Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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nikka said 3 or 4 plus my main:russ:

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Breh, I've had to cut it down significantly too much time was getting spent on chicks I just wanted to have sex with and nothing else.

Realistically three plus my main would be workable.

What eases it slightly is two of those women know about my main so they understand I can't see them all the time. TBH that's one of the pluses of seeing busy career women. They are perfect for FWB situations and realistic in what they want from them.

Plus they are stimulating me mentally as well as physically. Just fukking chicks has gotten boring.
 
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So like...is there some way of getting rapport with females? Not even in a sexual way, just in general? I always found it hard to befirend/make females feel comfortable with me....not that I creep them out, (although some people say I have a very intimidating look to myself),but I noticed that others tend to be able to be more "comfortable" and find it easier to socialize with them (like make then laugh and shyt)....

Maybe I'm answering my own question, but it could be because of my breathing patterns like someone told me on here previously (I was tod my face probably always looks sense because I'm not breathing correctly)....

One of the worst issues Ive had over the years is overthinking. It gets in the way of school, work and mostly women. There was this one jewish chic I went to hang out with and we kicked it in her bedroom listening to music and putting each other onto some old school rap. For the most part we were on her bed and I never felt a vibe to go in and advance because she gave off a vibe that she was not trying to have sex and just wanted the company, no biggie right? Before i left I made a cutesy joke when she hugged me saying I wanted to kiss her and she blushed and immidiately we ended up making out for a bit until we stopped and I went home. after that night I was adament that I really fukked up on not advancing on her :snoop: and told myself I gotta be more aggressive or else women will vilify me if Im in that situation of being alone in her room late without smashing

she ended up not texting me back for a week and my thoughts were reassured. I tried texting her a little over a week and told her in a short text saying that I dont know if i gave her the wrong idea of not advancing on her that night and even explained that i usually get to know the female that im potentially let sit on my face :manny: shorty ended up texting me back and long story short she explained that she wasnt even trying to have sex that night and just wanted company which shows i was overthinking what I thought was a mistake i made and she told me she wants to see me again and setup the plans :ehh:

my point of this seemingly pointless story is that you should never overthink your actions or overthink what youre doing is wrong. Be yourself dude, without thinking if your normal self is good enough, which sounds like what your problem is. It sounds simple and generic but a lot of us forget this simple thought in the long pursuit of chasing p*ssy. Some men have a type of sauce that ALL women are drawn to, some have to work a little more because a lot of wack bytches, whom are still potential p*ssy, will overlook us.
 

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For the brehs who lift. Would it be a waste of time getting a personal trainer
to me it seemed pointless and only for people who lack the self motivation. It would be logical to get a couple lessons so that you learn what to do in the gym if you're a beginner but other than that just get in that muthafukka and lift
 

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to me it seemed pointless and only for people who lack the self motivation. It would be logical to get a couple lessons so that you learn what to do in the gym if you're a beginner but other than that just get in that muthafukka and lift

That's what I was planning on doing. I just need help diet wise
 

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She invited me over today so I went brought her some food I made :ehh:, we were just chilling watching true detective.

It's getting late so I said I gotta go, she asked me to tuck her in I said sure, then she asked if she could kiss me.

One thing led to another just getting home now.

Still maintaining my covenant no sex before marriage but :sadcam:.

:wow:
 

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Yo breh is up with these chicks?:pachaha:

There was this nice Caribbean girl at my job. We were vibing imo. She would always say bye to me whenever she would go home. We would also talk often after work. I really feel like she was choosing on me. However, as I have stated previously on here I dont fukk with co workers :manny:

Well eventually she ends up transferring to a new building. So I literally I haven't seen this chick in like two months. Well one day last week I was like let me search for her on FB. I Send her a message on Saturday afternoon no response no nothing we on Monday now :patrice:

So is it the wave now to avoid dudes on social media even though you know/knew them personally? We doing that now? Guess I read shawty wrong and she was never into me like that. Looking at her profile doesn't look like she has a man, but it does look like she left the company. Maybe she doesn't want to deal with anyone from the company. IDK. Nevertheless I'd be lying if I said I wasn't expecting some sort of response. So that does have me a little tight, but I'd be more upset if I didn't reach out to her than her apparently rejecting me.
 

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Yo breh is up with these chicks?:pachaha:

There was this nice Caribbean girl at my job. We were vibing imo. She would always say bye to me whenever she would go home. We would also talk often after work. I really feel like she was choosing on me. However, as I have stated previously on here I dont fukk with co workers :manny:

Well eventually she ends up transferring to a new building. So I literally I haven't seen this chick in like two months. Well one day last week I was like let me search for her on FB. I Send her a message on Saturday afternoon no response no nothing we on Monday now :patrice:

So is it the wave now to avoid dudes on social media even though you know/knew them personally? We doing that now? Guess I read shawty wrong and she was never into me like that. Looking at her profile doesn't look like she has a man, but it does look like she left the company. Maybe she doesn't want to deal with anyone from the company. IDK. Nevertheless I'd be lying if I said I wasn't expecting some sort of response. So that does have me a little tight, but I'd be more upset if I didn't reach out to her than her apparently rejecting me.

Lol has she seen the message? Doesn't FB show read receipts? In any case not worth stressing over it. People do it all the time and not just chicks ex workers I thought I had rapports with change up once they move companies and act brand new or air old colleagues.

tbh I'd rather that than a chick playing the make him wait game.
 

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Yo breh is up with these chicks?:pachaha:

There was this nice Caribbean girl at my job. We were vibing imo. She would always say bye to me whenever she would go home. We would also talk often after work. I really feel like she was choosing on me. However, as I have stated previously on here I dont fukk with co workers :manny:

Well eventually she ends up transferring to a new building. So I literally I haven't seen this chick in like two months. Well one day last week I was like let me search for her on FB. I Send her a message on Saturday afternoon no response no nothing we on Monday now :patrice:

So is it the wave now to avoid dudes on social media even though you know/knew them personally? We doing that now? Guess I read shawty wrong and she was never into me like that. Looking at her profile doesn't look like she has a man, but it does look like she left the company. Maybe she doesn't want to deal with anyone from the company. IDK. Nevertheless I'd be lying if I said I wasn't expecting some sort of response. So that does have me a little tight, but I'd be more upset if I didn't reach out to her than her apparently rejecting me.

I know when u aren't friend's on fb or added the person on messenger. Then its the message had to be approved firdt
 

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I know when u aren't friend's on fb or added the person on messenger. Then its the message had to be approved firdt

Lol has she seen the message? Doesn't FB show read receipts? In any case not worth stressing over it. People do it all the time and not just chicks ex workers I thought I had rapports with change up once they move companies and act brand new or air old colleagues.

tbh I'd rather that than a chick playing the make him wait game.

Well despite the bytching and crying I did she just hit me up. :pachaha: We'll see where it goes. I'm like a lot of brehs I'm just not about the DM(texting) stuff. I know you have to act fast with these chicks so I just want to go in and seal the deal. Get her #, do a little chit chatting and get her to agree to go out with me. Just dont want to come off too strong or thirsty
 

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Ex contacted me almost exactly one year after she left. I let her message marinate for 12 hours. This is how conversation went:

Her: Hello, how are you?
Me: Good, you?
Her: Good, thank you

I can't believe this is the person I've spent three years with. You left bytch, let it go already, fukk your weird ass messages. :picard:

I've been in a pain for half a year after she left, and now she expects me to chase her after I felt like shyt? :picard:

bytch brought that pain back with her weird ass texting.
 

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So I got this shorty's number and I talked with her a bit and I asked her out and she wrote this shyt.


"As flattering and tempting that might be I wouldn’t be able to do that for 2 reasons I have a crazy boyfriend even though he’s mostly my ex and I have 2 exams coming up and I’m probably going to need my Sunday to study. But if u ever stay for the weekend maybe we can go chill or study in the park if it’s sunny and stuff"
:childplease:


lol wtf fukk outta here :russ: She is from Florida and is up here for school. We in same doctorate program and she is a semester ahead of me. Whatever there is a Halloween party coming up imma move onto the next one. Man these hoes be leading you on and shyt and say some shyt like this. :childplease:
Why not invite her to the crib to study together?. You get your alone time and could where her mind is at
 

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Odd weekend.

So my Friday was pretty good :takedat:. Lost much care for my ex, (:camby::umad:) and it was my boys birthday so went out in a spot in south London.

So I get there and spot my target chick in there, looks a lil foreign, curly hair, etc. I tell my thunns that that's my target for the night. So we about 2 drinks down and I look around and she isn't there. I'm thinking I lost my shot...but then around 5 mins later I see her and her friend are chilling at the bar again :mjgrin:

So I try and glance at her and she looks away straight away :sadcam:. I try and catch her eye again, and she finally looks back and smiles...I smile back. I look at her again a few mins later and gave her a lil head nod to come over. She comes over which surprised me as its not just a thing that happens in London when I'm with my mans.

So we having a lil banter, she's tipsy I'm tipsy, and I we danced for a while, and she's holding my hand all over the place. I'm pretty wrecked at this point, so I felt fukk it.

She introduced me to the friend who she was with, but then she left without her a little while after, so she was all alone. Few brehs tried to scoop her when I was away at the bar or toilet but she ended up moving to where my mans were. At one point I came back when one breh was around her and I slowed down my approach when I got around her and watched for a few secs, but she caught me and just came and grabbed me.

A few mins later, we fukked in the toilets :snoop:..

Then I went back to hers and fukked her again, but couldn't mash her in her room (couldn't take her to mine either). So mashed her in the bathroom for a while and I asked if I could mash in her room and she said nah, as her housemate was around (housemate is old and she's staying there as a favour)..So I bounce and im cool about the whole situation..swapped numbers and she we'd holla

She hit me up in the morning and we were meant to link the later in the day (Saturday), but we both had shyt going on - and tbh I haven't hit her up since then. I'm feeling her, but she's young (she mid 20's, I'm 32 :flabbynsick:) and loose and I don't even know how to engage with her on a level. She's not gonna be wifey, but I'm generally a gentleman when it comes to women and I think because this girl is so young, she may not appreciate that.

I don't even know if I should hit her up again :russ: or when..or wtf to even talk about. The day after mashing, I asked her if she wants to just have dinner and a movie, and she said it sounds nice - but man just thought that she'd find it boring and she's just want to go out and get loose:jbhmm:

Think I may need to treat this young'un as dirt to keep her perky - But I don't even know how to be that guy :merchant:
 

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That's why you change your number or don't reply.

She knew the exact date and was trying to trigger you.

It's amazing when women dump you and don't want you anymore but one you no longer care and get on with your life thats when they pop up.



Ex contacted me almost exactly one year after she left. I let her message marinate for 12 hours. This is how conversation went:

Her: Hello, how are you?
Me: Good, you?
Her: Good, thank you

I can't believe this is the person I've spent three years with. You left bytch, let it go already, fukk your weird ass messages. :picard:

I've been in a pain for half a year after she left, and now she expects me to chase her after I felt like shyt? :picard:

bytch brought that pain back with her weird ass texting.
 

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She hit me up in the morning and we were meant to link the later in the day (Saturday), but we both had shyt going on - and tbh I haven't hit her up since then. I'm feeling her, but she's young (she mid 20's, I'm 32 :flabbynsick:) and loose and I don't even know how to engage with her on a level. She's not gonna be wifey, but I'm generally a gentleman when it comes to women and I think because this girl is so young, she may not appreciate that.

I don't even know if I should hit her up again :russ: or when..or wtf to even talk about. The day after mashing, I asked her if she wants to just have dinner and a movie, and she said it sounds nice - but man just thought that she'd find it boring and she's just want to go out and get loose:jbhmm:

Think I may need to treat this young'un as dirt to keep her perky - But I don't even know how to be that guy :merchant:

I get that she's peng but she presented herself like a sket, treat her like a sket :manny: I wouldn't overthink it too much, just play it by ear :ld:
 
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