Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Max.]

Nah breh cancel with 15 min means someone better hit her up have some self respect

This plus shorty was probably mulling over flaking all day....textn her friends about it...

We all take L's...last year met up with this fake hippie bytch and she told me she didnt feel a connection...when the whole date she was smiling n laughing...

 

[360dagod]

I been there before bruh...

You gonna have to ignore the shyt tests and see where it the chips fall...

 

[Max.]

Anyone see anything wrong with this?

Keep in mind I'm turning 30 this year and she 41.

For me personally, I'm peeping out a few subtle contradictions as well as some presumptuousness regarding my age. And a little bit of hypergamous thirst.

1) she looks fat...does she have kids?
2)she 41 n askn u to be all this n that
3) just move on

 

[360dagod]

This dude asked some 43 year old FWB to be his wife lmaoo

Had the bytch when she was 40...bustn nuts all over her face...fukkn her ass...givn me $$$...

GMB brehs

Damn bruh

As long as she happy

 

[Macallik86]

This I wanna know too.

Prolly one of those "family emergency" ass bytches.

Meanwhile some nikka ran through and she riding dude's face like a western.

Yeah it was a family emergency line



My point is that when I only have my perception of what happened, I realize that is not the whole story. I have been the guy who felt disrespected when a woman takes to long to respond to texts or rescheduled a date... at the time I thought it was me showing how much I value my time, but was actually just me cutting people off who weren't proving themselves to me at every step of the way.

On the flipside, I've had instances where a chick ghosted me on Tinder and then I bump into her at the club and smash that night. I've had chicks that canceled on the first date when I'm actually at the venue, and then I smash the next time I saw her and she fell hard for me, etc. I wouldn't have gotten laid in the future if I overreacted in the past. Additionally, even big cities gets pretty small when you start racking up bodies, so eventually you will need your reputation to stand for itself or women will start talking down on your name when they realize their friend is thinking about going out for drinks with you. I've smashed chicks because they've heard about me moving around, and I've lost chicks when they felt like I did their friend dirty.

My point is not to be a doormat out here, but to give people the benefit of the doubt and be mature about it and you will get laid more often. I'm not in this thread trying to figure out how to date or because I don't get laid enough. I'm just in here to chop it up with other dudes out here in these streets.

 

[Macallik86]

are you still taking her out? shed be reduced to coming over to the crib at that point

She rescheduled for Wednesday when she canceled. It is definitely possible that she flakes again for the record, but fwiw, in my experience, girls that reschedule as they flake are interested in linking up fwiw.

As for your suggestion about making her come to the crib.... To me, it's about probabilities. Maybe it's because I don't spend a lot of time getting to know women before I invite them out for drinks, but very few of the women I meet are interested in coming to the crib for a first date, and so when they feel like that's the only option for us to hang out (it sounds almost like a punishment for flaking in this context), it was pretty low probability when I did it years ago.

When you break it down, my guess is that most women flake because they aren't sure how attracted they are to you, something else came up, or that they dunno if they will have a good time. If they feel those things about a public link-up, chances are they feel even more uncertainty about meeting you directly at the crib and so it's really a low probability hail mary. FWIW, you will weed out a lot of chicks that aint DTF ASAP, but there are girls that might have needed a little convo and drinks before making it to the crib that you will miss out on.

If we do link up Wednesday, we are going for drinks at a bar that is a five minute walk from my crib. She doesn't know the bar is that close to my crib, but usually after a few drinks, I mention it and then invite her for a night cap and see what happens

 

[DapMeUp!]

Yeah it was a family emergency line



My point is that when I only have my perception of what happened, I realize that is not the whole story. I have been the guy who felt disrespected when a woman takes to long to respond to texts or rescheduled a date... at the time I thought it was me showing how much I value my time, but was actually just me cutting people off who weren't proving themselves to me at every step of the way.

On the flipside, I've had instances where a chick ghosted me on Tinder and then I bump into her at the club and smash that night. I've had chicks that canceled on the first date when I'm actually at the venue, and then I smash the next time I saw her and she fell hard for me, etc. I wouldn't have gotten laid in the future if I overreacted in the past. Additionally, even big cities gets pretty small when you start racking up bodies, so eventually you will need your reputation to stand for itself or women will start talking down on your name when they realize their friend is thinking about going out for drinks with you. I've smashed chicks because they've heard about me moving around, and I've lost chicks when they felt like I did their friend dirty.

My point is not to be a doormat out here, but to give people the benefit of the doubt and be mature about it and you will get laid more often. I'm not in this thread trying to figure out how to date or because I don't get laid enough. I'm just in here to chop it up with other dudes out here in these streets.

I was going to write this to another post in here, but since it was your dilemma....Breh I have had the same situations where I have been ghosted or have been flaked on. I bump into them next time and I end up smashing...

But that really isn't the point. In my experience it's just not worth the trouble in the end.
Once they display flakiness I find that is usually a fixed character trait on their part. At some point that creeps back up and I'm not trying to deal with that.

It's up to you though breh...It's a matter of principles for me.
The possibility of getting laid doesn't outweigh the disrespect of flaking 15 Mins before a date on Valentines Day for me.

 

[Atlrocafella]

Their inboxes are flooded and so they do low effort messaging and turn off a lot of guys. Aint nothing else popping due to covid tho.

Clubs, bars, cold approaching are what evens the odds though. There are plenty of dudes sliding in DMs on apps but can't keep a convo going IRL. Gotta just work with what you got for the time being and fine tune what you can with your game until summertime.

I've talked to my homies about it... This summer is going to be like a movie imo. Most of the population has been stuck in the house and so people are going to be thirsty to get out there and party and turn up for months. I think it's gonna be like Spring break for adults.

Personally, I advise everyone to work on their confidence and get in shape now so that they are operating at 100% when things start popping. It'll be a once in a century season of partying. People probably haven't been this ready to turn up since the 1918 Flu or the end of Prohibition.

Yep. I been saying summer 2021 is going to be the for the books. There will be a party every got damn day, flights and hotels will be full, and everyone is going to be outside

 

[MikelArteta]

Would she have flaked if it was trey songz or Chris brown

people will flake on a McDonald’s interview but they will walk through snow and sleet for a senior director at kpmg

 

[Apollo Creed]

Yep. I been saying summer 2021 is going to be the for the books. There will be a party every got damn day, flights and hotels will be full, and everyone is going to be outside

lol this why I'm like brehs need to get in shape and stack their bread. I dont think it will be this summer but more so 2022.

 

[Cynic]

She canceled with a reason and a reschedule date so I'm not sweating it. In terms of first dates ending up at the crib, I honestly think I'm batting like .600, so as long as they eventually show up, things usually go on autopilot from there. (I have started jotting down convo ideas pre-date since I'm a little rusty tho, ngl)

Stand her up.

 

[Atlrocafella]

Would she have flaked if it was trey songz or Chris brown

people will flake on a McDonald’s interview but they will walk through snow and sleet for a senior director at kpmg

I remember you saying this a long time ago and It still sticks with me whenever a chick flakes on me.

lol this why I'm like brehs need to get in shape and stack their bread. I dont think it will be this summer but more so 2022.

Cities/states already relaxing their covid restrictions, Vegas about to be open in full before April. I think you should get ready for summer 2021 breh, I don’t want you to get left out while everyone is eating

 

[Apollo Creed]

I remember you saying this a long time ago and It still sticks with me whenever a chick flakes on me.



Cities/states already relaxing their covid restrictions, Vegas about to be open in full before April. I think you should get ready for summer 2021 breh, I don’t want you to get left out while everyone is eating

oh nah im going to be traveling im just saying “wide open”. I still feel things will be a bit dialed down but more open than present.

 

[Turbulent]

Yeah it was a family emergency line



My point is that when I only have my perception of what happened, I realize that is not the whole story. I have been the guy who felt disrespected when a woman takes to long to respond to texts or rescheduled a date... at the time I thought it was me showing how much I value my time, but was actually just me cutting people off who weren't proving themselves to me at every step of the way.

On the flipside, I've had instances where a chick ghosted me on Tinder and then I bump into her at the club and smash that night. I've had chicks that canceled on the first date when I'm actually at the venue, and then I smash the next time I saw her and she fell hard for me, etc. I wouldn't have gotten laid in the future if I overreacted in the past. Additionally, even big cities gets pretty small when you start racking up bodies, so eventually you will need your reputation to stand for itself or women will start talking down on your name when they realize their friend is thinking about going out for drinks with you. I've smashed chicks because they've heard about me moving around, and I've lost chicks when they felt like I did their friend dirty.

My point is not to be a doormat out here, but to give people the benefit of the doubt and be mature about it and you will get laid more often. I'm not in this thread trying to figure out how to date or because I don't get laid enough. I'm just in here to chop it up with other dudes out here in these streets.

word. I think it's about trusting your gut. Just a few questions, when she cancelled, did she seem very apologetic and is she the one who brought up the rescheduling? When you guys were rescheduling, was she accommodating towards your schedule? Basically, was she going out of her way to show she knows it looks bad and that she is still very interested?

 

[TRUEST]

word. I think it's about trusting your gut. Just a few questions, when she cancelled, did she seem very apologetic and is she the one who brought up the rescheduling? When you guys were rescheduling, was she accommodating towards your schedule? Basically, was she going out of her way to show she knows it looks bad and that she is still very interested?

Smart line of questions.