Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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yeah exactly man. That's what I'm telling cat.s They need to see how a woman is when they think you are NOT around. A lot of these cats talking about they trust their girl and how secure they are because they aren't checking into what their girl does when they are not around will be in for a surprise of just how different she acts when she doesn't know he is looking.


Me, what put my mind at ease is knowing that I DON'T have to wife these women I'm dealing with. I've seen too much that they are only entertainment in my eyes unless she really proves differently... and she has to go hard to prove that to me. I used to want to rush and make a woman my wifey, but nowadays? No way. No how. I'm going to be real with you. A lot of women are TURNED ON by being disloyal. Doing sneaky stuff really gives them a rush.

I don't expect loyalty from these females and thus I'm in no rush to wife them up. Women are merely entertainment until proven otherwise, and that ain't anything that's easy to prove. I remember back in the day when I used to be like man that dude is lucky because he is in a relationship with that beautiful woman. Now, I'm like, "Well God bless him... I hope he can deal with that nonsense she's going to bring around, because I sure can't."



my dude, shyt is amazing how life works...in the same week I was about to make the next step with her that night too....shyt is unbelievable....and the best part is that I aint even mad? Im legit happier than I've been in a while....I think most of my anxiety came in that situation because I was scared to be proved right again, and I came close to not listening to my gut


im starting to realize this...ALWAYS trust your gut if its negative when it comes to a woman.....and NEVER trust your gut when its positive when it comes to a woman...only trust her actions and results through a very long period of time.
 

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yall remember my "im about to fall in love thread a while ago?"

let me tell yall something about women....


They will save you from yourself, and show you who they are when you arent looking

caught shorty grinding on some dude at a party yesterday...but I didnt let her see me, and she hit me up on some when we gon chill....and im like

"I think you should lose my number".....and never responded to her again....



these women love being disloyal...its almost like a drug to them. shyt is so relieving knowing that us men that are down on women nowadays arent the ones that are A. Bitter B. Incorrect

because these women are giving us every reason to be down on them.....





rule for you dudes out here: If a woman thats SINGLE acts like a woman thats in relationship with a dude, even if she isnt in one (I mean keeps herself away from getting attention from other guys like a committed woman (real woman) would do for her man)

u scoop that girl up quick.....

sadly you will never find a woman like that because she is either already in a relationship....or married.

any bytch thats still single, and/or attractive these days there is a reason she is not with a man. Women are stupid, men arent...if we see something thats worth it, we scoop it up.


hope this helps.

very true. i've always said, party girls are never to be wifed. that chick u saw grinding on another dude, im sure u know the number reason she likes to party is to be able to do JUST THAT. so when i meet these stupid b1tches who like to swear they go to parties for other reasons, i literally laugh in their faces.
 

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need your help fellas, if you make a bad decision 1 night, and you tell your girl, who you loves and she loves you, and she says she never wants to see or hear from you again, yet for the next 2 days continues to send you text telling you how disappointed she is and how hurt she is. Is there a chance that after a few days or maybe a couple weeks, the 2 of you will still be together, as long as you apologize, dont say anything to tick her off, and shows remore. I mean the relationship is 18 months into the making and she has made it clear that she wants to marry you
 

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yeah exactly man. That's what I'm telling cat.s They need to see how a woman is when they think you are NOT around. A lot of these cats talking about they trust their girl and how secure they are because they aren't checking into what their girl does when they are not around will be in for a surprise of just how different she acts when she doesn't know he is looking.


Me, what put my mind at ease is knowing that I DON'T have to wife these women I'm dealing with. I've seen too much that they are only entertainment in my eyes unless she really proves differently... and she has to go hard to prove that to me. I used to want to rush and make a woman my wifey, but nowadays? No way. No how. I'm going to be real with you. A lot of women are TURNED ON by being disloyal. Doing sneaky stuff really gives them a rush.

I don't expect loyalty from these females and thus I'm in no rush to wife them up. Women are merely entertainment until proven otherwise, and that ain't anything that's easy to prove. I remember back in the day when I used to be like man that dude is lucky because he is in a relationship with that beautiful woman. Now, I'm like, "Well God bless him... I hope he can deal with that nonsense she's going to bring around, because I sure can't."

you can disarm that by never letting them know how much u really care. but this is extremely difficult for guys to do. if a guy is really feeling a girl he'll let her know, either on purpose or through his overly eager actions.

when a girl feels like u can do without her, the rush to screw around on u will be significantly reduced if not eliminated. how can u make a girl feel u can do without her? be very quick to punish her if she disrespects u. if she cancels or changes plans on u, punish her with days of no contact or infrequent replies void of emotion.

some may argue that if u do all of that, u'll only drive her further away. well, she's already driven herself away if she ever begins to cancel or changes plans on u for reasons that aren't emergencies.
 

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very true. i've always said, party girls are never to be wifed. that chick u saw grinding on another dude, im sure u know the number reason she likes to party is to be able to do JUST THAT. so when i meet these stupid b1tches who like to swear they go to parties for other reasons, i literally laugh in their faces.

shyt is literally hilarious loool...chick birthday is also coming up this week.....guess shes gona have to celebrate that shyt with homie she was grinding on.
 

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that's exactly why i tell cats they better be able to let a mami go and not miss a beat. you NEVER know what that woman is up to. A man got to do too much to 'hopefully' garner loyalty from a woman.

I'm more like screw it, I ain't doing anything outside of my normal routine. To deal with a woman these days, you got to put on the act like you don't really care that she's around. You got to be nonchalant, distant and treat her like she's a commodity like wheat... she's one grain, and there's millions of grains just like her... but really, who wants to do that all the time?

IT's like these days, I enjoy getting dressed up and all, having women stare... having them little conversations is a lot of fun, but in the back of my mind I'm always thinking man I doubt I can trust this gal... this ain't really going to go nowhere. I ain't mad at it... I just realize I can't hold on to the ungraspable.
 

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need your help fellas, if you make a bad decision 1 night, and you tell your girl, who you loves and she loves you, and she says she never wants to see or hear from you again, yet for the next 2 days continues to send you text telling you how disappointed she is and how hurt she is. Is there a chance that after a few days or maybe a couple weeks, the 2 of you will still be together, as long as you apologize, dont say anything to tick her off, and shows remore. I mean the relationship is 18 months into the making and she has made it clear that she wants to marry you

man, she has only a few days, a week max, to get her act together. if not she can get lost.

u cant go around letting the tears of women affect ur decision making. this is ur chance to forever cement in her mind ur a man's man. apologize very clearly for one final time, and cease all contact. dont tell her ur going to cease contact. just stop responding to her texts if it aint about meeting up.

all that texting and "non-physical" interactions are ways women use to rebound on to the next guy.
 

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need your help fellas, if you make a bad decision 1 night, and you tell your girl, who you loves and she loves you, and she says she never wants to see or hear from you again, yet for the next 2 days continues to send you text telling you how disappointed she is and how hurt she is. Is there a chance that after a few days or maybe a couple weeks, the 2 of you will still be together, as long as you apologize, dont say anything to tick her off, and shows remore. I mean the relationship is 18 months into the making and she has made it clear that she wants to marry you


As long as you don't go around begging and crying like a simp, then you may have an opportunity to go ahead with it. Just let her know in a matter of fact manner, "Look babygirl I made a mistake and we're going to have to push past it if there will be an 'us'. That's the bottom line."

You'll just have to let her choose what she wants to do, and whatever she chooses, you'll be straight.
 

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that's exactly why i tell cats they better be able to let a mami go and not miss a beat. you NEVER know what that woman is up to. A man got to do too much to 'hopefully' garner loyalty from a woman.

I'm more like screw it, I ain't doing anything outside of my normal routine. To deal with a woman these days, you got to put on the act like you don't really care that she's around. You got to be nonchalant, distant and treat her like she's a commodity like wheat... she's one grain, and there's millions of grains just like her... but really, who wants to do that all the time?

IT's like these days, I enjoy getting dressed up and all, having women stare... having them little conversations is a lot of fun, but in the back of my mind I'm always thinking man I doubt I can trust this gal... this ain't really going to go nowhere. I ain't mad at it... I just realize I can't hold on to the ungraspable.


Most definitely.. You hold more sand with an open palm than a closed fist..
 

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man, she has only a few days, a week max, to get her act together. if not she can get lost.

u cant go around letting the tears of women affect ur decision making. this is ur chance to forever cement in her mind ur a man's man. apologize very clearly for one final time, and cease all contact. dont tell her ur going to cease contact. just stop responding to her texts if it aint about meeting up.

all that texting and "non-physical" interactions are ways women use to rebound on to the next guy.

For sure, freeze her out with all the texts/emails.. That ain't nothing but a ploy to get validation from you to charge her up to get with the next nikka..

Women are like monkeys, they never let go of a branch until they have the next one firmly grasped..
 

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