with you. ALWAYS be on the look out for red flags. How often is she looking down, texting someone when she's with you? Does she occasionally act shady? Is she bent on keeping a "rotation" of male friends she likes to chill with? She may not be as interested in you as you both have deluded yourselves into thinking.

These questions and many more are all things you should ask yourselves.

Lastly, you should always seek to improve yourself above all things. Women will gravitate towards you if they sense your strength and character. Weak women will be intimidated because they don't feel as though they're in your league. Good women will be intrigued and want to know more.

That's all for now.

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

Man brotha, that's why you see my posts laced with extreme caution. You ultimately NEVER know what the next person is going to do, but after utilizing your own judgment process and constantly verifying, you just come to the conclusion that this is a girl that is worthy of taking a chance on. Maybe she is always available to you, she isn't tripping about cooking or cleaning for you, you've observed that she has morals, she has no need to hide her phone or facebook, you've done the scuttlebutt on her and observed how those who have been around her treat her, etc...

What's so cold about it all though is you can be in a relationship with a woman and have her look you in the eye and tell her she loves you everyday, while she is also in a relationship with another dude. This is why you always have to condition your mind and never assume that she's a perfect angel and you have to be able to get up and move on if she stabs you in the gut. This is why you invest in yourself way before you invest in a woman... This is why you always stay fly even if you are in a relationship. A lot of cats let themselves go until they are completely reliant on that woman. If she busts bad, it may take a while, but you will have other women wanting to deal with you. NEVER let yourself go.

True. There are a lot of gems in this thread, but I feel it may be a little too instructional. Most of these tactics are great when you're dealing with a shady jumpoff, other times they'll ruin a relationship with a good woman. For instance, "never let a female feel like she knows you.." are you effing kidding me? Sure that works for Shaniqua my jumpoff, but if I've been in a relationship with Candace for 3 years it seems silly and will drive us apart.

With that, here's my advice:

-Everything that you read is just advice from other people's perspectives. Take from it what you want. There are exceptions to every rule.
-Be as cautious with females as you would be with any other new relationship
-Respect yourself above all, have some principles, and STICK TO THEM!! People respect that.
-Be OPEN to love, but never give a woman more than you're willing for her to leave with. Whatever that threshold is varies from person to person. Know yourself and what you can handle.
-Enjoy your time with whoever you're with while you're with them. Understand that nothing is guaranteed in this world. A bus could take their life or they could completely betray you. These are possibilities, accept that and live your life to the fullest.


I think it's just that simple.

 

[Rarely-Wrong Liggins]

Damn, this thread is a sleeper hit. Didn't know it blew up to 785 posts!

 

[ineedsleep212]

I agree stay away from women with kids I'm telling you don't do it.

My godson mom is a single mother she always rails against her baby daddy yet some mornings when I drive him to daycare baby dad vehicle is there, even when she had a bf baby dad was thee

This reminds me of my cousin whos like 30 I think. I dunno wtf is up with him. He had 2 jobs that he was working full time. The jobs weren't all that good, but still he was making money. This dude out of nowhere left from NY to Florida to be with this chick that has 2 kids that aren't his. Son just dipped. When I heard about it, I was like and I'm just glad even I couldn't see myself doing some ridiculous kinda shyt like that.

 

[Sharp]

There are no exceptions to the rules. It's simply "if" statements.

When committing to a woman, always make sure that you never lose yourself. One of the biggest problems about being in a relationship is that you compromise a lot of things including yourself in order for it to work. You have to maintain a sense of self. You always have to keep a piece of yourself to yourself because the likelihood of a woman you're dating having unconditional love for you regardless of the situation is 1 in 1,000,000. A woman being in love with you is different from that woman loving you. And most relationships are at their best when that woman is in love with you. But when she's no longer infatuated and you go through that stretch, this is what you see what the woman you are dealing with is made of. When everything that you used to do that had her on cloud 9 has become routine to her, that's when you start to gauge whether this woman has the capability of loving you unconditionally. When she starts an argument, her tone and what comes out her mouth sets the precedent for how she's going to treat you when things get rough. Observe and beware.

Unconditional love is what we seek in a mate, and it is rare. I say to give a woman your all when you are able to love her unconditionally, past the sex, past the relationship. But first, she has to prove that she can love you unconditionally first, and unfortunately, this is something that takes years to determine.

 

[the cool]

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[Nintendough]

Understand that some women under the age of 30 just don't have any real home training. They will go go to a store in house shoes and their hair wrapped up because thats what they were taught to do. If you go over her house for a night cap, two things to check for are dirty draws on her bathroom floor and seasoned grease sitting in a pan on her stove. Don't assume that only boogers do this, some professional women will act one way while in their business clothes then go home, and keep it too real.

 

[Nintendough]

There are no exceptions to the rules. It's simply "if" statements.

When committing to a woman, always make sure that you never lose yourself. One of the biggest problems about being in a relationship is that you compromise a lot of things including yourself in order for it to work. You have to maintain a sense of self. You always have to keep a piece of yourself to yourself because the likelihood of a woman you're dating having unconditional love for you regardless of the situation is 1 in 1,000,000. A woman being in love with you is different from that woman loving you. And most relationships are at their best when that woman is in love with you. But when she's no longer infatuated and you go through that stretch, this is what you see what the woman you are dealing with is made of. When everything that you used to do that had her on cloud 9 has become routine to her, that's when you start to gauge whether this woman has the capability of loving you unconditionally. When she starts an argument, her tone and what comes out her mouth sets the precedent for how she's going to treat you when things get rough. Observe and beware.

Unconditional love is what we seek in a mate, and it is rare. I say to give a woman your all when you are able to love her unconditionally, past the sex, past the relationship. But first, she has to prove that she can love you unconditionally first, and unfortunately, this is something that takes years to determine.

Its a harsh stat but its true. Men should really ration how the amount of dedication they give at a time. A lot of problems would be avoided if this happened.

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

There are no exceptions to the rules. It's simply "if" statements.

When committing to a woman, always make sure that you never lose yourself. One of the biggest problems about being in a relationship is that you compromise a lot of things including yourself in order for it to work. You have to maintain a sense of self. You always have to keep a piece of yourself to yourself because the likelihood of a woman you're dating having unconditional love for you regardless of the situation is 1 in 1,000,000. A woman being in love with you is different from that woman loving you. And most relationships are at their best when that woman is in love with you. But when she's no longer infatuated and you go through that stretch, this is what you see what the woman you are dealing with is made of. When everything that you used to do that had her on cloud 9 has become routine to her, that's when you start to gauge whether this woman has the capability of loving you unconditionally. When she starts an argument, her tone and what comes out her mouth sets the precedent for how she's going to treat you when things get rough. Observe and beware.

Unconditional love is what we seek in a mate, and it is rare. I say to give a woman your all when you are able to love her unconditionally, past the sex, past the relationship. But first, she has to prove that she can love you unconditionally first, and unfortunately, this is something that takes years to determine.

That's true. That's why I be quotin The Weeknd lyrics to my new chick.

"I got you... Until you're used to my face, and the mystery fades... I GOT YOU"

She be like I be like "Oh don't worry.. "

But most of these gems arent really gems until you experience them for yourself. That's why I can relate to this thread and a lot of R&B songs more now. I couldn't a year ago.

Now, once you have the experience to go along with the true gems in this thread then you're good to go.

 

[kevm3]

1) Be hard but fair
You simply have to let females know there are certain things you will not go for. If she can't respect you and your boundaries, which she WILL test with little events, then she will snake you out. If a woman can't respect you, she will do some of the most disrespectful things you can imagine. So stop being so doggone friendly to these women and there has a to come a point to where she has to fear crossing a line with you. Stop being one of those ol soft, 'that's cool, do you, that's whassup' type of negroes. If she brings some nonsense your way, man up and let her butt know that ain't going to get no run where you from. This is why you got to have standards, so you can know what to and what not to accept. But like I said, be fair. Fairness should be one of your principles. Be gracious to the woman who exhibits positive, uplifting behavior, but you got to be able to lay that discipline down. That means letting her know exactly what she did wrong and cutting off the attention if she keeps on playing around.

2) Negro stop worrying about what she likes
It ain't about what cologne the girls like, what clothes the girl like, what kind of man the girl likes, so stop asking and stop worrying about these things. You know what a woman wants? She wants a MAN. When you choose your clothes, cologne, and all that, it should be based upon what YOU want. You always want to project yourself so you can catch the women for you.. You shouldn't be sitting around here trying to cater to what a woman says she likes... otherwise you are going to transform into a soft-serve negro listening to Keith Sweat, showing up at her job with flowers, spending lavish dinners on her while she doesn't give you the time of day while you here her cry about the negro that ain't NOTHING like what she says she likes but she can't stop hounding. Bottom line is if you a man and you project yourself, you are going to have a woman feeling you.

3) Don't be the come-up man
The come-up man is the fella that comes around, upgrading females, buying her things, letting her push his whip, paying her rent and all of that. This goes back to being FAIR. She's a grown woman, so she should be able to handle her own way. Paying her rent, buying her all these gifts, etc., that isn't reciprocated is a no-go. Don't let these women use you to 'come-up.' Have you paying her rent, buying her outfits, getting her hair down, etc., just basically making her look fine for the next dude.

 

[MikelArteta]

Patience is the key