Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Turbulent]

Word lmfao hell im suppose to swipe on no pics for

I swipe right on everything and then check the matches. Then i dismiss the ones I'm not attracted to. No pics, i ask for the pic. She doesn't send it she gets bushed.

Hell sometimes I'm swiping right for 20 minutes without looking while watching youtube vids on TV. Then when it reaches the limit i just do the same thing the next day

EDIT: now that i think about it, i even but the phone at an angle so that my thumb can swipe faster

 

[Turbulent]

Hold up, I can't be the only one who does that

 

[Apollo Creed]

Hold up, I can't be the only one who does that

i think you are lol. That effs up your algorithm or something

 

[Turbulent]

i think you are lol. That effs up your algorithm or something

At the end you only need 3 or 4. To meet in real life. Then one or two you will really hit it off with. I could see if I was trying to build a following on a social media platform but if it's just to meet a couple of girls on a dating app you don't need to worry about algorithms.

Are y'all seriously checking all pics and bios before swiping left or right? Then trying to compose the best first message based on the bio? I just glance at the bios to make sure it doesn't say tgirl and if they speak french or english (in from Montreal). POF is kinda dingy but it's the best for searches cause you can literally search by height, age, distance, race, if they have cars, if they have kids, body types,etc. Then you just shoot them all the "Hey, how is it going?". If they like how you look they will reply and you take it from there. Again, it's not that deep...

 

[Turbulent]

@skeetsinternal already laid down the blueprint for us and you guys are worried about algorithms?

 

[Turbulent]

Another quick gem while we are on the subject of dating apps.

You gotta be almost boring on the dating app. The goal is to show you are not a weirdo or a stalker. Get the number as quick as possible.

Then you are slightly funny/playful by text and call. The goal is to set up a meet as quick as possible.

You only seduce them in person. Don't try to seduce them by text or over the phone. Leave the seduction for when you are physically with her. The purpose of the phone is strictly to set up dates and handle logistics.

 

[VertigoKnight]

I mean... if you talk to enough women over the entirety of your existence, you will come across women who hit you with some form of "let's just be friends".. which could mean she either lost interest for whatever reason, found another dude (and moved you to the bench), or was never interested to begin with but doesn't want to be direct.

Either way, it's rejection... which doesn't matter. Whether she says "i'm not interested", "this isn't the right time", "let's just be friends"... just realize that you know you've matured when you no longer linger or micro-analyze such nonsense.

Oh, you ain't tryna fukk? Cool. *KIM*

Not gonna lie. In the past that shyt used to get at me when I'd hear any of those lines used. And I'd overthink it, especially when a chick would just straight up switch it all up on me.

Now? It's nothing to me. Tell them thanks for letting me know, take care and I'll leave it there.

If she's not trying to put herself in my orbit. Especially post first date. Then she's not feeling me that much. And for me, if a chick is a bit bleh about you and your doing all the chasing after the initial meet-up, that's a bad place to start. As her hearts not really into it at all. I've had enough women who were into me heavy and did all the pursuing. That it makes the chicks who are a little icy standout and I know not to waste time on them.

 

[Droopy]

Brehs. Been checking the thread for a few weeks now and i gotta go against the grain a little. It's not about being cold or mean to them. It's not about tricking them into doing stuff. And it's not about being angry with them either.

It's about setting healthy boundaries for yourself and fiercely enforcing them when they get violated. But not out of anger. This should be done out of love. There seems to be a lot of anger and resentment which i completely get, dont get me wrong. But anger is not the answer, love is (and i don't mean this in a corny way either). Whether she's a girl you just met and trying to pick up or your wife of 50 years, you should act out of measured and appropriate kind of love depending on the situation. Even when you check a girl or when you just bush her, your mindset shouldn't be "im punishing her". It should be instead "in not being treated like i want to be treated therefore in walking away so we can both find whatever we are looking for" and if she comes back you treat her in a way where she has to understand that the only way for her to be with you is to treat you right.

If you constantly have the mentality of "me vs. her" you will constantly attract women with the same mentality and will never find a girl that just wants to make your life easier. And trust, I had to learn that shyt the hard way so I'm not better. But please guys at least consider what I'm saying so you can maybe bypass a lot of the bs that comes with always being adversarial when it comes to women...

Been checking this thread for years. Strayed away for a while because I felt like there were some low frequencies in some of the messaging. Growing, I've had to check myself on a lot of shyt dealing with women.

 

[Turbulent]

Been checking this thread for years. Strayed away for a while because I felt like there were some low frequencies in some of the messaging. Growing, I've had to check myself on a lot of shyt dealing with women.

Same here. Hell i probably have some cringe worthy posts on here. Then same as you i stepped away for a while and came back since a rew weeks

 

[Krisrunner2049]

Met a girl today. She turned 18 on the day before my 21st bday. Had to leave that one alone, I’m light skinned but I ain’t Drake

 

[NoirDynosaur]

Summer is coming. The best time to cold approach!

Let me tell you my background. I used to have social anxiety in my younger days. Literally. My heart would be racing when a pretty ass chick would approach me.

Late 20s now. The older me...is far different. More confident, bold, and experienced.

I live in NY, one of the best cities to cold approach chicks. If I see a chick that wears my favorite outfit, whether it's leather leggings, sundresses, etc. I'm gonna deadass put the charm on her.

Life's too short and we all gonna die, might as well go in. Cause when you old, you gonna be reminiscing like "damn...I wish I did that when I was younger".

 

[VertigoKnight]

Is tinder gold worth it?

It depends, how many likes are you getting?

 

[Noriega]

An old head(late 40s) I use to work with that always had young shortys comin thru put me on game a year ago and its helped me immensely.

“Control the things you can control...white teeth, your physique, haircut, moisturize ya lips even simple shyt as cleaning earwax out ya ears females notice”

Ever since then I’ve been more comfortable bout going up to shortys at bars and kickbacks. I still get nervous sometimes but I’m getting better.

also helps that I’m 6’3

 

[Guvnor]

Smh a homegirl/friend with benefits of mine got sent a screenshot of me tryna holler at one of her friends. Apparently she be talking about me to her friends.

This is gonna be a long weekend.

 

[Sinnerman]

I've had a few girls come over for a hookup since the rona hit, but I haven't been on an actual date since Feb 2020

I've been app free for six plus months, but now I'm getting on hinge

I anticipate getting my shot first two-three weeks of April