Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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How else to respond to to a post where I was told I was easy and unattractive. I just went ahead and supported what he said.
So your boy took a couple L's tonight
I'll fill y'all in tomorrow morning
Forgot to post about this. I'm at work still so I'll keep it short
1. My ex(first love) got engaged and I was told about it yesterday
It screwed with me yesterday but I went to my local dive, pounded a few beers and I'm over it today. Besides, we haven't been together for what, two years now? I haven't spoken to her since then as well2. The teacher I told y'all I met with a couple times got rid of me through a text yesterday. This one is my fault really, and it's why I should have been upfront about not wanting a relationship. She basically asked me where we were going, and if I was seeing other people. I told her that I was seeing one other person(which is the truth), and that was it.
So now I've only got the dentist. I've arranged for a date with another teacher next week(black/24) so we'll see
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nope, he’s just a selfish narcissistic master manipulator and liar who made my life hell for a year with constant cheating (with a married women 16 year older than him, that he was talking to a year prior before even knowing me) gaslighting, physical and emotional abuse, etc. and he’s stalking me. i had to put a restraining order on him 2 weeks ago.
and no @Nicole0416 she isn’t black, you got that wrong.
I thought you guys would do bible study together?
i actually do and nope, didn’t hook up with golfer and deleted his number
We’ve all been burned before just got to take it as a lesson. Not saying it won’t happen again but you’ll see the signs and protect yourself.
What’s crazy the last three women who have paid for my meal/outing/even drove me home I’ve never heard from again 
Forgot to post about this. I'm at work still so I'll keep it short
1. My ex(first love) got engaged and I was told about it yesterday
2. The teacher I told y'all I met with a couple times got rid of me through a text yesterday. This one is my fault really, and it's why I should have been upfront about not wanting a relationship. She basically asked me where we were going, and if I was seeing other people. I told her that I was seeing one other person(which is the truth), and that was it.
So now I've only got the dentist. I've arranged for a date with another teacher next week(black/24) so we'll see
Yeah it stings but sometimes it’s also a relief because now you know it is over and there is no second chance.
And it’s good to be honest, one thing as I got older is I’m more honest i tell chicks straight up yeah I’m meeting and going out with other woman. It’s like a job until I’m in a committed relationship I’m going to see what’s out there and even if I’m in one you’ll be on probation
yeah, i never met someone like that before so i had no idea what red flags were, what to look out for etc, i was naive. it wasn’t even the cheating that messed me up as bad as all the gaslighting, the things he’d do or say to make me feel like i was being crazy, blaming me for all of our arguments because i was ‘insecure’, then giving me the silent treatment until i really rationalized and convinced myself i was wrong and apologized. that’s the stuff that really messed me up.
this dude cheated on me the entire relationship, before i found out i’d never would have suspected it! once i found out and he continued to play with me, manipulating me when i was suspicious stuff was still going on, when ppl would tell me things etc he’d tell me he cheated on me cause i was “insecure” and “had trust issues” and that “kristi wasn’t” (the side chick)..
and i was so delusional and in denial of who he was, i really blamed myself for everything
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that's what cheaters and narcissistic people do, you just gotta be careful because next thing you know you're datig someone again who is just like your ex
i never even knew what a narcissist was until i taught myself about it. i spent hours every day on the subreddit ‘narcissist abuse’ for a month or so learning about what he was doing to me, relating to so many of the stories and experiences others have been through. if it wasn’t for having that outlet and community to verify that i wasn’t in fact crash and made me aware of what was really going on, i don’t think i ever would’ve left him.
and yes, you are right. have you seen the movie heartthrob on netflix? it’s cheesy, but the girl was dating a sociopath, the ending really stuck with me because it summed up why it’s so hard for abuse victims to ever have or feel fulfilled by ‘normal relationships’ after because the abusive relationship was so “intense” emotionally and nothing can compare to the highs and because of the intermittent reinforcement literally creates an addiction to the chemicals our brain releases.
edit: read this, it’s interesting and helped me realized what was happening in my head and why abusive relationships become an addiction
Intermittent Reinforcement: The Powerful Manipulation Method That Keeps You Trauma Bonded To Your Abuser
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its the good thing about the internet knowing you're not the only one going through it, heartbreak sucks just gotta keep going forward. Everyone is nice and amazing at first but for 95% of people it's bs just to secure you once the layers are removed they are utter trash
Nah never seen it but yeah its true, its why I don't cavort with women who have been in abusive relationships who have never had therapy because you end up baring the brunt of it and you can never satisfy em. I've seen it to much already and the older i get the less time i have for stress
as much as that sucks it’s completely understandable and i don’t blame you AT ALL. i’m going to go back to therapy, soon because i know i won’t be able to have a healthy relationship or attract people other than exploiters and manipulators until i deal with my codependent issues and being an overly empathetic person