Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

JOHN.KOOL

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You key in on one word and go on this diatribe off it. But yes I do want to a girl who acts like a hoe for me. My ex of 4 years had 2 partners at 21 before me and she made things very easy for me in general (initally :sadcam:). So I mean I guess she was a hoe, she did have sex before me. Now can some girls who are easy to get along with also hoes. Sure, but I'm not vehemently looking for them. I like picky women, because I too am picky.

Also you seem to think I'm posed to live in fear of my girl getting taken by someone if she makes things easy for me, breh who cares? This shyt screams fear and scarcity. Its 3.5 billion women on earth. If she want to move around move around, its mathematically impossible for you to even approach let alone date the amount of women who would be attracted to you in any big city. I've had self professed hoes in my rotation and I assure you that's not what i'm pursuing atm but I'll let you cook fam.

In any case if your big gotcha is "if she shows shes attracted to you too fast she gonna leave you fast" I really don't care man. Easy come easy go. I got one chick I'm actually feeling right now and like 3 others when I'm bored. In my field I'm around pretty women all day, if shyt doesn't work it doesn't work. Its plenty of fish in the sea. what I refuse to do is live a life of fear if a girl god forbids likes me in a quick manner. That seems preposterous. And before you go well you gonna get yours, I'm almost 30, no kids, no stds, no lingering lady drama and its not like I haven't been out here. I think I'm doing well for myself.

Again no one said anything about living in fear, you said your not looking for hoes but your methods in selecting females in doomed to result in way way more hoes passing your entry requirements than actual girls you would want to have a relationship with.

No one lives in fear, its called being observant. You will never ever truly understand a person, man or woman by what they tell you or their behaviour when they are conscious of the image they are portraying or how things come across. It's little things like how quickly a girl makes up her mind about you, and what that decision could have been made on if it was that quick that truly reveals important character thraits of a person, reveals the mindset of that person, and that's just an example of that. I don't 'live in fear' cause no one is forcing me to be with this or any girl, I can find other girls but I pay attention to the unconscious things people do and reveal about themselves m, the things most people won't think to sit there and deep and think what could have influenced that decision or action or thought and connect them dots to get a more accurate picture of the person and not just with women but people in general.
 

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okay now were getting somewhere this is interesting. I have to disagree. It would be far less stress on yourself and the relationship in general if its built on a solid foundation initially. If she already like you, all you have to do is simply not lose your masculine frame and turn into a bytch. whereaways raising her attraction is far more arduous. I've been on both sides that's why I'm so against it now. I've had to reconstruct attraction from nothing and I'm never ever doing that shyt again. Loyalty from women is a nebulous concept anyway because most operate with such fleeting emotions and feelings its not something I dwell on unless I am considering making her my monogamous woman. And in that instance a lot of vetting has already occurred. If I get duped I get duped. I'm smart enough to only tie my emotions into a women never finances, life decisions, living spaces, etc. So all I lose is time which is a terrible thing to waste but it is what it is.

This is where you are going wrong. You think initial and early attraction is a solid foundation, no it is not my friend it is exactly the opposite. It is a weak foundation.

It is attraction based on a person you don't even fully know yet, you don't even know the half of. The quicker and earlier the attraction is established, the less things the reason for that attraction is actually based on. The more trivial those things which the attraction is based on are too, things like how you look physically, which means nothing because they will find other people physically attractive too. Shyt like how funny or smar you seem to be which also don't mean much because she will find other nikkas smart and funny too. Initial and high early attractive is almost never ever based on anything substantial, it is in the moment attraction and that shyt passes.

The less things attraction is based on the easier it is to find that attraction in others.
 

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This is where you are going wrong. You think initial and early attraction is a solid foundation, no it is not my friend it is exactly the opposite. It is a weak foundation.

It is attraction based on a person you don't even fully know yet, you don't even know the half of. The quicker and earlier the attraction is established, the less things the reason for that attraction is actually based on. The more trivial those things which the attraction is based on are too, things like how you look physically, which means nothing because they will find other people physically attractive too. Shyt like how funny or smar you seem to be which also don't mean much because she will find other nikkas smart and funny too. Initial and high early attractive is almost never ever based on anything substantial, it is in the moment attraction and that shyt passes.

The less things attraction is based on the easier it is to find that attraction in others.

I mean Im beginning to see where your coming from but IMO this seems like a good recipe for wasting your time on non interested women more often than not. And personally if they find a cat flyer than me and want to rotate by all means go ahead. Relationships end for all manner of reasons if mine were to end cuz they felt a better option so be it :yeshrug: Im not about to qctively worry about such things since itll manisfest itself subconciously very quickly.

I do see more where youre coming from and I think its ultimately a difference in life philosophy at play here since Im all about the amor fati shyt
 

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Brehs how do I work on not being so nervous and self doubting? It's hard to date and be social when I have that constant devil on shoulder
 

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Brehs how do I work on not being so nervous and self doubting? It's hard to date and be social when I have that constant devil on shoulder

What are you doubting yourself about?

But basically you gotta ignore the negative thoughts and keep going. Action is the best remedy to those negative feelings.
 

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convince yourself that you got one life, you are the shyt, and you dont give any fuccs. are you selfish ? if not, try to do that a bit more
Ye I get that breh

It just when I find myself talking, I start being overly self conscious mid convo and my thoughts race instead of remaining present
lol Im just tired of missing out because I fukk a situation up with my anxiety
 

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What are you doubting yourself about?

But basically you gotta ignore the negative thoughts and keep going. Action is the best remedy to those negative feelings.
I have a unique look that I got teased about as a kid. So now as a adult it's hard for me to push that old shyt out of my head.
I have a lot female attention but I guess I don't believe in myself subconsciously.

You ever been called handsome and had a chick all over you and you still don't believe it? That's me lmao
I'm ready to move past this mental thing I got but idk where to begin

I get so close before them thoughts come and then I fukk it up for myself by becoming distant and awkward
 

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I have a unique look that I got teased about as a kid. So now as a adult it's hard for me to push that old shyt out of my head.
I have a lot female attention but I guess I don't believe in myself subconsciously.

You ever been called handsome and had a chick all over you and you still don't believe it? That's me lmao
I'm ready to move past this mental thing I got but idk where to begin

I get so close before them thoughts come and then I fukk it up for myself by becoming distant and awkward

I go thru the same problem...:francis:

Somehow I still fall into "situations" with women, but I do feel I'm selling myself short

There is an inner voice in my head that causes doubt even when I have had success...

You gotta take baby steps to "open up"...

You gotta go out by yourself and continue to do it..you really only 1 good looking broad away from changing the game

Sometimes when women dont look, we kinda see it as being "ugly"when in all actuality, they might be scared as hell to make eye contact...

Our brain has so many negative thoughts, we simply go with the negative..
 
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