Thread stickied. Might save a young man or two some trouble down the road. 
Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
- Thread starter Rominati
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learn how to listen without actually listening
ex:
girl: [insert some irrelevant babble]
you: *playing Madden 2012*
girl: [insert more irrelevant sh*t]
you: "that's crazy"
girl: [says a statement that seeks affirmation from you]
you: word?
girl: i know right?
girl: [continues to go on & on about more irrelevant sh*t]
you: [rephrases the last few things she said into a question to make her think IGAF]
girl:exactly!!!
girl: [talks for the next 20 minutes]
its a skill brehs....
I remember a class in college first year about communication techniques teaching this. I used it many times but i got cocky and overused it and she caught on.
real good off of it for a while tough. Just use it when needed and don't overdo it.
Uncle Trill
Hendrix 3:16
1) Maintain self control and stop chasing these women. GET SOME BUSINESS about yourself.
That means you need to make women a 3rd or 4th priority in your life. The real key is learning how to shine on women properly and make them come to YOU. Cats over here jumping through flaming hoops and still don't get respect from his 'girl', but his girl goes to a Drake concert and she's ready to rush backstage and is willing to do anything you feel me? As a man you should handle your business anyways, but the more together you have your life together, the more women you will naturally attract. When you got business and you just have activities in your life that you enjoy that doesn't involve women, you will naturally be busy, so you don't have to play them lame phone games to appear you are busy. Then you fit her into YOUR schedule, not the other way around.
2) Don't be soft with a woman and don't tell her your secrets. ALWAYS maintain your respect.
Some of ya'll think you're 'building' with your woman sharing all kinds of information with her, but she'll use that against you when she breaks bad on you. Keeping your mouth shut about as much as your personal business will keep you in a much better position as well as having the side benefit of making you seem more 'mysterious.'
A soft dude will get tore up. Don't be out here crying over these women and do not be that sucker that they show in all these romantic movies, looking into her eyes all glistening, putting your finger on her lip talking about, "Baby me and you together... forever." If she comes in your atmosphere with some nonsense, STEP UP as a man and make sure you check it. Don't try to be no ol' friendly dude just tolerating her nonsense. If she asks can she go to this party with her male coworker and she's supposed to be in a relationship with you, tell her butt if she brings up something like that again, there won't be no me and you... and that you're halfway thinking about letting her go now.
3) NEVER let a woman hold her vagina over your head.
Stop worrying about whether if you do this or that that she's going to give it to another man. A woman will or won't give it to a man almost regardless of what you do. A lot of these cats out here being the 'perfect boyfriend,' paying for her classes, being there when she needs, etc., get cheated on. That's why you got to prepare yourself mentally. If your woman decides to mess with another dude, don't blame yourself as long as you kept it respectable, moral and truthful. Just let her go and keep it pushing. If you try to do what appeals to her, you will end up more confused than her. A woman will ALWAYS blame you and have some excuse when she's ready to mess with the next dude. It might be 'you're too clingy. You're paying me too much attention." or it could be, "You weren't paying me enough attention." As you can see, women got multiple ways to blame you for her actions. You, on the other hand, should not try to reason with a woman. Kick a disloyal one to the curb and keep it pushing. Also realize, you NEVER own a woman's vagina, so don't think you know what she's doing with it when you're not around.
What you need to worry about doing is staying down to your rules and principles. If she busts bad or tells you she's going to mess with this or that cat, tell her to get lost. There is NO reason to stress over what a woman is doing with her body. You are wasting precious thought and your own ability to enjoy life.
4) As a man, relationships are to be rewarded, not sought.
As a man, you should reward a great female with a relationship once you have assessed her characteristics are worthy of long-term potential. This should be a rigorous analysis of her personal character and how she interacts with you. As a man, NEVER be the one that just seeks out relationships. You will appear thirsty and you will accept less than what you're worth...
5) Be a man of value
Do not accept less than what you're worth. Do not accept a female into your life if she isn't a net positive. If she's bringing a whole bunch of drama or nonsense into your life, tell her to step it up and get her situation right or keep it pushing. She ha to bring value to the table to mess with you.
6) Stop caring what a woman thinks
Obviously, this is one of the most important one. Stop wondering if she likes your clothes or how you talk or a host of other nonsense. Do YOU and never think about how she will react to it. Think more about how close you are staying to your principles. If she wants to mess with you, she will find a way to be in your vicinity. If she doesn't let her go. These females really ain't that important that you need to rearrange your whole personality and just focus on making yourself into a man that caters to what a woman likes.
7) Get in where you fit in
You won't ever have EVERY woman liking you, just like you can have a chef that makes the best steak in the world, but you got people out there that won't touch it because they are vegetarian. So focus on the women that like you for being you and stop trying to switch things up and get at that woman that you have to go out of character to obtain, because sooner or later she WILL see your tips and tactics and you've just wasted a whole bunch of time. Go for the women that you can be natural around and she's infatuated with your natural state.
That means you need to make women a 3rd or 4th priority in your life. The real key is learning how to shine on women properly and make them come to YOU. Cats over here jumping through flaming hoops and still don't get respect from his 'girl', but his girl goes to a Drake concert and she's ready to rush backstage and is willing to do anything you feel me? As a man you should handle your business anyways, but the more together you have your life together, the more women you will naturally attract. When you got business and you just have activities in your life that you enjoy that doesn't involve women, you will naturally be busy, so you don't have to play them lame phone games to appear you are busy. Then you fit her into YOUR schedule, not the other way around.
2) Don't be soft with a woman and don't tell her your secrets. ALWAYS maintain your respect.
Some of ya'll think you're 'building' with your woman sharing all kinds of information with her, but she'll use that against you when she breaks bad on you. Keeping your mouth shut about as much as your personal business will keep you in a much better position as well as having the side benefit of making you seem more 'mysterious.'
A soft dude will get tore up. Don't be out here crying over these women and do not be that sucker that they show in all these romantic movies, looking into her eyes all glistening, putting your finger on her lip talking about, "Baby me and you together... forever." If she comes in your atmosphere with some nonsense, STEP UP as a man and make sure you check it. Don't try to be no ol' friendly dude just tolerating her nonsense. If she asks can she go to this party with her male coworker and she's supposed to be in a relationship with you, tell her butt if she brings up something like that again, there won't be no me and you... and that you're halfway thinking about letting her go now.
3) NEVER let a woman hold her vagina over your head.
Stop worrying about whether if you do this or that that she's going to give it to another man. A woman will or won't give it to a man almost regardless of what you do. A lot of these cats out here being the 'perfect boyfriend,' paying for her classes, being there when she needs, etc., get cheated on. That's why you got to prepare yourself mentally. If your woman decides to mess with another dude, don't blame yourself as long as you kept it respectable, moral and truthful. Just let her go and keep it pushing. If you try to do what appeals to her, you will end up more confused than her. A woman will ALWAYS blame you and have some excuse when she's ready to mess with the next dude. It might be 'you're too clingy. You're paying me too much attention." or it could be, "You weren't paying me enough attention." As you can see, women got multiple ways to blame you for her actions. You, on the other hand, should not try to reason with a woman. Kick a disloyal one to the curb and keep it pushing. Also realize, you NEVER own a woman's vagina, so don't think you know what she's doing with it when you're not around.
What you need to worry about doing is staying down to your rules and principles. If she busts bad or tells you she's going to mess with this or that cat, tell her to get lost. There is NO reason to stress over what a woman is doing with her body. You are wasting precious thought and your own ability to enjoy life.
4) As a man, relationships are to be rewarded, not sought.
As a man, you should reward a great female with a relationship once you have assessed her characteristics are worthy of long-term potential. This should be a rigorous analysis of her personal character and how she interacts with you. As a man, NEVER be the one that just seeks out relationships. You will appear thirsty and you will accept less than what you're worth...
5) Be a man of value
Do not accept less than what you're worth. Do not accept a female into your life if she isn't a net positive. If she's bringing a whole bunch of drama or nonsense into your life, tell her to step it up and get her situation right or keep it pushing. She ha to bring value to the table to mess with you.
6) Stop caring what a woman thinks
Obviously, this is one of the most important one. Stop wondering if she likes your clothes or how you talk or a host of other nonsense. Do YOU and never think about how she will react to it. Think more about how close you are staying to your principles. If she wants to mess with you, she will find a way to be in your vicinity. If she doesn't let her go. These females really ain't that important that you need to rearrange your whole personality and just focus on making yourself into a man that caters to what a woman likes.
7) Get in where you fit in
You won't ever have EVERY woman liking you, just like you can have a chef that makes the best steak in the world, but you got people out there that won't touch it because they are vegetarian. So focus on the women that like you for being you and stop trying to switch things up and get at that woman that you have to go out of character to obtain, because sooner or later she WILL see your tips and tactics and you've just wasted a whole bunch of time. Go for the women that you can be natural around and she's infatuated with your natural state.
SuburbanPimp
Giving game to lames since the 90s
My only piece of advice is to start off setting the bar LOW
I see too many cats going out of their way to impress females on a first date taking them to Saltgrass Steakhouse and shyt when thats not the move.
Take her somewhere modest for a first date.. Razoos or something like that.
If you start taking her Benihannas & Rockfish thats whats she is going to expect from now on and when you spending $100 a date its gonna seem like the norm to her.
But if you been taking her to applebees and to finally take her to PF Changs. She gonna appreciate that shyt alot more.
That goes with birthdays, X-Mas and everything else.
I see too many cats going out of their way to impress females on a first date taking them to Saltgrass Steakhouse and shyt when thats not the move.
Take her somewhere modest for a first date.. Razoos or something like that.
If you start taking her Benihannas & Rockfish thats whats she is going to expect from now on and when you spending $100 a date its gonna seem like the norm to her.
But if you been taking her to applebees and to finally take her to PF Changs. She gonna appreciate that shyt alot more.
That goes with birthdays, X-Mas and everything else.
If you invite a chick over at night
Remove any "chairs" from the bedroom and only keep one pillow on the bed
90% success rate...they never peep the scene, to her it'll seem like "one thing led to another and it just happened"
Remove any "chairs" from the bedroom and only keep one pillow on the bed
90% success rate...they never peep the scene, to her it'll seem like "one thing led to another and it just happened"
Rocket Scientist
Superstar
Cats got me printing this stuff out.Change my whole outlook
Son Of God
Pro
LOL I love ya nikkas man
I thought I knew enuff. But even im learning some new shyt off this thread on sum
Lol we love you too breh.To tell you the honest truth,when I was younger I had no father figure to look up to,and of course,naturally turned to my so called friends for advice.Who ended up giving me the wrong advice so......I promised myself if I could help another person avoid the mistakes that I made,I say...why not.
We gotta spread the knowledge breh.What you impart unto others will be imparted unto you.
Lol we love you too breh.To tell you the honest truth,when I was younger I had no father figure to look up to,and of course,naturally turned to my so called friends for advice.Who ended up giving me the wrong advice so......I promised myself if I could help another person avoid the mistakes that I made,I say...why not.
We gotta spread the knowledge breh.What you impart unto others will be imparted unto you.
Fo sho
Thats why I fukk with the coli way harder than that "other" place
.Necessary threads like this would of prolly gotten deleted or de-railed by the usual suspects over there.
Son Of God
Pro
I would like to suggest you guys check this out as well.I would've posted it here but I know some people hate reading long post,so for those of you that don't actually mind adding more notches under your belt check it out.
Keep Your Girl Around (But Still Date Other Women) ~ Art of Seduction, Art of Pick-Up and Seduction
Keep Your Girl Around (But Still Date Other Women) ~ Art of Seduction, Art of Pick-Up and Seduction