Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Brehs. Been checking the thread for a few weeks now and i gotta go against the grain a little. It's not about being cold or mean to them. It's not about tricking them into doing stuff. And it's not about being angry with them either.

It's about setting healthy boundaries for yourself and fiercely enforcing them when they get violated. But not out of anger. This should be done out of love. There seems to be a lot of anger and resentment which i completely get, dont get me wrong. But anger is not the answer, love is (and i don't mean this in a corny way either). Whether she's a girl you just met and trying to pick up or your wife of 50 years, you should act out of measured and appropriate kind of love depending on the situation. Even when you check a girl or when you just bush her, your mindset shouldn't be "im punishing her". It should be instead "in not being treated like i want to be treated therefore in walking away so we can both find whatever we are looking for" and if she comes back you treat her in a way where she has to understand that the only way for her to be with you is to treat you right.

If you constantly have the mentality of "me vs. her" you will constantly attract women with the same mentality and will never find a girl that just wants to make your life easier. And trust, I had to learn that shyt the hard way so I'm not better. But please guys at least consider what I'm saying so you can maybe bypass a lot of the bs that comes with always being adversarial when it comes to women...
Well said. The me vs them mentality isn’t healthy but also good luck turning that off when you meet a decent chick with potential or decide you want too. Granted if you are just trying to play the field forever then that’s another thing but that doesn’t seem to be where brehs are coming from in here.
 

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Well said. The me vs them mentality isn’t healthy but also good luck turning that off when you meet a decent chick with potential or decide you want too. Granted if you are just trying to play the field forever then that’s another thing but that doesn’t seem to be where brehs are coming from in here.
I feel like brehs want to feel like they conned themselves into some p*ssy. They want to feel like players and like they tricked a girl into eating from their hand. Meanwhile if you are strong, that shyt will happen naturally. But in turn your thoughts, words and actions must align for the woman to feel safe in submitting. And a lot of brehs struggle with that...
 

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Brehs. Been checking the thread for a few weeks now and i gotta go against the grain a little. It's not about being cold or mean to them. It's not about tricking them into doing stuff. And it's not about being angry with them either.

It's about setting healthy boundaries for yourself and fiercely enforcing them when they get violated. But not out of anger. This should be done out of love. There seems to be a lot of anger and resentment which i completely get, dont get me wrong. But anger is not the answer, love is (and i don't mean this in a corny way either). Whether she's a girl you just met and trying to pick up or your wife of 50 years, you should act out of measured and appropriate kind of love depending on the situation. Even when you check a girl or when you just bush her, your mindset shouldn't be "im punishing her". It should be instead "in not being treated like i want to be treated therefore in walking away so we can both find whatever we are looking for" and if she comes back you treat her in a way where she has to understand that the only way for her to be with you is to treat you right.

If you constantly have the mentality of "me vs. her" you will constantly attract women with the same mentality and will never find a girl that just wants to make your life easier. And trust, I had to learn that shyt the hard way so I'm not better. But please guys at least consider what I'm saying so you can maybe bypass a lot of the bs that comes with always being adversarial when it comes to women...

Facts.
 

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Just started a new job making around $20.00 an hour. My current gf just don’t know I’m finna break up with her.

She basically forced me in a relationship & I just said “fukk it I’m bored so let’s do this :francis:

I tell everyone that I do not want kids so don’t even bring it up in any discussion. Cause I’m a shut that shyt down with the quickness.

Shorty got a daughter & a retarded baby daddy who refused to see his kid for an entire year. :francis:

Need help telling this woman I don’t want to be with her in the nicest way possible :snoop:
 

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Just started a new job making around $20.00 an hour. My current gf just don’t know I’m finna break up with her.

She basically forced me in a relationship & I just said “fukk it I’m bored so let’s do this :francis:

I tell everyone that I do not want kids so don’t even bring it up in any discussion. Cause I’m a shut that shyt down with the quickness.

Shorty got a daughter & a retarded baby daddy who refused to see his kid for an entire year. :francis:

Need help telling this woman I don’t want to be with her in the nicest way possible :snoop:

do you all live together?
 

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Just started a new job making around $20.00 an hour. My current gf just don’t know I’m finna break up with her.

She basically forced me in a relationship & I just said “fukk it I’m bored so let’s do this :francis:

I tell everyone that I do not want kids so don’t even bring it up in any discussion. Cause I’m a shut that shyt down with the quickness.

Shorty got a daughter & a retarded baby daddy who refused to see his kid for an entire year. :francis:

Need help telling this woman I don’t want to be with her in the nicest way possible :snoop:

:russ:Sorry breh I understand this is a serious situation but the way you dropped those two pieces of information together :mjlol:

If you don't want kids why would you have been with someone who has kids in the first place?
Never let a woman force you into a relationship breh just say no.

I had a situation a few years back when I was being pressured into committing.
Looking back I regret not going through with it slightly because I think she would have been a good GF, but I just wasn't ready at the time so it probably wouldn't have worked out.

But back to your dilemma, just be straight up.
Please believe if the shoe was on the other foot she would have no problem telling you it's over.
Women have no loyalty when It comes to their happiness, they won't give a second thought about your feelings.
 

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Just started a new job making around $20.00 an hour. My current gf just don’t know I’m finna break up with her.

She basically forced me in a relationship & I just said “fukk it I’m bored so let’s do this :francis:

I tell everyone that I do not want kids so don’t even bring it up in any discussion. Cause I’m a shut that shyt down with the quickness.

Shorty got a daughter & a retarded baby daddy who refused to see his kid for an entire year. :francis:

Need help telling this woman I don’t want to be with her in the nicest way possible :snoop:

Imagine being a grown man and telling your father some chick "forced you in to a relationship".

Lol, I avoid a lot of clownish behavior in my life by imagining how my Dad would react if he was ever informed.
 

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Imagine being a grown man and telling your father some chick "forced you in to a relationship".

Lol, I avoid a lot of clownish behavior in my life by imagining how my Dad would react if he was ever informed.

dudes post dropped alot of hints of where he is in life lol. Not even tryna diss as we all start somewhere but yeah
 

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:russ:Sorry breh I understand this is a serious situation but the way you dropped those two pieces of information together :mjlol:

If you don't want kids why would you have been with someone who has kids in the first place?
Never let a woman force you into a relationship breh just say no.

I had a situation a few years back when I was being pressured into committing.
Looking back I regret not going through with it slightly because I think she would have been a good GF, but I just wasn't ready at the time so it probably wouldn't have worked out.

But back to your dilemma, just be straight up.
Please believe if the shoe was on the other foot she would have no problem telling you it's over.
Women have no loyalty when It comes to their happiness, they won't give a second thought about your feelings.

One of my female friends canceled a date on a guy and didn’t think twice about it. Dude had to get a baby sitter and was probably think he finna get some ass. She canceled on him at the last minute cause she felt like it. Told her that’s just wrong hun. I can count on one hand how many women I’ve met who I felt truly had compassion.

y’all be careful out there
 

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Just started a new job making around $20.00 an hour. My current gf just don’t know I’m finna break up with her.

She basically forced me in a relationship & I just said “fukk it I’m bored so let’s do this :francis:

I tell everyone that I do not want kids so don’t even bring it up in any discussion. Cause I’m a shut that shyt down with the quickness.

Shorty got a daughter & a retarded baby daddy who refused to see his kid for an entire year. :francis:

Need help telling this woman I don’t want to be with her in the nicest way possible :snoop:
Y’all live together?
 

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Imagine being a grown man and telling your father some chick "forced you in to a relationship".

Lol, I avoid a lot of clownish behavior in my life by imagining how my Dad would react if he was ever informed.
I’ve been pressured by that what are we now talk, during my most vulnerable moment. Saturday night when my dikk is hard, ready to fukk.....
 
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