Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

My brehs I met this good chick. From Detroit. She comes to see me every now and then and I come see her. We FaceTime every day and shyt is good (for long distance). She just broke up with her boyfriend of 4 years so I’m pretty much a rebound. Dope ass chick tho and she fukks with me hard.

Tell me what I need to hear my brehs

you're a rebound

 

[Secure Da Bag]

maybe but i dont think so

shes 20 im 28. seems like she wants to go out and party n shyt but im focused on my career and such as one can imagine, i sort of always knew this day was coming

Chalk her up to the game. But as long as you have her number and a Netflix account, you two should stay friends.

 

[Secure Da Bag]

My brehs I met this good chick. From Detroit. She comes to see me every now and then and I come see her. We FaceTime every day and shyt is good (for long distance). She just broke up with her boyfriend of 4 years so I’m pretty much a rebound. Dope ass chick tho and she fukks with me hard.

Tell me what I need to hear my brehs

She had a boyfriend and carrying on a semi-relationship with you?

Don't fall for it, breh. Enjoy your time. But don't fall in love and 3 months later telling us you wanna reclaim your time.

 

[Secure Da Bag]

ex came to my job crying , asking for money . wondering why Im not TRYING to get back with her

Well you could give her a job. Technically, she'd be self-employed. You'd be her only client. But that might get you arrested if things go left.

 

[Secure Da Bag]

What if the only chick that wants to fukks with you is married

Never at her house. Never at your house. Always have her call your burner. Never raw.

 

[KeysT]

What happened

It’s a long story so I’ll start from the beginning. Started dating this chick who is adamant about not wanting a relationship. This is attractive to me because I have commitment issues as well. I’m thinking “great this will be all fun” We get along well and enjoy each other’s company. This is where I probably messed up but I invited her out when I was with a group of friends. I generally felt she was too friendly around my friends and even tried to link arms with one of my guy friends because I didnt Want to. (Red flag) I told Her she should leave...she didn’t and we wound up sleeping together with her realizing the next day that she had fukked up. We agreed that in the future she wouldn’t touch my friends. Fast forward to this weekend. I invite Her out again while I was out with one homie. He was trying to make a point to her and reached out for her hands across the table. She put her hands in his. I immediately Removed her hands and put them on her lap and called him away from the table to tell him not to do that. Then I walke Up to her and told her “you aren’t the person I thought You were you should leave”. She left and I kept Drinking. I dont Think I overreactted especially with us having it clear she wouldn’t touch my friends. . Women always focus on your response to their behaviors and not their actual behavior. I dont See her apologizing

 

[Deafheaven]

It’s a long story so I’ll start from the beginning. Started dating this chick who is adamant about not wanting a relationship. This is attractive to me because I have commitment issues as well. I’m thinking “great this will be all fun” We get along well and enjoy each other’s company. This is where I probably messed up but I invited her out when I was with a group of friends. I generally felt she was too friendly around my friends and even tried to link arms with one of my guy friends because I didnt Want to. (Red flag) I told Her she should leave...she didn’t and we wound up sleeping together with her realizing the next day that she had fukked up. We agreed that in the future she wouldn’t touch my friends. Fast forward to this weekend. I invite Her out again while I was out with one homie. He was trying to make a point to her and reached out for her hands across the table. She put her hands in his. I immediately Removed her hands and put them on her lap and called him away from the table to tell him not to do that. Then I walke Up to her and told her “you aren’t the person I thought You were you should leave”. She left and I kept Drinking. I dont Think I overreactted especially with us having it clear she wouldn’t touch my friends. . Women always focus on your response to their behaviors and not their actual behavior. I dont See her apologizing

No hate this sounds insecure as fukk breh. And she knew it so she wanted to test just how insecure you were. If it bothered you like that you should have just jetted on her ass and left her with homeboy but you def already copped feelings (which is human breh). This aint even your girlfriend and you acting like a needy attached beta. A byrd only gonna push if you let her. First time she did some shyt you didn't like just spell it out I'm not cool with that if it happens again I'm not fukking with no more. No need to get emotionally, tell her the deal stand your ground and if she do it again just bounce. I've fukked up so many times in my life by not putting boundaries up asap don't be me lol.

also she just touched a nikka like not even sexually If this byrd aint your main, she gon do what she want anyway. You trying to police her so soon already shows how invested you are. Maintain your center G.

 

[NerdNash]

Why


red flag. When a bytch goes through a logistical challenge to get new dikk that means there's something she's running from locally. She could be on a temporary "break" with her BF and wants to bounce around some new dikk without ruining her local reputation coz everyone in that area of Detroit knows her as "Deray's girl". Basically when she hooks back up with her BF she can be calm knowing that she fukked no one locally and her "good gril" reputation is till in fact.
Also the other scenario is that she is still in fact with her BF and she's having a "hot spicy" out of town affair to make her monotonous stale life more interesting.

Usually these type of chicks are mad cool and laid back coz you're just a walking dikk that they project their boredom on. They have no long term epxctations of you so they're cool with everything. Also part of her excitement is based on her doubting herselfound, she don't know how cute she is after 4 years with one guy or how much she's fallen off. you are the physical confirmation that she's still desirable and wanted in the sexual market place.
Can you tell us her age and her looks in detail and also if she makes more money than you.

Advice would be enjoy the p*ssy while it lasts and also use her for money and business contacts. Always ask her for favors coz as soon as "Deray" come calling she gone.

Yea ima just enjoy it while it lasts Bro

 

[KeysT]

No hate this sounds insecure as fukk breh. And she knew it so she wanted to test just how insecure you were. If it bothered you like that you should have just jetted on her ass and left her with homeboy but you def already copped feelings (which is human breh). This aint even your girlfriend and you acting like a needy attached beta. A byrd only gonna push if you let her. First time she did some shyt you didn't like just spell it out I'm not cool with that if it happens again I'm not fukking with no more. No need to get emotionally, tell her the deal stand your ground and if she do it again just bounce. I've fukked up so many times in my life by not putting boundaries up asap don't be me lol.

also she just touched a nikka like not even sexually If this byrd aint your main, she gon do what she want anyway. You trying to police her so soon already shows how invested you are. Maintain your center G.

I get How it sounds it’s really just a respect thing for me. Roles reversed I wouldnt Try anything like that with her friends. I dont See how me leaving is different from me telling her to leave. It’s not a policing thing it’s a respect thing. If I’m out with a chick I’m not touching another chick and I wouldnt Expect her to touch another guy. Maybe we all just have different ideas of what’s disrespectful.

 

[NerdNash]

you're a rebound

I know I am that’s the thing lmao. Whatever tho she’s cool and her p*ssy is good

 

[MikelArteta]

I know I am that’s the thing lmao. Whatever tho she’s cool and her p*ssy is good

got one life breh as long as your happy who cares what others say

hell my ex fiance lived like ten min away from me and I saw her all the time ish didn't work out, so who cares if a chick flies down and doesn't live in your city it may not work out it may work out we have no guarantee in life but to keep trying

 

[Deafheaven]

I get How it sounds it’s really just a respect thing for me. Roles reversed I wouldnt Try anything like that with her friends. I dont See how me leaving is different from me telling her to leave. It’s not a policing thing it’s a respect thing. If I’m out with a chick I’m not touching another chick and I wouldnt Expect her to touch another guy. Maybe we all just have different ideas of what’s disrespectful.

Personally I wouldn't be cool with if it if it was a new girl I'm chopping. It would indeed show utter disrespect even if its not sexual. I would tell her cool it once. and if she did it again tell my potna handle that and go on my way. Even from the message on here I can tell it affected you quite a bit. Even if you fuming just appear indifferent, always come from a place of strength. You bouncing and leaving them looking dumb is a way more powerful stance than you telling ol girl to dip, she arguing back at you, ya boy out here in the crosshairs probs confused...

TLDR tbh let these heauxs do what they do. You can either accept it or not, but never let it so visibly knock you off your square all I'm saying. You threw her to homie like leftovers and she would be hitting you up most likely on some I'm sorry shyt and she would perhaps fall in line. But she knows she can pretty easily get you agitated so she'd never respect you now anyway. I had to learn this as once my ex figured out my triggers it was a wrap and I would pass a lot of tests but would always slip. Plus I let her get away with fukk shyt early so she had no reason to change her ways. Either way you dodged a bullet here but it could have been handled better or even salvaged

 

[TRUEST]

It’s a long story so I’ll start from the beginning. Started dating this chick who is adamant about not wanting a relationship. This is attractive to me because I have commitment issues as well. I’m thinking “great this will be all fun” We get along well and enjoy each other’s company. This is where I probably messed up but I invited her out when I was with a group of friends. I generally felt she was too friendly around my friends and even tried to link arms with one of my guy friends because I didnt Want to. (Red flag) I told Her she should leave...she didn’t and we wound up sleeping together with her realizing the next day that she had fukked up. We agreed that in the future she wouldn’t touch my friends. Fast forward to this weekend. I invite Her out again while I was out with one homie. He was trying to make a point to her and reached out for her hands across the table. She put her hands in his. I immediately Removed her hands and put them on her lap and called him away from the table to tell him not to do that. Then I walke Up to her and told her “you aren’t the person I thought You were you should leave”. She left and I kept Drinking. I dont Think I overreactted especially with us having it clear she wouldn’t touch my friends. . Women always focus on your response to their behaviors and not their actual behavior. I dont See her apologizing

wtf did i just read? are u stupid? why would u invite a girl out to a situation where shes the only woman in the midst of multiple men?
and second, ur not insecure for not liking the fact that she was too friendly with ur friends. that's rude as fucck and im very disappointed in the responses to your post so far.

 

[Deafheaven]

wtf did i just read? are u stupid? why would u invite a girl out to a situation where shes the only woman in the midst of multiple men?
and second, ur not insecure for not liking the fact that she was too friendly with ur friends. that's rude as fucck and im very disappointed in the responses to your post so far.

perhaps youre right

maybe insecure was the wrong way to word that. Too emotionally invested already?

 

[Secure Da Bag]

Ok. Let's break this down.

It’s a long story so I’ll start from the beginning. Started dating this chick who is adamant about not wanting a relationship.

Good start.

This is attractive to me because I have commitment issues as well.

Being honest with yourself.

I’m thinking “great this will be all fun” We get along well and enjoy each other’s company.

Again.

This is where I probably messed up but I invited her out when I was with a group of friends.

Nothing wrong with that.

I generally felt she was too friendly around my friends and even tried to link arms with one of my guy friends because I didnt Want to. (Red flag)

Let's stop there. You're dating and not in a relationship. There are things you can't hold her to. She shouldn't be trying to embarass you or announce to the room she's open for all business. But her vibing with someone else (within reason) isn't against the rules. In fact, the "red flag" isn't the fact she linked arms. It's that she did it to make you jealous. But I'm sure you know that.

I told Her she should leave...she didn’t

So she giving you the finger right off the bat.

and we wound up sleeping together with her realizing the next day that she had fukked up.

She fukked up?! Nah. You fukked up. You should have been the one with Post-Nut Clarity, not her.

We agreed that in the future she wouldn’t touch my friends.

You should have agreed not to have her around your friends. But continue.

Fast forward to this weekend. I invite Her out again while I was out with one homie. He was trying to make a point to her and reached out for her hands across the table. She put her hands in his. I immediately Removed her hands and put them on her lap and called him away from the table to tell him not to do that.

That ain't your woman. You already agreed not to be in a relationship and now you acting like she's your wife? I understand not being played, but telling him not to do that is crazy.

Then I walke Up to her and told her “you aren’t the person I thought You were you should leave”.

You thought she was gonna be a monogamous fukk buddy who's not in a relationship? Did she actually agree to that?

She left and I kept Drinking. I dont Think I overreactted especially with us having it clear she wouldn’t touch my friends. .

You overreacted. Simply because you set boundaries that were blurred from the beginning.

Women always focus on your response to their behaviors and not their actual behavior. I dont See her apologizing

Sorry, breh. But she shouldn't. Again, if she's dating you she shouldn't be slutting herself to all your friends. I get it. But she's not committed to you. So if she wants to leave you or date someone else even if it's your friend, it ain't wrong of her, because of the agreement that you two made.