Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Reality]

He made the biggest mistake by having this conversation play out publicly on FB.

Like I always say, it makes no sense to try to justify your actions with females or try to prove them wrong.

They live in a bubble, and use social networks as social support and consensus.

He should have just acknowledged that it was over, and go to her place and get his things.

These are things not to do.

I actually disagree with you. He kept calm but also called her out on her bullshyt. It needs to happen more often. He also has an interest in defending his rep there since she put him on blast. It's obviously not going to change her mind, but there are others watching.

 

[Sharp]

I actually disagree with you. He kept calm but also called her out on her bullshyt. It needs to happen more often. He also has an interest in defending his rep there since she put him on blast. It's obviously not going to change her mind, but there are others watching.

What did he gain from that exchange?

As a man, you should show restraint and not allow your disputes with a woman to be dragged into the public.

Yes, he was calm, but he put his business out there.

If I have already decided that I want nothing to do with a woman, why am I arguing with her or trying to prove a point? A moral victory?

He should have just gotten his stuff and wished her a good life and then went along his way.

You can't win an argument with a woman, so it makes no sense to engage in these type of interactions. It is time consuming and gets you nowhere.

Why waste the time and energy.

 

[winb83]

I actually disagree with you. He kept calm but also called her out on her bullshyt. It needs to happen more often. He also has an interest in defending his rep there since she put him on blast. It's obviously not going to change her mind, but there are others watching.

if you walk into a wall and call it out for its bullshyt (being in your path) you've accomplished about as much as he did with that woman. arguing with her is a total waste of time. as for defending his rep. if a woman accuses you of something in the general public's eyes its true. anything you say in response will typically be dismissed.

arguing with a woman in pointless. you know you're right in some cases but she "feels right" so your arguments fall on deaf ears because she can't get past her emotions.

 

[Reality]

What did he gain from that exchange?

As a man, you should show restraint and not allow your disputes with a woman to be dragged into the public.

Yes, he was calm, but he put his business out there.

If I have already decided that I want nothing to do with a woman, why am I arguing with her or trying to prove a point? A moral victory?

He should have just gotten his stuff and wished her a good life and then went along his way.

You can't win an argument with a woman, so it makes no sense to engage in these type of interactions. It is time consuming and gets you nowhere.

Why waste the time and energy.

if you walk into a wall and call it out for its bullshyt (being in your path) you've accomplished about as much as he did with that woman. arguing with her is a total waste of time. as for defending his rep. if a woman accuses you of something in the general public's eyes its true. anything you say in response will typically be dismissed.

arguing with a woman in pointless. you know you're right in some cases but she "feels right" so your arguments fall on deaf ears because she can't get past her emotions.

What about the simps reading her post and waiting in line for their shot? What about other mutual friends? I'm sorry but there's no way I'm going to let something like that go down. People meet your reputation before they meet you. You have to guard it at all costs.

 

[CASHAPP]

Here we go again with women and their attention whoring. Look at all this drama this bytch Sandy has caused in the media the past couple of days about how she is gonna get her revenge.

Watch her punk out like her and her girls always do

 

[MikelArteta]

the best thing you can give a woman is silence they want that back and forth banter, being a natural introvert has always helped me in this regard, when a woman fs up just silence on my part.

 

[winb83]

What about the simps reading her post and waiting in line for their shot? What about other mutual friends? I'm sorry but there's no way I'm going to let something like that go down. People meet your reputation before they meet you. You have to guard it at all costs.

did you read the same post i did? cause to me it looked like a guy going back and forth with a woman arguing over petty shyt.

first off if she's so melodramatic why was he even with her? if she cheated on him why was he still with her? why did he even bring up the fact that she cheated as if it pertained to what they were even talking about?

that guy got emotional and was acting like a woman in a public arena while arguing with one but you see it as him defending his reputation? if she accused him of anything and he held his composure that would say more about her accusations than anything that facebook spat did.

 

[Ohene]

What about the simps reading her post and waiting in line for their shot? What about other mutual friends? I'm sorry but there's no way I'm going to let something like that go down. People meet your reputation before they meet you. You have to guard it at all costs.

i agree with you. however I feel like you are underestimating the power of a simp''s brain. The key to notice was that even though she was blatantly a snake in the situation she managed to get 6 likes. Lord only knows how many of em were men...the over under is probably 2. The fact he took her back when she cheated and all it took was a borrowed phone for her to drop him makes her look like shes that much more coveted; she had the upperhand greatly.

in an ideal world...they woulda been face to face at some sort of party and he woulda did the right thing. But it's 2012 and that was a social network.

 

[kevm3]

I think he did alright having that conversation go public because he has evidence in case she tries to file for false rape. It's disgusting what some of these women will do... file for rape and ruin a man's life based on a lie.

 

[jadillac]

the best thing you can give a woman is silence they want that back and forth banter, being a natural introvert has always helped me in this regard, when a woman fs up just silence on my part.

Pretty much. I hit the last girl with a 1 line message. And it wasn't even anything that showed I cared too much and I havent spoke to her since.

I REALLY, REALLY wanted to say some slick, foul stuff back to her though. I still want to. lol.

But I held back and even tho she knew I liked her, she see's that I'm serious with what I say.

I checked her twitter the other day b/c I was curious, and she's posting about how she single again, shes tired of ppl asking her why shes single. Guess that dude you were talking with behind my back didnt quite workout huh?

 

[Sharp]

What about the simps reading her post and waiting in line for their shot? What about other mutual friends? I'm sorry but there's no way I'm going to let something like that go down. People meet your reputation before they meet you. You have to guard it at all costs.

As a man, your reputation is based on not what you say, but what you do.

Simps will always be there regardless of what you do. You can't be concerned about that.

Not saying anything at all in public actually strengthens your reputation. "Why defend yourself if you're not guilty?"

From the beginning of time, women have attempted to belittle men in attempts to justify break ups. She lured him into that post and he fell for it. If he would have ignored her, he would have had way more leverage.

What hurts a woman the most is a man who doesn't care and is unapologetic about what transpired. I would have ignored her. Waited a week for her to calm down. Call her to tell her that I'm coming by to get my things and that would have been the end of it. I'm not telling her what I will do, or threaten her. I'm not trying to defend myself in front of the public. I'm not allowing her to suck me into the social media game where once you say something, you have no idea who read it, and you can't take it back. It's like a legal transcript in some sense. It can always be traced back to you. This is why when dealing with females, I prefer talking over text message. Never leave a paper trail, especially when dealing with females who are emotional and moody.

As far as your mutual friends, your real friends will ask you what's real. Anybody who judges you based on what she says on FB needs to be cut from the circle anyway.

You have to learn to be elusive, speak very little, but when you do speak, make sure it is powerful and of substance.

Logic over pride.

 

[MikelArteta]

Pretty much. I hit the last girl with a 1 line message. And it wasn't even anything that showed I cared too much and I havent spoke to her since.

I REALLY, REALLY wanted to say some slick, foul stuff back to her though. I still want to. lol.

But I held back and even tho she knew I liked her, she see's that I'm serious with what I say.

I checked her twitter the other day b/c I was curious, and she's posting about how she single again, shes tired of ppl asking her why shes single. Guess that dude you were talking with behind my back didnt quite workout huh?

oh it never does


hell ive been cheated on, used, mocked i could have easily retorted to swear words, revenge etc., but nope just silence and dissappear

things always find a way of working out

 

[Reality]

As a man, your reputation is based on not what you say, but what you do.

Simps will always be there regardless of what you do. You can't be concerned about that.

Not saying anything at all in public actually strengthens your reputation. "Why defend yourself if you're not guilty?"

From the beginning of time, women have attempted to belittle men in attempts to justify break ups. She lured him into that post and he fell for it. If he would have ignored her, he would have had way more leverage.

What hurts a woman the most is a man who doesn't care and is unapologetic about what transpired. I would have ignored her. Waited a week for her to calm down. Call her to tell her that I'm coming by to get my things and that would have been the end of it. I'm not telling her what I will do, or threaten her. I'm not trying to defend myself in front of the public. I'm not allowing her to suck me into the social media game where once you say something, you have no idea who read it, and you can't take it back. It's like a legal transcript in some sense. It can always be traced back to you. This is why when dealing with females, I prefer talking over text message. Never leave a paper trail, especially when dealing with females who are emotional and moody.

As far as your mutual friends, your real friends will ask you what's real. Anybody who judges you based on what she says on FB needs to be cut from the circle anyway.

You have to learn to be elusive, speak very little, but when you do speak, make sure it is powerful and of substance.

Logic over pride.

I strongly disagree with this reasoning, especially if people from work, school etc are in you s/o's circle, but I don't think i'll change any minds here.

 

[Sharp]

I strongly disagree with this reasoning, especially if people from work, school etc are in you s/o's circle, but I don't think i'll change any minds here.

I understand where you're coming from. You feel as if your reputation is being publicly destroyed by this woman, and so you feel the need to clarify yourself. Ever heard the expression

"Don't box against a boxer."

This is what women do. You can't win an argument with a woman who has been trained to argue all of her life. You put yourself at a disadvantage. He put himself in a situation where he could not win. Obviously, she was bitter, angry and acting off of emotion. She incriminated herself with her responses which any rational person would infer that she was angry.

I'm very big on philosophy and I look to the 48 laws of power at times to give me some insight. Let me leave you with some

Law 5

So Much Depends on Reputation – Guard it with your Life

Reputation is the cornerstone of power. Through reputation alone you can intimidate and win; once you slip, however, you are vulnerable, and will be attacked on all sides. Make your reputation unassailable. Always be alert to potential attacks and thwart them before they happen. Meanwhile, learn to destroy your enemies by opening holes in their own reputations. Then stand aside and let public opinion hang them.

Don't get involved in the public debate. Let her own irrational comments seal her fate.

Law 9

Win through your Actions, Never through Argument

Any momentary triumph you think gained through argument is really a Pyrrhic victory: The resentment and ill will you stir up is stronger and lasts longer than any momentary change of opinion. It is much more powerful to get others to agree with you through your actions, without saying a word. Demonstrate, do not explicate.

This. A man who can leave a bad situation without belittling the woman in the process is highly admired. How you handle the situation is key.

And think of debate laws...

"The object of a debate is not to prove to your opponent that they are wrong. The object of a debate is not to prove that you are right. The object of debate is to make the audience question your opponent's argument."

 

[Kenny West]

what happen to that 30 day challenge to approach 1 chick a day, I really need to work on my mouthpeace n/h

Fam I need to get back on this kinda shyt...I had at least two new digits a week in September. nikka got lazy and fell off in October.