Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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See my post above I hate women like that (we didn't have sex but did basically everything else).I hate after the fact women, when I was all over her she was telling me don't stop how it feels amazingz next day :hubie:

Are you talking about the one I had sex with? Or are you talking about the one that still lives with her ex?

First girl, yea I hate that she blew up my phone and so quick to call me every name she could SMH.
 

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First girl , these chicks are willing participants then try and guilt trip you after.



Are you talking about the one I had sex with? Or are you talking about the one that still lives with her ex?

First girl, yea I hate that she blew up my phone and so quick to call me every name she could SMH.
 

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Brehs, incorporate more coffee dates as the first or second option when taking a woman out. You really get to know who’s worth your real $$ if you two can vibe and have a conversation in that setting. Often times, fancy restaurants and the food can be used as a crutch, and most chicks aren’t turning down free food. They may be worth something if they are down for some coffee and conversations tho.
 

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Well just got the we went too far yesterday to early without a clear definition of what we are, I did things with you that I should only do with my future husband I been feeling bad all day text.

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See my post above I hate women like that (we didn't have sex but did basically everything else).

I hate after the fact women, when I was all over her she was telling me don't stop how it feels amazingz next day :hubie:

First girl , these chicks are willing participants then try and guilt trip you after.

Homie by all accounts of what you've told us, you have a good woman that fits you. Don't lose heart or switch up because she's being a woman. This is just what they do. As you saw from breh you quoted, the woman he was dealing with is an atheist and still felt bad about messing around.

It's her social conditioning -- nothing more, nothing less.

All you gotta do is stay solid and let her know that you had an amazing experience that you're happy you shared with her. Let her know that you're a man that owns his sexuality and that you don't get caught up in whatever labels society puts on things.

She's basically saying "I LOVED messing around with you, but do you think I'm a slut?"

If you don't think so then don't give any energy to stressing out. This is a hugely pivotal moment because she's looking to you for reassurance, as she will time and time again if y'all are going to have any sort of relationship.

She's doing the woman thing and being emotional and spazzing out.

Do the man thing and don't be swayed by it -- lead her to your vision and train of thought instead.
 

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:salute:

This is why I keep coming back to this thread.


Homie by all accounts of what you've told us, you have a good woman that fits you. Don't lose heart or switch up because she's being a woman. This is just what they do. As you saw from breh you quoted, the woman he was dealing with is an atheist and still felt bad about messing around.

It's her social conditioning -- nothing more, nothing less.

All you gotta do is stay solid and let her know that you had an amazing experience that you're happy you shared with her. Let her know that you're a man that owns his sexuality and that you don't get caught up in whatever labels society puts on things.

She's basically saying "I LOVED messing around with you, but do you think I'm a slut?"

If you don't think so then don't give any energy to stressing out. This is a hugely pivotal moment because she's looking to you for reassurance, as she will time and time again if y'all are going to have any sort of relationship.

She's doing the woman thing and being emotional and spazzing out.

Do the man thing and don't be swayed by it -- lead her to your vision and train of thought instead.
 

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:salute:

This is why I keep coming back to this thread.

Bruh I got married in my early 20's and am 8 years deep :wow:

Trust me when I say that at no point do you get relief from women doing what women do. Even the good ones that are super down are still women. All we can control is what we do about it.

My marriage is beautiful, but it's because me and my lady have had to go through hell and constantly put ego aside and decide how to stay true to ourselves while still building together. As a result, I've learned more about women through trial and MOSTLY error, and only this year am feeling like I have superpowers when it comes to truly understanding women and fitting them into my life.

I'd be a selfish punk to not share what I've picked up :wow:

Godspeed breh :salute:
 

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Seem you got yourself a good one breh :salute:

How did you two manage to stick through the hell portions of a relationship

Bruh I got married in my early 20's and am 8 years deep :wow:

Trust me when I say that at no point do you get relief from women doing what women do. Even the good ones that are super down are still women. All we can control is what we do about it.

My marriage is beautiful, but it's because me and my lady have had to go through hell and constantly put ego aside and decide how to stay true to ourselves while still building together. As a result, I've learned more about women through trial and MOSTLY error, and only this year am feeling like I have superpowers when it comes to truly understanding women and fitting them into my life.

I'd be a selfish punk to not share what I've picked up :wow:

Godspeed breh :salute:
 
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So is it the wave now to avoid dudes on social media even though you know/knew them personally? We doing that now?

I don't know if this helps (I don't even have social media now) but I had one chick who would hit me up on whatsapp but wouldn't add me on anything else. It wasn't that she wasn't into me, it was that she didn't want me going through her shyt :pachaha:

These broads are just :wow:

I don't know how I still do it :russ:
 

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I don't know if this helps (I don't even have social media now) but I had one chick who would hit me up on whatsapp but wouldn't add me on anything else. It wasn't that she wasn't into me, it was that she didn't want me going through her shyt :pachaha:

These broads are just :wow:

I don't know how I still do it :russ:


Breh these women are something else. :pachaha: I'm constantly trying to study them but they always throw me for a loop. :wow:

update: so we sent each other a few messages. I got to asking her pretty quickly(because I'm not trying to waste my time on social meida) if she wanted to go out. She told me what her availability was like. I told her this friday or saturday would be good.

She told me she doesn't work for the company but the last message she sent me she asked me if I still worked for the company. I said yes. Saw she read the message haven't heard back from her yet. I know that particular site laid off a lot of people so if she was indeed laid off I hope she not feeling a type of way.
 

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Brehs, incorporate more coffee dates as the first or second option when taking a woman out. You really get to know who’s worth your real $$ if you two can vibe and have a conversation in that setting. Often times, fancy restaurants and the food can be used as a crutch, and most chicks aren’t turning down free food. They may be worth something if they are down for some coffee and conversations tho.
I despise dinner dates and never saw the point unless you're taking your already girlfriend out for date night or something.

the last few dates I've been on were all walks in the park, out for ice cream, picnics or for my fellow stoners- kick it somewhere outdoors or in my car and and enjoy a smoke. We all know this im sure but its just makes so much more sense because if a chic ghosts you or shyt doesnt pan out, at least your time may have been wasted but your money wasn't
 

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Brehs, incorporate more coffee dates as the first or second option when taking a woman out. You really get to know who’s worth your real $$ if you two can vibe and have a conversation in that setting. Often times, fancy restaurants and the food can be used as a crutch, and most chicks aren’t turning down free food. They may be worth something if they are down for some coffee and conversations tho.

I agree coffee dates are economical especially if you talking to many women & wanna get to know them on a first date.

Black women will look down on a coffee date as being cheap though:francis:

Coffee dates are usually a white girl thing.
 

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I agree coffee dates are economical especially if you talking to many women & wanna get to know them on a first date.

Black women will look down on a coffee date as being cheap though:francis:

Coffee dates are usually a white girl thing.
I agree. One of the black girls I’m talking to now, we met up for lunch on our first meet up. She asked when were we going to link up again and I hit her with that “let’s meet up at Starbucks and kick it” just to see what she would say. She was down with it and we actually had a good time, and I only spent $8 on both of us :smugdraper:
 
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