What type of sh1t did you have to deal with when you dated women who’ve been molested?
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What type of sh1t did you have to deal with when you dated women who’ve been molested?
Paradise50
Superstar
Clingy & always need reassurance. Even if they mean well it can be overwhelming. Same w/ dating women who have "daddy issues". We joke about it but if they're not truly at peace with it then you take on a lot of shyt.
Yeah this girl really needs and like attention she seems insecure even though she’s very pretty.
I don’t notice clinginess though. If anything she seems to hate being around these dudes she’s with for long periods of time says she feels like she’s being held captive lol
Did you notice any flakiness or distance at times? Or that she wasn’t used to ring treated well? And maybe was used to abuse?
her father was in prison for 8 years when she was a kid and then left the country to go back to the DR and has about 7 kids there so while I’m not sure if she has daddy issues also, it’s definitely possible.
Peter Popoff
Baba Yega in black uptowns
I don't get how shorty could offer everything but sex and wonder why men cheat???
The old girl is out of my life. The new girl is still my friend. We both have an interest in each other, but with what she has and what I have going on, it's just not the right time for either of us. Her's needs a lot more serious time because of sexual assault trauma, she's at her lowest point rn.
YOGEBEAR09
RAM Gang. Horns up
My team lost. 
My girl left All I wanna do is for her to come comfort me but I know that ain't happening I'm bout to be going through it
My girl left All I wanna do is for her to come comfort me but I know that ain't happening I'm bout to be going through it 
Mister_DoItNice
Leading The Regime
Man, I'm stuck inside my head on this situation with a girl and I just gotta snap myself out of it.
A little background here.... I've been dealing with depression and other mental health issues for 3 years now due to a toxic relationship (also it being my 1st) that I was in. I wanted to make it work but I didn't feel a connection to this person at all, yet I kept myself in it because I wanted to try and make it work. I was used for sex, and I haven't really been the same since. I've felt alone and feeling like I just can't find that person. I was hooking up with another person a few months after, but I got ghosted on for no particular reason and that kind of added on to how I felt.
I went to MAGFest this year and met up with a friend of mine cause she wanted me to buy her alcohol since she wasn't 21 at the time. I do that, meet up with her and I meet a ton of her friends in her hotel room. There was one in particular that I found real cute and stuff, but I was like "Nah dude, you couldn't get with that" to myself. So I'm trying to get to know people (cause I want con friends, etc.) and I noticed my homegirl got pulled aside by the one girl I'm talking about.
We're all having small talk, etc. and that person starts blatantly hitting on me and I'm like "Woah" but since I'm shy as hell, I don't really do anything with it. We leave to go party and etc. so while we're waiting and stuff in a hallway, my homegirl pulls me aside and was like "Dude, she's been eyeballing you and shyt all day, go talk to her." Let's just say I was too shy to do that and I can only talk to girls while I'm kinda drunk. I tell myself that I'll try again tomorrow, etc. repeatedly but I could never find that girl or only ran into her a few times after that. So I'm like... "shyt I should've shot my shot" and just shake my head at myself.
So the con ends and a day or 2 after it, I'm about to get off work and I had a few missed calls and texts from my homegirl. I look at them and she's like "Where the fukk are you? This girl is dead ass about to be in town cause she's visiting me, you better come shoot your shot" and I'm likeand not prepared. So I respond that I'll go with her, and she basically wingwomans for me to the girl, and it was almost like a double date at dinner cause my homegirl brought her BF with her. So myself and the girl go to the car so she can get some bags and stuff and she was like "Well I wish I got to talk to you at MAG because I think you're really cute and wanna get to know you" and shyt.
So I got her number and on the way home she starts texting me and shyt, asking if I wanted to smash. I said yeah so they drive us to my house and I turned on some anime and we smashed. Also, originally, she was supposed to only stay for a day, but while we were texting in the car I was being playful and said like "Well if you stayed I'd make you dinner" and all that stuff, but she agreed to purposely miss her bus home to stay a little more with me.
So that happens, and things are happening SO fast. Like, feelings and emotions wise. She actually treated me so much better than my ex the couple of days we'd been hanging out and having sex, letting out both of our vulnerable sides and etc. Come time for her to leave, I ask her out and we date briefly. She comes back after leaving and she isn't really letting me get closer to her, etc. and I'm not sure why. So we broke it off early (she asked) because she said that she had so much shyt going on in her life that she isn't ready for a relationship right now. We both also agreed we took things way too fast but still wanted to be friends.
We're still friends, but I learn more about all the shyt going on in her life and her baggage: sexual assault trauma and a lot of other mental health issues. She still visits sometimes and we talk, but man... I actually have legit feelings for the girl and I'm like...
I know that she has to help herself get past her trauma and etc, and I told her I'd be there for her when she needed it. But man... everything feels like it was terrible timing. I know I shouldn't have asked her out after a few days, but my emotions were pretty high and so were her's, and I acted on them. I learned a lesson there, but I still can't help but feel alone and still wanting to be there with her..
I don't wanna sit here and wait for her, cause I'm just not gonna let these feelings and my loneliness eat away at me. I think there's room for stuff to happen in the future, but I'm just... not really sure what I need to do at this point. We're friends, yeah, but I still have these feelings and I don't wanna get too attached to her, etc. There's just so much shyt going on in my head right now that I need to help get myself together and still remain close to the girl...
Honestly, I have just so much on my mind about this situation I posted.
There's so much uncertainty and it's just about the way my feelings work too. When I like someone... I'm pretty much all about trying to be with them, etc. I don't really see myself trying to see other people right now because I just can't find the right places for that and I've tried online dating already, being unsuccessful.
I don't wanna wait too long, either. Sitting here waiting for her is just gonna kill me inside and feel sad about it, and who knows if she'll feel the same later, especially since she's at the low point and is still trying to figure out how to get over her trauma and baggage. I'm going to try and remain in her life as a friend, but she's difficult at opening up to people since she's so guarded and doesn't know who to trust after trauma.
I know I need to take care of myself too, and let go of the past. I still feel alone constantly, and need to seek out more therapy methods since I can't go to my old one anymore (graduated from school), and seriously consider getting diagnosed and tested for clinical depression.
This shyt kills me inside man... so much shyt can happen and I'm just sitting here hoping it all works out in the end, but I just don't know...
International Playa
Playa with a Passport
I don’t know how some of you brehs do with this online dating shyt.
The last couple of women I contacted through online dating are batshyt crazy.
Paid dating apps usually have better quality women,
Alot of issues they project onto you.
Sadness, and anger and they'll take it out on you. She feeling upset and triggered about her past abuse she'll get bytchy and start arguments.
She most def has daddy issues...
Breh run...otherwise be prepared to be in for many battles to overcome.
Growing up with a mother who lost her mom at a young age and an abusive,distant father, you pick up on the baggage they carry...
Be coming home looking for shyt to be mad about and they'll lash out at anyone around them...
NO disrespect at all, but are you a female?Honestly, I have just so much on my mind about this situation I posted.
There's so much uncertainty and it's just about the way my feelings work too. When I like someone... I'm pretty much all about trying to be with them, etc. I don't really see myself trying to see other people right now because I just can't find the right places for that and I've tried online dating already, being unsuccessful.
I don't wanna wait too long, either. Sitting here waiting for her is just gonna kill me inside and feel sad about it, and who knows if she'll feel the same later, especially since she's at the low point and is still trying to figure out how to get over her trauma and baggage. I'm going to try and remain in her life as a friend, but she's difficult at opening up to people since she's so guarded and doesn't know who to trust after trauma.
I know I need to take care of myself too, and let go of the past. I still feel alone constantly, and need to seek out more therapy methods since I can't go to my old one anymore (graduated from school), and seriously consider getting diagnosed and tested for clinical depression.
This shyt kills me inside man... so much shyt can happen and I'm just sitting here hoping it all works out in the end, but I just don't know...
If not and you're a man, then maybe you need to get at certain type of chicks due to the bolded..most modern day women I feel don't appreciate men who only wanna be with them...
You sound a little clingy also .