"I've only slept with 5 guys"
Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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"I've only slept with 5 guys"
thelonious21
I like my women tall
lol.. fam.. i NEVER believe that..
BUT my question is.. when do you stop trying to be the one in control.. when do you start to make sacrifices.. ima keep it 3 hunna.. i been on both sides so i KNOW what ya'll speak of has truths to it.. but after a while.. is there a point where you can trust ya lady and not be on the ok ima out do her tip
Sacrifice?
As a man I've come to the point I will not compromise my morals, values, rules and what I want.
This Is the way I am take it or leave it, sacrifice once you will sacrifice again and again
Shameonyou
All Star
speaking of sacrifice: a woman that can sacrifice, is a woman that can be a wife.
you HAVE to look for those traits before trying to date a woman...always be on the lookout for a woman that can take an L for the team.
you HAVE to look for those traits before trying to date a woman...always be on the lookout for a woman that can take an L for the team.
Shameonyou
All Star
A man that sacrifices is a good thing. Its not advised if hes doing it, and shes not reciprocating (in that specific situation).
As men, we are wired to build, and produce (communities, families, goals, ideas..etc.) in which all these things include sacrifice and dedication for them to
become realities. (aka self discipline to look at the big picture)
When It comes to women alot of them, at least these days are mostly about how they feel, and what makes them happy moment to moment. Instead of the long-run. This is why its important for alot of men to look for unselfish qualities in a woman before initiating attraction and giving clues for wanting a relationship.
If a man finds a woman that can sacrifice her own happiness to make everyone happy, he has found someone worth building with. If he hasn't found her and is the only one sacrificing, then it becomes a negative situation that he has to change.
A general rule for a man dealing with women is no good deed goes unpunished. Like. Kev said its the frog in the lukewarm water deal where the temp gets turned up and before he knows it he's being boiled to death. A woman can afford to go out and do good things for a man even sacrifice because worst case some guy just wants her p*ssy. Worst case for a man is a woman financially draining him dry and seriously messing up his life.
the one thing a man can never sacrifice is his code. once he sacrifices his principles and code, he has nothing and is nothing. a woman could ask a man to do something that goes against his code. she could beg, manipulate, emotional blackmail, make ultimatums, etc. "if you truly loved me you'd do this for me". so the man in a moment of weakness does what she asks. in the short run she's happy. she got what she want from him and has him "trained". she broke him. in the longterm, something in the back of her mind (instinct, female intuition, call it whatever you want) tells her he's not the right guy, precisely because he broke his code. she feels he's not trustworthy anymore. she can't trust his character or his strength because she knows some women and some other people are even more skilled than her at manipulating people so if she could brake him, imagine what someone else could do with him. and deep down she's right. but the fukked up thing is, SHE's the one who asked him do it in the first place...
so yeah, a man can NEVER sacrifice his code. for a man, the code is a major part of your identity. Kev often speaks on that and in a more eloquent way.
I generally see your point but a lot of dudes "Codes" are misguided as fukk. Any good relationship is going to require a person to be pushed outside of their comfort zone to some point. If you are hanging on to a "Code" that has warped criteria you might never be happy.
Don't know if this has been said but logic is worthless when dealing with women. It's all about their emotional state. If you want them to do anything you have to learn what gets them to the desired emotional state before trying to get them to do anything. Once in the proper state cooperation is virtually guaranteed but as a male its instinctive to apply logic.
That's why men try to win women over instead of making them feel good. That's a waste of time.
That's why men try to win women over instead of making them feel good. That's a waste of time.
Virtuous_Brotha
Superstar
hell that shyt is encouraged society gives women way too much leeway
With all due respect I disagree. I'll thoroughly explain to you why.
Everybody's definition of a good relationship is different. But to keep it simple, and I'm sure most of my brethren agree, a good relationship to me is where I am happy, comfortable, and me and my woman are unified on the fundamentals and basic principles of our relationship. This means that we both are generally happy about being with each other. The moment you're not happy with your significant other regardless of the case, you can't call it a good relationship.
People are brainwashed into believing that all relationships will have problems. WRONG. All relationships will have disagreements. Most relationship problems are due to people not standing firm to their principles. If you held your principles then the person would either accept you or leave. Either way, your problem would be gone. You compromise on things that have no impact to your principles such as hanging with your boys on saturday instead of friday or something like that. You don't compromise on things that will impact who you are such as a woman telling you to stop going to church, stop hanging with your friends, change up your attire, etc.
Remember, in order for it to be a compromise, you must gain something as well as lose something. Sacrifice is when you are just losing something. Never sacrifice. Stop making woman happy. Make yourself happy first and then watch you become surrounded by woman who want to even make you happier in essence making them happy.
Some things mentioned in this thread are outrageous, but if you pay attention to a bulk of it, all we're kicking is the knowledge men need in order to have self respect, integrity, and principles to live by.
I never said anything about relationships having problems
The bolded is the perfect example of something a dude could have in his "Code" that he hangs so tough by that could save a lot of headache
