Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[True Blue Moon]

She invited me over today so I went brought her some food I made , we were just chilling watching true detective.

It's getting late so I said I gotta go, she asked me to tuck her in I said sure, then she asked if she could kiss me.

One thing led to another just getting home now.

Still maintaining my covenant no sex before marriage but .

No disrespect, but that covenant is probably going to go by the wayside if that night and the girl are how you're saying.

When a man and woman cross paths and the energy is that potent, it's usually going to play itself out one way or another. Especially if it all feels right as far as her being a quality woman.

Not trying to put salt in your commitment, just don't want you to beat yourself up if it happens. I grew up with and lean toward the good book myself, but you're also going through the natural order of things as a human animal

 

[Ohene]

Yo breh is up with these chicks?

There was this nice Caribbean girl at my job. We were vibing imo. She would always say bye to me whenever she would go home. We would also talk often after work. I really feel like she was choosing on me. However, as I have stated previously on here I dont fukk with co workers

Well eventually she ends up transferring to a new building. So I literally I haven't seen this chick in like two months. Well one day last week I was like let me search for her on FB. I Send her a message on Saturday afternoon no response no nothing we on Monday now

So is it the wave now to avoid dudes on social media even though you know/knew them personally? We doing that now? Guess I read shawty wrong and she was never into me like that. Looking at her profile doesn't look like she has a man, but it does look like she left the company. Maybe she doesn't want to deal with anyone from the company. IDK. Nevertheless I'd be lying if I said I wasn't expecting some sort of response. So that does have me a little tight, but I'd be more upset if I didn't reach out to her than her apparently rejecting me.

a lotta ppl dont be checking fb like that

 

[全能の神]

No matter what anyone says, you cant be friends with a chick you have feelings for.

 

[Rich Spirit]

I was chopping it up with this chick then proceeded to ask her what’s her number so I can call you sometime..........she responds by saying:

“Not, may I have your number or is it okay if we exchange numbers?”

Then says: “I’m sorry, I’m not trying to give you a hard time, but there is a difference between asking & telling.”

I’m getting a feeling that I have to ask for permission to get the number

Chime on this brehs..

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

I was chopping it up with this chick then proceeded to ask her what’s her number so I can call you sometime..........she responds by saying:

“Not, may I have your number or is it okay if we exchange numbers?”

Then says: “I’m sorry, I’m not trying to give you a hard time, but there is a difference between asking & telling.”

I’m getting a feeling that I have to ask for permission to get the number

Chime on this brehs..

I would’ve dropped the conversation and walked away.

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

No matter what anyone says, you cant be friends with a chick you have feelings for.

Why would you want to anyway?

 

[True Blue Moon]

I was chopping it up with this chick then proceeded to ask her what’s her number so I can call you sometime..........she responds by saying:

“Not, may I have your number or is it okay if we exchange numbers?”

Then says: “I’m sorry, I’m not trying to give you a hard time, but there is a difference between asking & telling.”

I’m getting a feeling that I have to ask for permission to get the number

Chime on this brehs..

She's shyt testing you. Brush it off and come back with humor or something emotionally detached from the hoops she's trying to get you to jump through. If she's even having that back and forth it means that the answer is yes.

Don't let her tests throw you off your square.

Stand on your shyt but KEEP IT LIGHT AND PLAYFUL -- in a way that makes her feel silly for playing this game, but not like you're hurt and angry about it.

EDIT:

That's in the moment though. If it's already passed and y'all have gone your separate ways for the day I wouldn't go back behind her trying to get the number again unless she engages you first.

She's making easy things hard, which is feminine energy 101. It's fine to wrestle or spar with that as long as it's on your terms and with you setting the tone and not acquiescing to her nonsense.

 

[StretfordRed]

Ex contacted me almost exactly one year after she left. I let her message marinate for 12 hours. This is how conversation went:

Her: Hello, how are you?
Me: Good, you?
Her: Good, thank you

I can't believe this is the person I've spent three years with. You left bytch, let it go already, fukk your weird ass messages.

I've been in a pain for half a year after she left, and now she expects me to chase her after I felt like shyt?

bytch brought that pain back with her weird ass texting.

This is the worst because your heart rate spikes, you can’t think straight and your mind races

Best thing is to not have responded as it may open the flood gates to start a “friendship” (women love being friends with exes to not make them feel bad)

But since you have, try and keep it moving and not think too much of it

 

[StretfordRed]

On a side note. When you plan a date with a chick and she says you decide what we do. How you feel?

Me I get a lil annoyed because what I want to do is not social at all

 

[Ohene]

On a side note. When you plan a date with a chick and she says you decide what we do. How you feel?

Me I get a lil annoyed because what I want to do is not social at all

annoying as fukk breh. as a man you gotta do all the work until you smash

 

[Goon for hire]

Coli brehs should I go ahead and bush this new girl?

We hung out Saturday night and it was cool, I thought we were vibing well.

But I realize now I am the one instigating all conversation.

Sunday she waited for me to text her and then texted and FaceTime me.

Same thing earlier in school today, she waited for me to send a text (we don't have any classes together.)

Did talk with her after school and abit during lunch.

Does it sound like she's just not that interested and I should bush her before I make a fool out of myself again?

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

Coli brehs should I go ahead and bush this new girl?

We hung out Saturday night and it was cool, I thought we were vibing well.

But I realize now I am the one instigating all conversation.

Sunday she waited for me to text her and then texted and FaceTime me.

Same thing earlier in school today, she waited for me to send a text (we don't have any classes together.)

Did talk with her after school and abit during lunch.

Does it sound like she's just not that interested and I should bush her before I make a fool out of myself again?

I don’t see how anything you typed would make you think you should drop her. You guys just met. You want her to be knocking down your door already? Nothing matters until you smash. THEN you’ll know where you stand with her.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Weird the kinds feminine energy I been getting today. Think even that Asian chick I mentioned was peeping. The subtlties

 

[Goon for hire]

I don’t see how anything you typed would make you think you should drop her. You guys just met. You want her to be knocking down your door already? Nothing matters until you smash. THEN you’ll know where you stand with her.

I read in here that when a girl is really feeling you though they go out of their way to initiate conversation.

I am the one initiating all conversations.....after I start conversations though she will talk and be open with me, but it just seems she is waiting for me to initiate everything

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

I read in here that when a girl is really feeling you though they go out of their way to initiate conversation.

I am the one initiating all conversations.....after I start conversations though she will talk and be open with me, but it just seems she is waiting for me to initiate everything

It’s what men do. We initiate. Don’t overthink this. If she’s actually giving you a conversation and not a bunch of one word answers then you’re fine. Right now you’re just a dude she is getting to know. You’re expecting too much too soon. Keep it simple for now.