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Let me build with yall on this one
You got dudes out there that be on some
"I got a good job making good money
I have a great education
I have a luxury car
I can take care of all of her financial needs
I can put it down in the bedroom
I'm an attractive brother"
You can have all of these traits and she will still never respect you. Want to know why?
A woman wants a man who is confident. Now if you have all of these things and you are confident, it is a plus. But if you have all these things and you aren't confident, there is no way she will respect you as a man. If you are not confident, it means that you are insecure about certain things in your life. People who are insecure use the aforementioned things to compensate for their insecurities.The brother who goes out of his way to buy his lady anything she desires because he feels that this is the only way he can keep her. The brother who makes sure he stays in a Benz, BMZ, or whatever luxury car to make sure that he gets the attention of women. The brother who parades around talking about his Ivy League degree, or his Fortune 500 to every women he meets in order to establish that he is "somebody"
But then exactly, "who is he"?
Overconfidence is arrogance, and arrogance is a defensive form of insecurity. You're overcompensating when you are arrogant. Confidence is when you know what you're about and you are happy and proud of yourself, and nobody's perception of you can make you second guess yourself. Confidence is accepting your flaws along with your gifts and being humble about it. If you see yourself changing to keep a women, then you more than likely lack confidence.
Confidence people normally resist the urge to brag... their confidence is exuded in their actions, not their words. Brothers normally ask me, "Why is she with him, when I can offer her way more than what he can?" I simply tell them, more doesn't mean better. He has the one item you don't have, and guess what? That's all she's looking for. I'm not saying abandon everything else in search of confidence, but get some confidence to compliment all of your successes and accomplishments.
Think about it like this... if you have all these things, and you lack confidence... it says something about your character.
This little bit of wisdom is it, fully describes me to a tee. Despite all of my accomplishments I was compensating for the only thing I felt mattered which is my looks.
Man I got some introspection to do. I’m so happy I found this thread *insert happy head*