Well said. The me vs them mentality isn’t healthy but also good luck turning that off when you meet a decent chick with potential or decide you want too. Granted if you are just trying to play the field forever then that’s another thing but that doesn’t seem to be where brehs are coming from in here.Brehs. Been checking the thread for a few weeks now and i gotta go against the grain a little. It's not about being cold or mean to them. It's not about tricking them into doing stuff. And it's not about being angry with them either.
It's about setting healthy boundaries for yourself and fiercely enforcing them when they get violated. But not out of anger. This should be done out of love. There seems to be a lot of anger and resentment which i completely get, dont get me wrong. But anger is not the answer, love is (and i don't mean this in a corny way either). Whether she's a girl you just met and trying to pick up or your wife of 50 years, you should act out of measured and appropriate kind of love depending on the situation. Even when you check a girl or when you just bush her, your mindset shouldn't be "im punishing her". It should be instead "in not being treated like i want to be treated therefore in walking away so we can both find whatever we are looking for" and if she comes back you treat her in a way where she has to understand that the only way for her to be with you is to treat you right.
If you constantly have the mentality of "me vs. her" you will constantly attract women with the same mentality and will never find a girl that just wants to make your life easier. And trust, I had to learn that shyt the hard way so I'm not better. But please guys at least consider what I'm saying so you can maybe bypass a lot of the bs that comes with always being adversarial when it comes to women...