Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Actually6Foot3]

it’s tricky. The 18-22 will play around a lot.... 27-30+ want something serious. What’s the best age group?

pretty much.

shyt is annoying. Tbh it's why I go for younger. Older always want to drill you with questions about "what are you looking for? " "Where do you see yourself in 5 years" blah blah.

Younger you can hit a happy hour and probably smash. It seems after 25 they start to look toward settling down. I always hear the "biological clock" nonsense. It's funny because they almost never want to date an older man but I've told women on dates that if they want a dude who is 100% relationship focused they should.

When they ask me "what are you looking for?" I say I'm open to everything." Or " if I find her who am I to deny fate"

they hate that shyt. They want me to say right then and there that I'm looking for a wife or some shyt.

21-24 is the best imo. Only a year or so out of college some will still be in college. They still feel young and you can get away with smashing multiple times without ever having the "what are you looking for?" Talk before hand.

Had a 23 year on the first link two weeks ago. She's been coming over every couple days to cook, clean and take dikk. Meeting up with a new 23 y.o tonight for happy hour. She saw pics of my dog and says she wants to meet him. Don't even have to worry about convincing her to come back to the crib so long as the vibes match in person it should be Curry at the freethrow line.

 

[Rich Spirit]

I have better success meeting women in social settings/groups than online. I don’t really like taking pictures like that.

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

Girl works 2 jobs so she says she can probably meet next Thursday. I am not sure how to keep things going before then. I also don't like when someone says they can probably meet on such and such date. I don't like communicating too much before or in between dates but we haven't met up yet and in 6 days who knows what can happen with women. Do I just do no contact until like Tuesday? Reading this thread made me realize you gotta go with the flow and deal with the ones that are interested in you and don't chase. I guess I just answered my own question lol.

 

[Actually6Foot3]

Girl works 2 jobs so she says she can probably meet next Thursday. I am not sure how to keep things going before then. I also don't like when someone says they can probably meet on such and such date. I don't like communicating too much before or in between dates but we haven't met up yet and in 6 days who knows what can happen with women. Do I just do no contact until like Tuesday? Reading this thread made me realize you gotta go with the flow and deal with the ones that are interested in you and don't chase. I guess I just answered my own question lol.

not her up on Tuesday or so. Nothing needs to be said before then. You can touch base on Sunday saying something regarding the Superbowl if you'd like And in that case I'd wait till Wednesday afternoon to reach out again to confirm Thursday.

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

not her up on Tuesday or so. Nothing needs to be said before then. You can touch base on Sunday saying something regarding the Superbowl if you'd like And in that case I'd wait till Wednesday afternoon to reach out again to confirm Thursday.

I had some time this Saturday and she said she was free then so meeting up on Saturday instead. If we were gonna meet up Thursday I would do what you suggested. I didn't even ask for her number just talking through hinge. Not asking for the number has been helping, I think some girls are sooner to go ghost when you ask for a number cause of how the world is today.

 

[Actually6Foot3]

I had some time this Saturday and she said she was free then so meeting up on Saturday instead. If we were gonna meet up Thursday I would do what you suggested. I didn't even ask for her number just talking through hinge. Not asking for the number has been helping, I think some girls are sooner to go ghost when you ask for a number cause of how the world is today.

ehhh idk I get the number fairly quickly. I'd rather move the conversation off the app asap because it gives you an identity. You move from being just another hinge convo to being "Tommy Lee Jones" in her phone(if she finds you attractive and liked the convo she'll save your # immediately) and If they're willing to meet you, they're willing to give you their number LOL. Just the way I see. Besides it helps with logistics I.e of someone is running late, etc. Some of these chics do not have notifications on for the app too so you might be waiting for a reply where as a nikka like me is texting her or facetiming her already

Next time you suggest a date and they accept immediately ask for the number right after.

For me I say

"Id like to see you. We should grab a drink sometime. What's your schedule like?"

That gives them an out to say "I'm busy, I don't have much time off" or some shyt but that hasn't happened yet.

They respond something like "I'm free weekends and after work usually 6pm"

Me: great, I'm free Friday afternoon I know a good spot in blah blah blah we could go to. What's your number?

Them: *number*

Then we text moving forward.

Hasn't failed me yet.

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

ehhh idk I get the number fairly quickly. I'd rather move the conversation off the app asap because it gives you an identity. You move from being just another hinge convo to being "Tommy Lee Jones" in her phone(if she finds you attractive and liked the convo she'll save your # immediately) and If they're willing to meet you, they're willing to give you their number LOL. Just the way I see. Besides it helps with logistics I.e of someone is running late, etc. Some of these chics do not have notifications on for the app too so you might be waiting for a reply where as a nikka like me is texting her or facetiming her already

Next time you suggest a date and they accept immediately ask for the number right after.

For me I say

"Id like to see you. We should grab a drink sometime. What's your schedule like?"

That gives them an out to say "I'm busy, I don't have much time off" or some shyt but that hasn't happened yet.

They respond something like "I'm free weekends and after work usually 6pm"

Me: great, I'm free Friday afternoon I know a good spot in blah blah blah we could go to. What's your number?

Them: *number*

Then we text moving forward.

Hasn't failed me yet.

Yea maybe it's more about when and how you ask vs. asking.

 

[Actually6Foot3]

Yea maybe it's more about when and how you ask vs. asking.

when you checked in and moved the date to Saturday you should've gotten the number right then and there but that's the past.

There's lessons in everything we do and don't do so you can adjust the next time.

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

when you checked in and moved the date to Saturday you should've gotten the number right then and there but that's the past.

There's lessons in everything we do and don't do so you can adjust the next time.

I just sent her the address for where we meeting and asked for number.

 

[RawDogBandit]

I’ve had a good amount of success on Hinge. I almost got overwhelmed(not really but it’s been so many women I forgot to continue to message, decent ones too)

I can usually tell who doesn’t look as good as their pictures now before I meet them. The filters are annoying when it’s in every picture and hide who they truly are

I’m going to stay on it for a few more weeks, and then close my account for a bit.
Going to try to just keep my favorite 3/4 and coast from there for awhile

The 25-33 group is my favorite . They usually are successful, don’t press too much about hanging out(except one ) and don’t mind paying for anything
From what most of the girls tell me here in my city it’s not too many black men on there, so that’s maybe why I’m eating so well

Also dating women without kids on Hinge >>>>

 

[Bossyyyyy]

guess ima gon head start cheating

 

[Actually6Foot3]

guess ima gon head start cheating

I been cheating all year fam. 3 kills since New year's. Chic from hinge is in the bathroom as we speak. First link smash

Wifey wants to have a "sit down" later today to talk about our relationship. I'm breaking it off. I haven't smashed her in bout 2 months. She's "busy with school" bytch I have needs

 

[FLATOP]

Do any of yall ever have long drunk discussions about sex with female friends?

If she trusts you to talk about that does that mean she secretly wants to smash?

 

[Ahadi]

Do any of yall ever have long drunk discussions about sex with female friends?

If she trusts you to talk about that does that mean she secretly wants to smash?

Sounds like friendzone. Less talk. More action.

Move on.

 

[semicko82]

I been cheating all year fam. 3 kills since New year's. Chic from hinge is in the bathroom as we speak. First link smash

Wifey wants to have a "sit down" later today to talk about our relationship. I'm breaking it off. I haven't smashed her in bout 2 months. She's "busy with school" bytch I have needs

Just break up with her