Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[OSUBaneBrowns]

that's exactly why i tell cats they better be able to let a mami go and not miss a beat. you NEVER know what that woman is up to. A man got to do too much to 'hopefully' garner loyalty from a woman.

I'm more like screw it, I ain't doing anything outside of my normal routine. To deal with a woman these days, you got to put on the act like you don't really care that she's around. You got to be nonchalant, distant and treat her like she's a commodity like wheat... she's one grain, and there's millions of grains just like her... but really, who wants to do that all the time?

IT's like these days, I enjoy getting dressed up and all, having women stare... having them little conversations is a lot of fun, but in the back of my mind I'm always thinking man I doubt I can trust this gal... this ain't really going to go nowhere. I ain't mad at it... I just realize I can't hold on to the ungraspable.

This is how I'm feeling right now. I'm just trying to go for my dream into moving to CA and I'm not going let p*ssy get in the way. I will keep flirting with chics but I'm not pursuing any chic unless they let me know that they are trying to kick with me and it going to be on my terms. Chase dreams, not ass!!!

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

at the airport right now waiting for my flight to DR BREHS
im in a state of


this will be my first ever resort

 

[Turbulent]

need your help fellas, if you make a bad decision 1 night, and you tell your girl, who you loves and she loves you, and she says she never wants to see or hear from you again, yet for the next 2 days continues to send you text telling you how disappointed she is and how hurt she is. Is there a chance that after a few days or maybe a couple weeks, the 2 of you will still be together, as long as you apologize, dont say anything to tick her off, and shows remore. I mean the relationship is 18 months into the making and she has made it clear that she wants to marry you

like others have said, you have to show her you sincerely regret. and then move on from it. you can't jut keep apologizing for something cause it makes you seem like a little bytch who will do whatever for her to like you again. See right now she's holding on the issue because to her, it's not about you recognizing what you did wrong, it's about using it as leverage on you to make you feel guilty. she wants to own your guilt and control you with it. she wants to make you feel like a bytch and she'll sstay with you until you completely submit to her and show her you can't live without her. then when she finds someone else she'll leave you cause she doesn't want to be with a bytch in the first place.

Always be ready to charge it to the game. Apologize sincerely. show her you hope she'll stay but that if she feels she can't get passed it, then it's up to her. and if she still tries to make you feel bad, then you know she's about abusing you for revenge so don't even reply. cause you probably think if you stick to it she'll calm down and the abuse will end. It won't...

but if you follow our advice chances are she'll eventually come back around and the fukked up thing is that it's not even for the reason you'd think. She'll probably come back around because she feels like she didn't get closure. she didn't get her revenge. she didn't get satisfaction because you didn't let her feed off of your guilt. so when she sees the guilt trip doesn't work, she'll try another tactic. she'll try to re-seduce you, try to get back with you, she'll wait and wait until she feels like you,re vulnerable and then strike. doesn't matter if it's years later, she'll STILL bring back that old shyt (cause it's been ether on her soul that she didn't get revenge for it). But if you keep apologizing to her it's game over for you. See she doesn't just want you not to talk to her anymore as she claimed. she wants you to feel destroyed and THEN not talk to you. You apologizing profusely and investing even more in her shows her you're on your way to that. Show her you want her to forgive you BUT you'll be alright either way and she'll get pissed but she'll stay because she didn't get satisfaction. and even if she doesn't, be ready to take that L

 

[Ohene]

at the airport right now waiting for my flight to DR BREHS
im in a state of


this will be my first ever resort

pictures and stories breh. Keep a diary if you must

 

[MikelArteta]

like others have said, you have to show her you sincerely regret. and then move on from it. you can't jut keep apologizing for something cause it makes you seem like a little bytch who will do whatever for her to like you again. See right now she's holding on the issue because to her, it's not about you recognizing what you did wrong, it's about using it as leverage on you to make you feel guilty. she wants to own your guilt and control you with it. she wants to make you feel like a bytch and she'll sstay with you until you completely submit to her and show her you can't live without her. then when she finds someone else she'll leave you cause she doesn't want to be with a bytch in the first place.

Always be ready to charge it to the game. Apologize sincerely. show her you hope she'll stay but that if she feels she can't get passed it, then it's up to her. and if she still tries to make you feel bad, then you know she's about abusing you for revenge so don't even reply. cause you probably think if you stick to it she'll calm down and the abuse will end. It won't...

but if you follow our advice chances are she'll eventually come back around and the fukked up thing is that it's not even for the reason you'd think. She'll probably come back around because she feels like she didn't get closure. she didn't get her revenge. she didn't get satisfaction because you didn't let her feed off of your guilt. so when she sees the guilt trip doesn't work, she'll try another tactic. she'll try to re-seduce you, try to get back with you, she'll wait and wait until she feels like you,re vulnerable and then strike. doesn't matter if it's years later, she'll STILL bring back that old shyt (cause it's been ether on her soul that she didn't get revenge for it). But if you keep apologizing to her it's game over for you. See she doesn't just want you not to talk to her anymore as she claimed. she wants you to feel destroyed and THEN not talk to you. You apologizing profusely and investing even more in her shows her you're on your way to that. Show her you want her to forgive you BUT you'll be alright either way and she'll get pissed but she'll stay because she didn't get satisfaction. and even if she doesn't, be ready to take that L

yep
if you notice out there, men rarely forgive, if a chick cheats on him etc. thats it done, for a women though you can mess up royally but because she hasn't had the chance to emotionally detach she will "forgive"

 

[MikelArteta]

This is how I'm feeling right now. I'm just trying to go for my dream into moving to CA and I'm not going let p*ssy get in the way. I will keep flirting with chics but I'm not pursuing any chic unless they let me know that they are trying to kick with me and it going to be on my terms. Chase dreams, not ass!!!

chicks will destroy that dream breh, end up with a chick, "but i dont want to go to cali, if you love me you'll stay here with me"

give up your dream of moving to cali to stay there, a year later, we need to talk

"i got a job offer in alaska, its my dream job, im going to accept it, i love you i hope you know that"

 

[Turbulent]

yep
if you notice out there, men rarely forgive, if a chick cheats on him etc. thats it done, for a women though you can mess up royally but because she hasn't had the chance to emotionally detach she will "forgive"

exactly. and that's our advantage over them. she NEEDS that win. it's kind of like playing a game with someone and they act real foul against you so you just stop the game and say "you know what, you keep acting like this, fine, you win, i gotta go anyway..." and leave with your ball. Typically what will happen is that the other person will want to play again because this "win" you let them have left a void within them. So now they NEED that legit win and they're at your mercy because you decide if you want to start a new game and on what terms...

 

[winb83]

need your help fellas, if you make a bad decision 1 night, and you tell your girl, who you loves and she loves you, and she says she never wants to see or hear from you again, yet for the next 2 days continues to send you text telling you how disappointed she is and how hurt she is. Is there a chance that after a few days or maybe a couple weeks, the 2 of you will still be together, as long as you apologize, dont say anything to tick her off, and shows remore. I mean the relationship is 18 months into the making and she has made it clear that she wants to marry you

Depends on what the mistake was. If it was cheating the relationship may be able to continue but the level of trust that was once there will be gone forever. things like that even if the relationship continues will have a high probability of either eroding it or will undermine it to the point that its pointless to continue because the trust is gone.

the actions you take have consequences, even the mistakes. you don't get to duck the consequences of your actions using the excuse of it being a mistake. the thing about mistakes is they only become mistakes in hindsight and only in the face of undesirable consequences of the action. before then it is just considered a decision you made.

your remorse for whatever you did is meaningless. at this point the only thing that really matters is if she can live with what you did and still continue to be with you. its the plate that got dropped and shattered on the floor and if you glue it back together it will forever be a broken plate you glued back together and it won't quite look the same again. that's something you'll always have to deal with.

 

[Ohene]

good analogy. Thats why people will tell you, when you notice the signs just evacuate.

You smell the smoke, hear the alarm and then finally see the large flame in the form of an argument. It may be your fault, perhaps you left the stove on too long. Or maybe a fuse just blew in the basement and theres nothing you could do to prevent it. Either way, are you gonna stand there and keep trying to throw buckets of water on it hoping the fire lessens slowly (when it will in fact make shyt worse)...or are you gonna bounce and call the fire department to handle the business?

One could say the fire department is a good friend she confides in or a family member to talk some sense in to her. Either way, its out of duke's hands. If the fire is too large and the home is beyond repair, youre better off purchasing a different home with that insurance policy than trying to rebuild for probably the same price. Otherwise...the house is saved and you move forward with caution based on what you've learned.

Just how I see it

 

[winb83]

good analogy. Thats why people will tell you, when you notice the signs just evacuate.

You smell the smoke, hear the alarm and then finally see the large flame in the form of an argument. It may be your fault, perhaps you left the stove on too long. Or maybe a fuse just blew in the basement and theres nothing you could do to prevent it. Either way, are you gonna stand there and keep trying to throw buckets of water on it hoping the fire lessens slowly (when it will in fact make shyt worse)...or are you gonna bounce and call the fire department to handle the business?

One could say the fire department is a good friend she confides in or a family member to talk some sense in to her. Either way, its out of duke's hands. If the fire is too large and the home is beyond repair, youre better off purchasing a different home with that insurance policy than trying to rebuild for probably the same price. Otherwise...the house is saved and you move forward with caution based on what you've learned.

Just how I see it

some people think just because a person is still interacting with them that the relationship is still salvageable. some times the relationship is dead and that other person is struggling just as hard as you to accept it.

just because two people love each other and want to be together that isn't necessarily enough to save a relationship. when things like trust go away a relationship is dead and even if you force it to continue you're more than likely to find that whatever you have left isn't something you'd want anyway.

its like the cliche on TV shows where a person begs another person to put them out of their misery and kill them. you could look at that and go i'd never ask somebody to do that to me but there are situations you can end up in that would make you prefer death.

 

[Mr210]

Depends on what the mistake was. If it was cheating the relationship may be able to continue but the level of trust that was once there will be gone forever. things like that even if the relationship continues will have a high probability of either eroding it or will undermine it to the point that its pointless to continue because the trust is gone.

the actions you take have consequences, even the mistakes. you don't get to duck the consequences of your actions using the excuse of it being a mistake. the thing about mistakes is they only become mistakes in hindsight and only in the face of undesirable consequences of the action. before then it is just considered a decision you made.

your remorse for whatever you did is meaningless. at this point the only thing that really matters is if she can live with what you did and still continue to be with you. its the plate that got dropped and shattered on the floor and if you glue it back together it will forever be a broken plate you glued back together and it won't quite look the same again. that's something you'll always have to deal with.

I didnt cheat, I just didnt handle a situation with my ex the way I should have

 

[Ohene]

real shyt. I've been caught up myself thinking, if we care about one another why cant we just do whats necessary to make it work? It's never that simple though. Things happen, and sometimes people just arent compatible or on the same page. Sometimes people want or expect different things...really what it comes down to.

If I were to ever cheat on a girl god forbid...and was caught I would just dead the relationship. Even with this last chick...I had at least three opportunities to cheat in two months all the while waiting to take her virginity but I refused to succumb. Theres no turning back and my conscience would eat me with that kinda thing to where I confess eventually

 

[OSUBaneBrowns]

chicks will destroy that dream breh, end up with a chick, "but i dont want to go to cali, if you love me you'll stay here with me"

give up your dream of moving to cali to stay there, a year later, we need to talk

"i got a job offer in alaska, its my dream job, im going to accept it, i love you i hope you know that"

That shyt happen to my boss once he got married. He wanted to leave the state and his fiancee was ok with it. But once he made it official and marry her, she flip the script and told him that she didn't want to move away from her family. Now she trying to get him to get a house near her parents and he hates the area that her parents live. I told that man he better put his foot down on this one.

 

[Ohene]

I didnt cheat, I just didnt handle a situation with my ex the way I should have

so that thread was for you eh

personally I think she is overreacting. I hear where shes coming from but still...its no different from watching porn.

That being said I've never done it with an ex and i delete messages like that right after no matter what

 

[philmonroe]

yall remember my "im about to fall in love thread a while ago?"

let me tell yall something about women....


They will save you from yourself, and show you who they are when you arent looking

caught shorty grinding on some dude at a party yesterday...but I didnt let her see me, and she hit me up on some when we gon chill....and im like

"I think you should lose my number".....and never responded to her again....



these women love being disloyal...its almost like a drug to them. shyt is so relieving knowing that us men that are down on women nowadays arent the ones that are A. Bitter B. Incorrect

because these women are giving us every reason to be down on them.....





rule for you dudes out here: If a woman thats SINGLE acts like a woman thats in relationship with a dude, even if she isnt in one (I mean keeps herself away from getting attention from other guys like a committed woman (real woman) would do for her man)

u scoop that girl up quick.....

sadly you will never find a woman like that because she is either already in a relationship....or married.

any bytch thats still single, and/or attractive these days there is a reason she is not with a man. Women are stupid, men arent...if we see something thats worth it, we scoop it up.


hope this helps.

Regarding the bold its a thin line cause since we know chicks don't really have no game why would they then act taken if they not (also knowing alot of guys if a chick seems taken won't risk talking to her)? I dont want no chick that is a party chick but at the same time I don't want no boring chick. Its just so hard to find that balance but I guess it wouldn't be life if it wasn't lol