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YaFingerDealMe

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How does your girl feel about this?
Somewhat uneasy at first but then she got used to it, she be texting people from her job so I figured why can’t I. As long as that line ain’t crossed it’s all good right? I just think it’s weird for me to be like I’m only talking to dudes the rest of my life because my girl might not like it. Majority of the people I talk to are female, they come kick it and smoke wit me and my hbs sometimes, I be meeting some cool women:hubie:
 

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Leave her alone. If she was interested she would show it.

Saturday I had an appointment at 5 PM to get my sons hair braided. I get there at 450 and I see the person driving away. She texts at 5 minutes later she’s 5 minutes away. I text her at 420 that we can reschedule the appointment for Wednesday. She says she’s sorry and she got stuck at the check cashing place, and then tells me that she would text me on Monday for Wednesday.

Well it’s 8 pm on a Wednesday night.

Should I call her? :troll:

I just let it go. Not even gonna text her on some "Hey wanna grab drinks". It just is what it is :yeshrug:.

I've had shawtys that have been on me and sometimes I gotta remind myself of remember what it should be like.

Like yea, I'd chase, but there'd be reciprocity/intent.

Now about this trip to Naij :jbhmm:
 

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Somewhat uneasy at first but then she got used to it, she be texting people from her job so I figured why can’t I. As long as that line ain’t crossed it’s all good right? I just think it’s weird for me to be like I’m only talking to dudes the rest of my life because my girl might not like it. Majority of the people I talk to are female, they come kick it and smoke wit me and my hbs sometimes, I be meeting some cool women:hubie:


Be honest this is just a ego boost. 99% of women are horrid friends because their friendship isnt altruistic. You using this as "look baby I can still pull so stay in line". What pray tell is so interesting about these women you cant get from your girl?
 

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pawgs outhere are VERY receptive @VertigoKnight can confirm what im talking about

Yessir. I recently turned white women back on my Hinge and those likes are flooding in.

But Yes, Pawgs, Paags, Black women from Toronto, Indian and Arab women :russ:All very receptive.

As annoying as dating can be, the options here are endless and the women beautiful. Sadly time is not, so I have a baseline.
 

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Somewhat uneasy at first but then she got used to it, she be texting people from her job so I figured why can’t I. As long as that line ain’t crossed it’s all good right? I just think it’s weird for me to be like I’m only talking to dudes the rest of my life because my girl might not like it. Majority of the people I talk to are female, they come kick it and smoke wit me and my hbs sometimes, I be meeting some cool women:hubie:
Oh y’all are crazy.
 

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I just let it go. Not even gonna text her on some "Hey wanna grab drinks". It just is what it is :yeshrug:.

I've had shawtys that have been on me and sometimes I gotta remind myself of remember what it should be like.

Like yea, I'd chase, but there'd be reciprocity/intent.

Now about this trip to Naij :jbhmm:
We know what giving a fukk feels like. If you feel like you’re doing too much then there’s something to that feeling.
 

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Be honest this is just a ego boost. 99% of women are horrid friends because their friendship isnt altruistic. You using this as "look baby I can still pull so stay in line". What pray tell is so interesting about these women you cant get from your girl?
Nah it ain’t doing nothing for my ego, it’s just I got on meds for bipolar and it’s like I’m a whole different person these days, I don’t even be trying to fukk because I value my relationship, I’m just so used to avoiding people and now I’m talking to everybody, I’ve always had an easier time talking to women, everytime I talk to a dude we be cool but not like let’s kick it cool
 

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I just let it go. Not even gonna text her on some "Hey wanna grab drinks". It just is what it is :yeshrug:.

I've had shawtys that have been on me and sometimes I gotta remind myself of remember what it should be like.

Like yea, I'd chase, but there'd be reciprocity/intent.

Now about this trip to Naij :jbhmm:

This is key!
We all know what it's like when a woman is really into you, so I don't know why so many second guess when a woman is showing low interest signs.
If she was really into that much there isn't no guess work:manny:
 

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Is it weird I want to friend zone chicks? I’m in a whole relationship but I just can’t get past the enjoyment of meeting new women, I know everybody be saying a man and woman can’t just be friends but I feel like I can

The only women I've friendzoned are those who I actually do stuff with. Like filming, writing or go to shows with. Attraction is there but neither of us want to be messing up those rare relationships.

Just hanging with women can lead to some hard decisions...girl or not.

And trust me your girl will act like it's all right but she knows wha gwan.
 

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We know what giving a fukk feels like. If you feel like you’re doing too much then there’s something to that feeling.

True that.

This is key!
We all know what it's like when a woman is really into you, so I don't know why so many second guess when a woman is showing low interest signs.
If she was really into that much there isn't no guess work:manny:

I guess this is slightly different in that I feel personally, I didn't really get to "spit" like I would have liked to in our initial meeting. It was a quick 3-4 min convo since she was at work. For most other chicks that have been really on me, I've usually had a much longer interaction so I can gauge interest levels pretty well. Hence me thinking at first, Just shoot out a "Wanna grab drinks" text. With that it's like ehh, "Nothing to lose" really.
 

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The only women I've friendzoned are those who I actually do stuff with. Like filming, writing or go to shows with. Attraction is there but neither of us want to be messing up those rare relationships.

Just hanging with women can lead to some hard decisions...girl or not.

And trust me your girl will act like it's all right but she knows wha gwan.
That’s the relationships I be trying to have like, I don’t be doing shyt I got to hide I just feel like I matured past who I used to be, I ain’t saying I don’t be attracted to women I just know better these days, I feel like I met my soulmate so I would never mess that up
 

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That’s the relationships I be trying to have like, I don’t be doing shyt I got to hide I just feel like I matured past who I used to be, I ain’t saying I don’t be attracted to women I just know better these days, I feel like I met my soulmate so I would never mess that up
Oh damn. Congrats.
 

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That’s the relationships I be trying to have like, I don’t be doing shyt I got to hide I just feel like I matured past who I used to be, I ain’t saying I don’t be attracted to women I just know better these days, I feel like I met my soulmate so I would never mess that up

Then as long as everything is above board and you yourself know you wont fukk around and are happy with your missus. Having the right chicks around is OK.

Watch out for them sneaky ones though.

:lolbron:
 

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Be honest this is just a ego boost. 99% of women are horrid friends because their friendship isnt altruistic.
True. That’s why when women hit you with the let’s just be friends line it’s not even authentic. They just want a dude to listen to their problems without having sex with them.

I can probably think of only two women my whole life who I went out on dates with and we decided to become friends and they actually were good friends. One woman was always there with help with networking, advice with other women, if I ever needed a ride to airport and stuff like that. The other woman was mad reliable and her word was her bond. Even when my mom passed she unexpectedly came to my moms funeral even when she was working out of state.

but other than that most women from what I’ve witnessed aren’t very good friends.
 
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