Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Guvnor]

You're referring to number 1?

IMO in general you need to keep a personal barrier for your private life. Only women who should gain entry is an official committed girl friend. This is for your sanity and safety. Unless you are in a committed relationship ALWAYS have options (whether it means having a social circle of women, or other productive things to keep you busy). You NEVER want to be in a position where you are so invested in someone that you become other than yourself to keep them entertained/feed their attention needs because modern women are literally energy vampires. Always be honest with yourself. We are humans, emotions is normal so dont try to act like you are boss player number 1 but you falling in love with someone. Nothing wrong with falling in love but be focused on what your goals are + if this person is worth committing to (spending time with people can tend to make you grow close to them even if they aren't best for you long term). If that person isn't worth committing to then pull back respectfully for the sake of you and that person.

Nah that was about number 2 should have been more clear.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Well why is a woman into women a red flag in general breh. I guess that’s more so my question.

As for her the second situation she told me she wants me to call and to be on her even more when she is like that but I just choose not to play into that shyt. If you wanna talk to me then talk but you ain’t gonna say I don’t wanna talk so I can talk to you more lol. It’s kinda like the way women say I’m fine when shyt really is wrong but they want you to dig deeper and try to fix the situation. @Lumumba this is how the situation is breh.

also what’s wrong with seeing a woman once a week? That’s usually how I do shyt lol.

this may be a toxic and ignorant statement I'm about to say but from my observation "bi sexual" women tend to be code for "I'm reckless and make bad decisions". All Women are sexually fluid sure, but 1 and done experiment is very diff than that back and forth stuff. It also creates another avenue for her to be unfaithful. If this was just a skeezer then you wouldn't care about none of that, but you clearly see something in her to consider the concepts of red flags, and having in the back of your head is this someone she is smashing or just a friend aint the move. The simple fact she using that "im selfish" excuse is a sign of how she views you, and would tread lightly because that screams "I make bad decisions to me". If someone is bout that sexual free spirit life they dont play the fence, so it's not worth even waisting your time.

 

[Guvnor]

this may be a toxic and ignorant statement I'm about to say but from my observation "bi sexual" women tend to be code for "I'm reckless and make bad decisions". All Women are sexually fluid sure, but 1 and done experiment is very diff than that back and forth stuff. It also creates another avenue for her to be unfaithful. If this was just a skeezer then you wouldn't care about none of that, but you clearly see something in her to consider the concepts of red flags, and having in the back of your head is this someone she is smashing or just a friend aint the move. The simple fact she using that "im selfish" excuse is a sign of how she views you, and would tread lightly because that screams "I make bad decisions to me". If someone is bout that sexual free spirit life they dont play the fence, so it's not worth even waisting your time.

Not at all breh, I would never wife this chick. When we first started talking I considered it but after that first red flag of her sending me the pics without us even talking on the phone or sexually it was a wrap. I just like her sexually and wanted to ask the brehs whether they felt a woman into women was a red flag or not.

For me it always was and I don’t like it personally but I just wanna hear other perspectives.

 

[Rozay Oro]

Fam. Almost everything you post in here is toxic AF. You need to see a therapist who can objectively show you where you are fukking up imo. Your response to everything that the girl does is "I'm going to cheat on her".

You are acting extremely insecure which is going to push away even the most down chicks, and you are reacting to things like a child. You clearly are not ready for a relationship and are a borderline alcoholic based on the amount of drunken posts you have on TheColi.

My guess is you have unresolved abandonment issues which causes you to be clingy with women and then lash out when your feelings aren't reciprocated. All of this corny shyt you are doing is pushing women away from you. Why are you even acting like you want a monogamous relationship with this women who isn't giving you the energy you want? Everyone in this thread has been in a situation where they felt like they weren't appreciated by a woman and knows what that feels like. It takes confidence and maturity to end things when that happens and know that you can find someone better.

Man up and end things with this chick if you feel like things are trash. Don't bytch about her in every other post or tell us how you're gonna cheat on her. If she aint giving you what you want, then let her go and find someone else.

Spoiler

Also, realize that until you fix all this toxic shyt, you might be able to get a woman, but you'll always have a lot of trouble keeping her.

I’m just talking shyt for a laugh and haven’t touched alcohol in weeks. I’m just playing it by ear with the current girl at the moment. I do wish things had gone my way with the previous girl I’ll admit that but that’s life. Other than that I’m chillin. If things do get further or not with current girl. Honestly it’s whatever at this point. As long as I can remain funny irl and to some on here. Just whatever. I should eventually see a therapist but not for that. I have different issues. Got a dope new laptop recently.

 

[Tr0yTV]

Funny how the posts in this thread apply to your life. I don’t even have to post half the time. I just skim a few pages and find solutions and sound advice that I can apply to my situation.

 

[Serious]

Well why is a woman into women a red flag in general breh. I guess that’s more so my question.

As for her the second situation she told me she wants me to call and to be on her even more when she is like that but I just choose not to play into that shyt. If you wanna talk to me then talk but you ain’t gonna say I don’t wanna talk so I can talk to you more lol. It’s kinda like the way women say I’m fine when shyt really is wrong but they want you to dig deeper and try to fix the situation. @Lumumba this is how the situation is breh.

also what’s wrong with seeing a woman once a week? That’s usually how I do shyt lol.

Women into women is problematic depending on how you play it. You just trying smash so just leave it at that.

don’t hurt your head.

Secondly I usually see a chick two or 3 times a week. I get seeing a chick once a week but that’s usually where you start running into that flaky behavior, especially when she suddenly gets busy. There could be a legit reason but just know if you really that dude a woman is going want to hear or see you, even if it’s at 2:35am on a Wednesday

 

[Vinny Lupton]

I do this as well

the Apple Watch has a feature that will let you ping your phone if you lose it.which I do all the time.

I'm droid gang and I can google "find my phone" and it will ring even on silent

 

[Serious]

Funny how the posts in this thread apply to your life. I don’t even have to post half the time. I just skim a few pages and find solutions and sound advice that I can apply to my situation.

Same story

 

[Rozay Oro]

Just joking on cheating. We are grown so do whatever at your own risk as long as it isn’t illegal nor violating territory. Good luck to everybody. Dating can be a bit ass tho. That’s it much love to my coli family. I like to joke too I’m not that fukked up.

 

[Guvnor]

Women into women is problematic depending on how you play it. You just trying smash so just leave it at that.

don’t hurt your head.

Secondly I usually see a chick two or 3 times a week. I get seeing a chick once a week but that’s usually where you start running into that flaky behavior, especially when she suddenly gets busy. There could be a legit reason but just know if you really that dude a woman is going want to hear or see you, even if it’s at 2:35am on a Wednesday

I hear you loud and clear on the women into women thing.

However when it comes to seeing a woman once a week I have a different line of thinking. To quote Jay Electronica familiarity breeds contempt. If I see her once a week she will yearn to see me more and that’s what I want. However if I see her more than once a week in the beginning I feel a woman will start to get annoying and then she will take you for granted and shyt or start arguments about stupidity. You want them trying to be clingy to you and don’t want to cling to them or else they start to look at you like they got you and that’s not where you want to be.

The only rare instance I’ll go out with a woman twice in a week is if it’s wifey and we been down for months but most of the women I’m talking too right now are new situations less then a month old. Three times in a week is even rarer.

 

[Killigraphy]

Alright brehs I got two scenarios I need advice on..

1.So me and this chick met on a dating app. We were talking and before I even met her she was sending me naked pics and stuff like that without me even asking or speaking to her sexually like that or even a phone call really. To me that was a red flag out the gate and a clear sign to never ever wife her but moving past that we met up and on the first date we went out for food then to a bar and I smashed it at a hotel. Second meeting she rented out a bnb and I smashed it again, I forgot my lunch there and she brought it to me. Third meeting we just chilled but during our conversation she told me when she was in college playing rugby she used to make out with girls whole drunk and she even has a close female friend she has sex with from time to time but when in a relationship with a man that stops. She was honest and told me this. When I brought up a threesome she denied it at first and was hesitant claiming she was self fish but said she would consider it for my birthday.

Is the women into women thing a red flag for y’all? When it is not?

Either way I’m thinking about keeping this one around for awhile cause she super nasty but doubt I’ll ever get serious with her. Just don’t think it’ll be wise lol.

2.This chick I’m talking too, the one I spoke about before who saw me as different is now being distant and I think she is going through some things emotionally. Her game from what I can figure is she wants me to blow past her telling me she isn’t in a talking mood so that I would call her and make sure she is alright, basically she wants more of my attention and I found this out by her own admission during a phone call. We usually see each other once a week but this month she has meetings she has to attend for this group she is in so we only saw each other once so far for the month. So Yesterday she said she had a bad attitude and didn’t wanna speak much via text and today she send a text asking if we have beef.

How would I respond? It’s been a few hours.

1. Its a red flag, but nothing too serious, sounds like shes young? And is in her hoe phase, which is a beautiful time for both of you....HOWEVER, wear a condom fella, women like this will definitely get something and pregnant is the lowest tier on that list. Either way, wear Jimmy Hat.

2. Ice her, basically a bit of behavioral psychology goes a long way. Positive reinforcement is a lovely maneuver. As for icing, make it a week long without communication whenever she does anything bad. Make her get more attention from you, by giving you all of hers.

 

[RealAssanova]

Alright brehs I got two scenarios I need advice on..

1.So me and this chick met on a dating app. We were talking and before I even met her she was sending me naked pics and stuff like that without me even asking or speaking to her sexually like that or even a phone call really. To me that was a red flag out the gate and a clear sign to never ever wife her but moving past that we met up and on the first date we went out for food then to a bar and I smashed it at a hotel. Second meeting she rented out a bnb and I smashed it again, I forgot my lunch there and she brought it to me. Third meeting we just chilled but during our conversation she told me when she was in college playing rugby she used to make out with girls whole drunk and she even has a close female friend she has sex with from time to time but when in a relationship with a man that stops. She was honest and told me this. When I brought up a threesome she denied it at first and was hesitant claiming she was self fish but said she would consider it for my birthday.

Is the women into women thing a red flag for y’all? When it is not?

Either way I’m thinking about keeping this one around for awhile cause she super nasty but doubt I’ll ever get serious with her. Just don’t think it’ll be wise lol.

2.This chick I’m talking too, the one I spoke about before who saw me as different is now being distant and I think she is going through some things emotionally. Her game from what I can figure is she wants me to blow past her telling me she isn’t in a talking mood so that I would call her and make sure she is alright, basically she wants more of my attention and I found this out by her own admission during a phone call. We usually see each other once a week but this month she has meetings she has to attend for this group she is in so we only saw each other once so far for the month. So Yesterday she said she had a bad attitude and didn’t wanna speak much via text and today she send a text asking if we have beef.

How would I respond? It’s been a few hours.

Shorty #1 u already answered for yourself.
Shorty #2...demote her to just someone u smash if she comes back to you. Nothing above that. Which means no dates, no chit chat, nada. She hits u up? Slide her the address and tell her to come thru. Nothin more. If there is any resistance, ignore the text.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Women into women is problematic depending on how you play it. You just trying smash so just leave it at that.

don’t hurt your head.

Secondly I usually see a chick two or 3 times a week. I get seeing a chick once a week but that’s usually where you start running into that flaky behavior, especially when she suddenly gets busy. There could be a legit reason but just know if you really that dude a woman is going want to hear or see you, even if it’s at 2:35am on a Wednesday

2-3 times for one person I assume you keep a small rotation if any rotation at all?

 

[Turbulent]

Alright brehs I got two scenarios I need advice on..

1.So me and this chick met on a dating app. We were talking and before I even met her she was sending me naked pics and stuff like that without me even asking or speaking to her sexually like that or even a phone call really. To me that was a red flag out the gate and a clear sign to never ever wife her but moving past that we met up and on the first date we went out for food then to a bar and I smashed it at a hotel. Second meeting she rented out a bnb and I smashed it again, I forgot my lunch there and she brought it to me. Third meeting we just chilled but during our conversation she told me when she was in college playing rugby she used to make out with girls whole drunk and she even has a close female friend she has sex with from time to time but when in a relationship with a man that stops. She was honest and told me this. When I brought up a threesome she denied it at first and was hesitant claiming she was self fish but said she would consider it for my birthday.

Is the women into women thing a red flag for y’all? When it is not?

Either way I’m thinking about keeping this one around for awhile cause she super nasty but doubt I’ll ever get serious with her. Just don’t think it’ll be wise lol.

2.This chick I’m talking too, the one I spoke about before who saw me as different is now being distant and I think she is going through some things emotionally. Her game from what I can figure is she wants me to blow past her telling me she isn’t in a talking mood so that I would call her and make sure she is alright, basically she wants more of my attention and I found this out by her own admission during a phone call. We usually see each other once a week but this month she has meetings she has to attend for this group she is in so we only saw each other once so far for the month. So Yesterday she said she had a bad attitude and didn’t wanna speak much via text and today she send a text asking if we have beef.

How would I respond? It’s been a few hours.

Keep hanging out with #1 but don't wife ever.

Girl #2 stop texting so much. Use the phone strictly for setting meetups. Without telling her explicitly, get her used to the idea that the only way she can get some of your attention is in person. As far as what to respond, just tell her "not at all, why?" 2 or 3 exchanges then set up a meet. If she gices you the run around, tell her it's all good and to let you know when she is free then get ofc the phone. If you already tried to set it up two times, don't even invite her. Just be cordisl and after 2-3 exchanges, tell her you gotta go but keep in touch then get off the phone. Everytime she contacts do a variation of this. Either she will phase out or she will bring up meeting.

 

[Neuromancer]

I'm just getting back into this whole thing. I don't even know if I'm the woman I'm feelings type but e
We have a lot in common and can chat for hours.