Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ahadi]

Watching a YouTube video and this joint was going on about “spending v-day by herself, I CHOSE to spend Valentine’s with myself and loving herself, and blah blah” then she’s like “oh my boyfriend called me, he wants to surprise me, he doesn’t like to be on camera tho”



Women always have somebody.

 

[Apollo Creed]

She rescheduled for Wednesday so I'm keeping my mind clear and assuming the best. For a second, I felt frustrated but aint no point in assuming the worst and reacting poorly when a flake happens. I've projected my own insecurities into similar situations before and ended up looking like a lame.

If it happens again, I probably will delete the #, but she gets a pass for now (even tho it's sus to do it last minute)

never delete or block a chick, unless she is spamming you. Just dont respond when you choose to cut her off, but you want to keep note of who is behind a phone number for future reasons.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Watching a YouTube video and this joint was going on about “spending v-day by herself, I CHOSE to spend Valentine’s with myself and loving herself, and blah blah” then she’s like “oh my boyfriend called me, he wants to surprise me, he doesn’t like to be on camera tho”



Women always have somebody.

When Chinese kids are studying us 100 years from now when they rule the world, this era is going to be hilarious

 

[Silkk]

She canceled with a reason and a reschedule date so I'm not sweating it. In terms of first dates ending up at the crib, I honestly think I'm batting like .600, so as long as they eventually show up, things usually go on autopilot from there. (I have started jotting down convo ideas pre-date since I'm a little rusty tho, ngl)

She flaked on you 15 minutes before the link on Valentines Day..........

 

[Silkk]

never delete or block a chick, unless she is spamming you. Just dont respond when you choose to cut her off, but you want to keep note of who is behind a phone number for future reasons.

fukk all that. Life too short to be giving time to people who don't appreciate it. Flaking 15 minutes beforehand is disrespectful to him and his time. She would've been blocked tonight.

 

[Apollo Creed]

fukk all that. Life too short to be giving time to people who don't appreciate it. Flaking 15 minutes beforehand is disrespectful to him and his time. She would've been blocked tonight.

I'm saying don't block so you can get a laugh out of her reaching back out.

 

[Silkk]

I'm saying don't block so you can get a laugh out of her reaching back out.

That may or may never come. Level up and just make her regret playing games.

 

[Squirtle]

I'm saying don't block so you can get a laugh out of her reaching back out.

I get your point, but the point of cutting off a chick is because we dont give a fukk about whether she hits us up or not. We moved on. You are telling him not to block her in case she hits him up so he can laugh but that defeats the whole point.

 

[DJSmooth]

She rescheduled for Wednesday so I'm keeping my mind clear and assuming the best. For a second, I felt frustrated but aint no point in assuming the worst and reacting poorly when a flake happens. I've projected my own insecurities into similar situations before and ended up looking like a lame.

If it happens again, I probably will delete the #, but she gets a pass for now (even tho it's sus to do it last minute)

Bushes ain't no rescheduling 15 mins before on Valentines day.

 

[Mandarin Duck]

So here's a question for you guys with online dating experience.

Where do you meet up after talking online?

How about if it's just something quick like a one night stand?

I have my own place but idk if you tell them to come over or you go there cuz I ain't tryna get robbed.

I uploaded more pictures and I'm getting better responses now.

A woman told me I was sexy and I got confused cuz I thought maybe she was on somebody else profile

Then I say "thank you"

 

[DJSmooth]

So here's a question for you guys with online dating experience.

Where do you meet up after talking online?

How about if it's just something quick like a one night stand?

I have my own place but idk if you tell them to come over or you go there cuz I ain't tryna get robbed.

I uploaded more pictures and I'm getting better responses now.

A woman told me I was sexy and I got confused cuz I thought maybe she was on somebody else profile

Then I say "thank you"

If it's a one night stand thing and you don't want to take her back to your place just get an Airbnb or hotel room.

 

[Mandarin Duck]

If it's a one night stand thing and you don't want to take her back to your place just get an Airbnb or hotel room.

What about more serious than a one night stand?.

I've had a few convos that are starting to build up to meeting in person.

 

[DaRealness]

Nah breh cancel with 15 min means someone better hit her up have some self respect

She flaked on you 15 minutes before the link on Valentines Day..........

fukk all that. Life too short to be giving time to people who don't appreciate it. Flaking 15 minutes beforehand is disrespectful to him and his time. She would've been blocked tonight.

I get your point, but the point of cutting off a chick is because we dont give a fukk about whether she hits us up or not. We moved on. You are telling him not to block her in case she hits him up so he can laugh but that defeats the whole point.

Bushes ain't no rescheduling 15 mins before on Valentines day.

All this.

You see this is the shyt I'm talking about.

Nah, cancelling a date 15 minutes before is disrespectful and a HUGE red flag. You take the time out to get dressed and prepare, for what? The fukk was there for her to do on a Sunday during a pandemic why she had to cancel at the last minute?

I used to be the same way at one point - giving the benefit of the doubt, not wanting to look sensitive and being the "oh ok I understand" nice guy type doing all types of mental gymnastics trying to justify it on their behalf etc despite what my gut was telling me.....and each and every time it didn't work out. Ain't no reset button for this.

fukk Wednesday. The date was for today. I might have work or studying to do.

It's not about being 'HOH' or "insecure", it's about self respect and boundaries. You try pulling that shyt right before a job interview and tell them you ain't coming 15 minutes before but you can do Wednesday instead and 9 times out of 10 they'll tell you to kick rocks.

Give people an inch and they'll take a yard. And no, it's not some tactic to make them beg to give them another chance. It's things like this that set a negative precedent and shows you their character and you better pay attention to it and not sweep it under the rug.

If she was really interested, nothing would have got in the way, especially not no damn 15 minutes before.

And yes, you have to be zero tolerance.

 

[YOGEBEAR09]

Come on mane, she canceled with you 15 minutes before ... on Valentines Day. You know whats good, cancel shawty

 

[VertigoKnight]

Yeah 15 mins before is some flagrantly disrespectful shyt.

You hit me up a few hrs before to rearrange, ok. I know early and can do something else.
But she had all day to let you know. And she thinks so little of you, that she pulls this.

A woman will usually spend most of the day readying herself for the date. For her to say fuxk it with 15 mins to go, meant she either was never coming or someone gave her a better invite. Either of those options is not a good place to be.

The fact she thought so little of your time would push her to bushes status for me.