Alright brehs I got two scenarios I need advice on..
1.So me and this chick met on a dating app. We were talking and before I even met her she was sending me naked pics and stuff like that without me even asking or speaking to her sexually like that or even a phone call really. To me that was a red flag out the gate and a clear sign to never ever wife her but moving past that we met up and on the first date we went out for food then to a bar and I smashed it at a hotel. Second meeting she rented out a bnb and I smashed it again, I forgot my lunch there and she brought it to me. Third meeting we just chilled but during our conversation she told me when she was in college playing rugby she used to make out with girls whole drunk and she even has a close female friend she has sex with from time to time but when in a relationship with a man that stops. She was honest and told me this. When I brought up a threesome she denied it at first and was hesitant claiming she was self fish but said she would consider it for my birthday.
Is the women into women thing a red flag for y’all? When it is not?
Either way I’m thinking about keeping this one around for awhile cause she super nasty but doubt I’ll ever get serious with her. Just don’t think it’ll be wise lol.
I think she was saying that stuff to prove how much of a freak she is, and then when you asked her to bring her friend, she felt some type of way about you wanting to fukk her friend.
Who someone fukks has nothing to do with their morals imo. The fact that she brags about sleeping with women is a little suspect imo. Seems like she's doing it for attention instead of actually being into it, kinda like a homie that will smash a chick for bragging rights.
To me, it's only a red flag if it disrupts our time together. Like trying to holler at chicks if me and her are just kicking it 1-on-1.
2.This chick I’m talking too, the one I spoke about before who saw me as different is now being distant and I think she is going through some things emotionally. Her game from what I can figure is she wants me to blow past her telling me she isn’t in a talking mood so that I would call her and make sure she is alright, basically she wants more of my attention and I found this out by her own admission during a phone call. We usually see each other once a week but this month she has meetings she has to attend for this group she is in so we only saw each other once so far for the month. So Yesterday she said she had a bad attitude and didn’t wanna speak much via text and today she send a text asking if we have beef.
How would I respond? It’s been a few hours.
It's probably too late, but I'd say link up face to face and have a convo for her to actually spell out what she wants and how she feels. Tell her that you are both grown so she needs to say what she means, because this whole "pushing you away while hoping you get closer" thing is going to get boring quick. Those aren't really mature moves for someone you want to keep in your life, even if she aint wifey.
I’m 21 that shyt is devastating
