Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Sinnerman]

Question for brehs my age(25) or older:

How different are your tastes now compared to when you were younger?

Could be anything(personality/race/income)

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

Question for brehs my age(25) or older:

How different are your tastes now compared to when you were younger?

Could be anything(personality/race/income)

I have standards now:
- No children
- Never married before
- 29 or younger but not younger than 22
- A professional (accountant, doctor, pharmacist etc. - I'm trying to build wealth with someone)
- Taller than 5'5

 

[Silkk]

Question for brehs my age(25) or older:

How different are your tastes now compared to when you were younger?

Could be anything(personality/race/income)

28 now and like dude said, learned I have to hold myself to a higher standard. Anyone woman I date has to:

-Have no kids
-Have a job/preferably career (This is SO crucial)
-Have a car
-Be between 21-28

Before, as long as she looked good and was fukking I was cool with it. Stupid AF on my part.

 

[Reverie]

Man, I'm stuck inside my head on this situation with a girl and I just gotta snap myself out of it.

A little background here.... I've been dealing with depression and other mental health issues for 3 years now due to a toxic relationship (also it being my 1st) that I was in. I wanted to make it work but I didn't feel a connection to this person at all, yet I kept myself in it because I wanted to try and make it work. I was used for sex, and I haven't really been the same since. I've felt alone and feeling like I just can't find that person. I was hooking up with another person a few months after, but I got ghosted on for no particular reason and that kind of added on to how I felt.

I went to MAGFest this year and met up with a friend of mine cause she wanted me to buy her alcohol since she wasn't 21 at the time. I do that, meet up with her and I meet a ton of her friends in her hotel room. There was one in particular that I found real cute and stuff, but I was like "Nah dude, you couldn't get with that" to myself. So I'm trying to get to know people (cause I want con friends, etc.) and I noticed my homegirl got pulled aside by the one girl I'm talking about.

We're all having small talk, etc. and that person starts blatantly hitting on me and I'm like "Woah " but since I'm shy as hell, I don't really do anything with it. We leave to go party and etc. so while we're waiting and stuff in a hallway, my homegirl pulls me aside and was like "Dude, she's been eyeballing you and shyt all day, go talk to her." Let's just say I was too shy to do that and I can only talk to girls while I'm kinda drunk. I tell myself that I'll try again tomorrow, etc. repeatedly but I could never find that girl or only ran into her a few times after that. So I'm like... "shyt I should've shot my shot" and just shake my head at myself.

So the con ends and a day or 2 after it, I'm about to get off work and I had a few missed calls and texts from my homegirl. I look at them and she's like "Where the fukk are you? This girl is dead ass about to be in town cause she's visiting me, you better come shoot your shot" and I'm like and not prepared. So I respond that I'll go with her, and she basically wingwomans for me to the girl, and it was almost like a double date at dinner cause my homegirl brought her BF with her. So myself and the girl go to the car so she can get some bags and stuff and she was like "Well I wish I got to talk to you at MAG because I think you're really cute and wanna get to know you" and shyt.

So I got her number and on the way home she starts texting me and shyt, asking if I wanted to smash. I said yeah so they drive us to my house and I turned on some anime and we smashed. Also, originally, she was supposed to only stay for a day, but while we were texting in the car I was being playful and said like "Well if you stayed I'd make you dinner" and all that stuff, but she agreed to purposely miss her bus home to stay a little more with me.

So that happens, and things are happening SO fast. Like, feelings and emotions wise. She actually treated me so much better than my ex the couple of days we'd been hanging out and having sex, letting out both of our vulnerable sides and etc. Come time for her to leave, I ask her out and we date briefly. She comes back after leaving and she isn't really letting me get closer to her, etc. and I'm not sure why. So we broke it off early (she asked) because she said that she had so much shyt going on in her life that she isn't ready for a relationship right now. We both also agreed we took things way too fast but still wanted to be friends.

We're still friends, but I learn more about all the shyt going on in her life and her baggage: sexual assault trauma and a lot of other mental health issues. She still visits sometimes and we talk, but man... I actually have legit feelings for the girl and I'm like...


I know that she has to help herself get past her trauma and etc, and I told her I'd be there for her when she needed it. But man... everything feels like it was terrible timing. I know I shouldn't have asked her out after a few days, but my emotions were pretty high and so were her's, and I acted on them. I learned a lesson there, but I still can't help but feel alone and still wanting to be there with her..

I don't wanna sit here and wait for her, cause I'm just not gonna let these feelings and my loneliness eat away at me. I think there's room for stuff to happen in the future, but I'm just... not really sure what I need to do at this point. We're friends, yeah, but I still have these feelings and I don't wanna get too attached to her, etc. There's just so much shyt going on in my head right now that I need to help get myself together and still remain close to the girl...

 

[Babymama Magnet]

Question for brehs my age(25) or older:

How different are your tastes now compared to when you were younger?

Could be anything(personality/race/income)

I use to be heavy on older women, late 30s/40s... like i would actually go out and pursue them. Now... Don't even wanna touch em

I'm focusing more on women as a whole package and what she brings to the table and not just her aesthetics.

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

Man, I'm stuck inside my head on this situation with a girl and I just gotta snap myself out of it.

A little background here.... I've been dealing with depression and other mental health issues for 3 years now due to a toxic relationship (also it being my 1st) that I was in. I wanted to make it work but I didn't feel a connection to this person at all, yet I kept myself in it because I wanted to try and make it work. I was used for sex, and I haven't really been the same since. I've felt alone and feeling like I just can't find that person. I was hooking up with another person a few months after, but I got ghosted on for no particular reason and that kind of added on to how I felt.

I went to MAGFest this year and met up with a friend of mine cause she wanted me to buy her alcohol since she wasn't 21 at the time. I do that, meet up with her and I meet a ton of her friends in her hotel room. There was one in particular that I found real cute and stuff, but I was like "Nah dude, you couldn't get with that" to myself. So I'm trying to get to know people (cause I want con friends, etc.) and I noticed my homegirl got pulled aside by the one girl I'm talking about.

We're all having small talk, etc. and that person starts blatantly hitting on me and I'm like "Woah " but since I'm shy as hell, I don't really do anything with it. We leave to go party and etc. so while we're waiting and stuff in a hallway, my homegirl pulls me aside and was like "Dude, she's been eyeballing you and shyt all day, go talk to her." Let's just say I was too shy to do that and I can only talk to girls while I'm kinda drunk. I tell myself that I'll try again tomorrow, etc. repeatedly but I could never find that girl or only ran into her a few times after that. So I'm like... "shyt I should've shot my shot" and just shake my head at myself.

So the con ends and a day or 2 after it, I'm about to get off work and I had a few missed calls and texts from my homegirl. I look at them and she's like "Where the fukk are you? This girl is dead ass about to be in town cause she's visiting me, you better come shoot your shot" and I'm like and not prepared. So I respond that I'll go with her, and she basically wingwomans for me to the girl, and it was almost like a double date at dinner cause my homegirl brought her BF with her. So myself and the girl go to the car so she can get some bags and stuff and she was like "Well I wish I got to talk to you at MAG because I think you're really cute and wanna get to know you" and shyt.

So I got her number and on the way home she starts texting me and shyt, asking if I wanted to smash. I said yeah so they drive us to my house and I turned on some anime and we smashed. Also, originally, she was supposed to only stay for a day, but while we were texting in the car I was being playful and said like "Well if you stayed I'd make you dinner" and all that stuff, but she agreed to purposely miss her bus home to stay a little more with me.

So that happens, and things are happening SO fast. Like, feelings and emotions wise. She actually treated me so much better than my ex the couple of days we'd been hanging out and having sex, letting out both of our vulnerable sides and etc. Come time for her to leave, I ask her out and we date briefly. She comes back after leaving and she isn't really letting me get closer to her, etc. and I'm not sure why. So we broke it off early (she asked) because she said that she had so much shyt going on in her life that she isn't ready for a relationship right now. We both also agreed we took things way too fast but still wanted to be friends.

We're still friends, but I learn more about all the shyt going on in her life and her baggage: sexual assault trauma and a lot of other mental health issues. She still visits sometimes and we talk, but man... I actually have legit feelings for the girl and I'm like...


I know that she has to help herself get past her trauma and etc, and I told her I'd be there for her when she needed it. But man... everything feels like it was terrible timing. I know I shouldn't have asked her out after a few days, but my emotions were pretty high and so were her's, and I acted on them. I learned a lesson there, but I still can't help but feel alone and still wanting to be there with her..

I don't wanna sit here and wait for her, cause I'm just not gonna let these feelings and my loneliness eat away at me. I think there's room for stuff to happen in the future, but I'm just... not really sure what I need to do at this point. We're friends, yeah, but I still have these feelings and I don't wanna get too attached to her, etc. There's just so much shyt going on in my head right now that I need to help get myself together and still remain close to the girl...

Dead the old girl and take it slow with the new one. But show romantic interest, treat her well and talk to her. Don't scare her off with your mental issues. Take the time you need to address it.

 

[MikelArteta]

Question for brehs my age(25) or older:

How different are your tastes now compared to when you were younger?

Could be anything(personality/race/income)

Black
Christian
In school or has a job
In shape
No kids
Non aggressive


When I was younger as long a woman looked good it was on now

 

[MikelArteta]

I had a conversation with two women yesterday. One is a fine Ugandan ting. The other is another fine Lebanese hijabi ()

They were telling me that they've never had a relationship. They've only been in 'situationships'. I felt bad for them.

Maybe I'm a classical man, but after I decide that a woman is worth it, I 'court' them. I actually ask them out. And after a few dates, I ask them if they want to enter a monogamous relationship with me (i.e. 'be my girlfriend')

mugandan?

 

[MikelArteta]

Any of y’all ever date a women who was molested?

A good friend of mine we always flirt and we’re real close but she’s with another dude right now but always calls me her baby how she loves me more then him etc

She’s a good person deep down but because she’s molested she seems to seek out bad relationships she’s flaky and always in need of validation

Felix what I’ve heard women who’ve been molested can be nightmares in relationships

The key is if they have had therapy. IF she hasn't had therapy good luck. I've messed with a few woman and it was hell. One was molested by her step father and she was a big ol slut who always had suicidal tendencies. Another one always had to sleep with the light on and just sleeping iwth her turned me off, as she'd always bring up what her uncle did

 

[Paradise50]

Teachers and Nurses are the universal freaks on these apps. Along with any chick who works in Law or property.

Meeting a nurse tomorrow evening as she has a night off. Sexy little Croatian ting. She's already told me her fave positions.

Going round to hers with some wine.

As a male RN, he's not lying. Just had an assistant manager on my dikk heavy at the bar. Too heavy, she was making it too hot

I knocked a few down already. I try not to go too crazy cause these hoes be talking

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

mugandan?

Is that an ethnicity? I don't know her ethnic background. Yet.

 

[Frump]

The key is if they have had therapy. IF she hasn't had therapy good luck. I've messed with a few woman and it was hell. One was molested by her step father and she was a big ol slut who always had suicidal tendencies. Another one always had to sleep with the light on and just sleeping iwth her turned me off, as she'd always bring up what her uncle did

Yah this girl was molested by her uncle and her grandfather jerked off in front of her I don’t think she’s been to therapy

I have just heard some nightmare stories about dealing with chicks who’ve been molested.

This girl seems to be slit of extremes. At times she seems to have ptsd and the slightest touch can throw her off but after a few drinks she gets overly touchy feely both I’m sure from getting molested.

 

[MikelArteta]

Yah this girl was molested by her uncle and her grandfather jerked off in front of her I don’t think she’s been to therapy

I have just heard some nightmare stories about dealing with chicks who’ve been molested.

This girl seems to be slit of extremes. At times she seems to have ptsd and the slightest touch can throw her off but after a few drinks she gets overly touchy feely both I’m sure from getting molested.

 

[MikelArteta]

Is that an ethnicity? I don't know her ethnic background. Yet.

its like how you're igbo

mugandans(baganda) have the biggest backsides and are extremely curvy

girl im cavortig with is ugandan so learning as well

 

[Paradise50]

Any of y’all ever date a women who was molested?

A good friend of mine we always flirt and we’re real close but she’s with another dude right now but always calls me her baby how she loves me more then him etc

She’s a good person deep down but because she’s molested she seems to seek out bad relationships she’s flaky and always in need of validation

Felix what I’ve heard women who’ve been molested can be nightmares in relationships

If she hasn't had therapy then run. Seriously. I know the stigma of therapy is finally becoming more "normal" and talked about so if you truly like her then let that be the deciding factor.


Molestation aside, any chick that's constantly seeking validation is bush status to me. They'd have to throw the p*ssy at me cause I'm not putting any energy into that at all.