Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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it breaks my heart to read shyt like this.

his girl is cheating on him and he instinctively knows it. i mean just reading this i can see that this man has tolerated so much disrespect from his woman that she's running wild on him now. he has no hope to salvage the relationship but he doesn't have enough self-esteem and pride to walk away.

the majority of the time if a woman is cheating on you the respect is already gone. relationships mostly boil down to power and respect. both of those are like two sides to the same coin and if either one is missing on the man's part the relationship is over. you can't talk to her after the fact and regain either of them once they're gone.
 

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it breaks my heart to read shyt like this.

his girl is cheating on him and he instinctively knows it. i mean just reading this i can see that this man has tolerated so much disrespect from his woman that she's running wild on him now. he has no hope to salvage the relationship but he doesn't have enough self-esteem and pride to walk away.

the majority of the time if a woman is cheating on you the respect is already gone. relationships mostly boil down to power and respect. both of those are like two sides to the same coin and if either one is missing on the man's part the relationship is over. you can't talk to her after the fact and regain either of them once they're gone.

If you read the comments in that article, you will see women and simp negroes trying to shame the dude. here is one of those comments:

And being paranoid and accusatory at the first glimmer of doubt is a great way to be an abusive partner.
Edit: or to get yourself dumped if your partner has sufficient self-respect.

this is definitely a woman that posted that and some dude that didn't know better would be like, uh well you're right. I'll try and trust my baby. It's pretty disgusting the level of manipulation women can engage in.
 

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Think I'm going to end it with my girl pretty soon. I'm tired of the fussing and before we get in too deep, I think we need to just shut it down. We pretty much live together and we been in the same place all day and haven't said a single word to each other. I'm not feeling all this tension. Crazy part is, it's ALWAYS her fault. I don't say anything or care about anything, but she's always popping off about dumb shyt. The argument we had last night as so ridiculous that I feel stupid even talking about it.
 
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it breaks my heart to read shyt like this.

his girl is cheating on him and he instinctively knows it. i mean just reading this i can see that this man has tolerated so much disrespect from his woman that she's running wild on him now. he has no hope to salvage the relationship but he doesn't have enough self-esteem and pride to walk away.

the majority of the time if a woman is cheating on you the respect is already gone. relationships mostly boil down to power and respect. both of those are like two sides to the same coin and if either one is missing on the man's part the relationship is over. you can't talk to her after the fact and regain either of them once they're gone.

Whats worse is the simp comments and the blue pill lives that most of those people live.

"Maybe they both really like movies"

Someone actually said that shyt.
 

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This guy is on a roll. I honestly feel offended reading his posts.

Yeah, I'm not really comfortable sharing my own story. But suffice it to say, I have some pretty strong feelings on the subject. I have little patience for men who disrespect single mothers. And even less for men who disparage other men for being good fathers or step-fathers. And absolutely zero for men who walk out. F that S.

OP, you don't have to marry this girl. You don't have to become Cliff Huxtable. But you do owe it to yourself, the boy, and his mom to be a good man. Whatever that entails. Sounds like you're doing great. Don't listen to these people telling you you need to do this or need to do that. Just trust yourself and do your best. There's no script for how to handle these situations.

:what::mindblown:
 

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after I finish up a few things, I'm going to attack this subject of simps and a few other issues.
 

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If a woman doesn't have a good relationship with her dad, she will likely be highly combative.

If you think she did something wrong and her story doesn't add up, keep questioning her. Never accept an answer that doesn't add up just because it feels good.

Women that you only want to chill with don't need to meet your people.

Always give her your number first. If she goes out of her way to call(not text), then she is ready to take the game further.

You sound like one of them :ld:
 

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My girlfriend has been hanging out with a childhood friend of hers lately. I have no problem with this, but recently she has been staying at his place until the evening and sometimes comes home pretty late

That IMO alone is a reason to cut her off. I don't care if they both came out the sandbox together, the fukk is she doing hanging out with another dude all hours of the night? When you're in a relationship, the dynamics of interaction with the opposite sex change.

I'm sorry, but dudes really need to start toughening up. She clearly doesn't respect him at all and why would she? He's not demanding it. The mere fact she even feels the need to do that shows she doesn't value him because if she did, she'd bring her boyfriend along and even get him and the dude to become friends with each other. What if he hung out with a chick he grew up with? What will the same people be saying then?

All the people lambasting him in the comment section are full of shyt because they know damn well she's cheating and the signs couldn't be more obvious. What woman is really gonna stop a dude engaging in foreplay/oral sex (and even feeling uncomfortable about it) but is ok going straight to full sex? When does that ever happen? If you're with someone for four years that's more than enough time to know their body and how it works.

He sounds like he's broken down but the worse thing to happen would be to stay with someone who breaks your spirit because no doubt she and this dude are laughing at him behind his back.

Personally, I would just seize the power and kick her to the curb and not say shyt to her afterwards.
 

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If you read the comments in that article, you will see women and simp negroes trying to shame the dude. here is one of those comments:



this is definitely a woman that posted that and some dude that didn't know better would be like, uh well you're right. I'll try and trust my baby. It's pretty disgusting the level of manipulation women can engage in.

still does this guy honestly think that sitting down to talk it out with a women that's obviously cheating on him will accomplish anything?

like he's gonna be the first guy that to talk down his girlfriend who decided to screw around on him because she valued their relationship less than she values getting her back blown out by the next man. its like he thinks confronting her about her cheating will correct the behavior that's undesirable to him.

all he really needs to say is tell her he knows what he's doing and he's leaving her but this is a man that's so powerless because he's surrendered all his personal power that she's probably gonna have to dump him for the relationship to end. he doesn't even have the power to end it on his own terms and that's probably why she's cheating.
 

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My girlfriend has been hanging out with a childhood friend of hers lately. I have no problem with this, but recently she has been staying at his place until the evening and sometimes comes home pretty late

That IMO alone is a reason to cut her off. I don't care if they both came out the sandbox together, the fukk is she doing hanging out with another dude all hours of the night? When you're in a relationship, the dynamics of interaction with the opposite sex change.

I'm sorry, but dudes really need to start toughening up. She clearly doesn't respect him at all and why would she? He's not demanding it. The mere fact she even feels the need to do that shows she doesn't value him because if she did, she'd bring her boyfriend along and even get him and the dude to become friends with each other. What if he hung out with a chick he grew up with? What will the same people be saying then?

All the people lambasting him in the comment section are full of shyt because they know damn well she's cheating and the signs couldn't be more obvious. What woman is really gonna stop a dude engaging in foreplay/oral sex (and even feeling uncomfortable about it) but is ok going straight to full sex? When does that ever happen? If you're with someone for four years that's more than enough time to know their body and how it works.

He sounds like he's broken down but the worse thing to happen would be to stay with someone who breaks your spirit because no doubt she and this dude are laughing at him behind his back.

Personally, I would just seize the power and kick her to the curb and not say shyt to her afterwards.
we've gotten to the point of inception level simpin. simpin thoughts planted in the mind of men by women. when dudes are inception level simpin their girl is going over another man's house "to watch movies" or whatever and he's ok with it because he trust her. she's going to the club on girl's nights out and he's cool with that cause he trust her.

trust is not something given away freely because you're scared of facing the truth and its easier to bury your head in the sand and call that trust. that's just a man being afraid of his woman, that man is a powerless coward that doesn't deserve respect because he doesn't demand it.

no woman, no piece of ass is worth a man's dignity but i guess when he doesn't have any then a woman is worth anything to him.
 

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Think I'm going to end it with my girl pretty soon. I'm tired of the fussing and before we get in too deep, I think we need to just shut it down. We pretty much live together and we been in the same place all day and haven't said a single word to each other. I'm not feeling all this tension. Crazy part is, it's ALWAYS her fault. I don't say anything or care about anything, but she's always popping off about dumb shyt. The argument we had last night as so ridiculous that I feel stupid even talking about it.


Seems like your frustration has let you to shut down. So you desire to end it based upon emotions or facts? If you didn't care honey, you would have dropped her long ago:stopitslime:.
 

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I read the comments for that second link. It looks like there are many guys out there that are aware and not willing to give up their dollar for a penny.
 

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Seems like your frustration has let you to shut down. So you desire to end it based upon emotions or facts? If you didn't care honey, you would have dropped her long ago:stopitslime:.
arguing about dumb shyt is always a good reason to terminate a relationship. a man should never argue with a woman anyway. he says what he has to say and beyond that if she wants to keep talking she needs to go argue with one of her girlfriends.
 

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arguing about dumb shyt is always a good reason to terminate a relationship. a man should never argue with a woman anyway. he says what he has to say and beyond that if she wants to keep talking she needs to go argue with one of her girlfriends.

Yea, I'm not one to argue. Maybe you should talk to her about it when things calm down. However, couples argue- thats normal. Ya'll clearly have differernt ways of communicating but she also needs to choose her battles and not expect you to indulge in her arguementativeness.

whether you stay with her or not is up to you. But if there isn't very much keeping you together as it is, making that move in the opposite direction may not be that bad. :manny:
 
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