Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

I've found this true for many women in general cheater or not. Being a former simp a lot of my simping was solicited by these women who were using me. They'd ask me to do things for them for the specific point of using me and feign a sort of relationship with me at the moment to get the favors.

a lot of them would later rationalize why it was ok to use me by saying things like "i didn't make you do that stuff you did it on your own." the truth was however they ask me for that shyt on their own taking advantage of the fact they knew I liked them and would do it when they really weren't all that into me.

I don't blame them but I see it as a character flaw. I would never knowingly use someone just because I knew they cared about me and would help me out. It's not justifiable in my eyes because I can handle myself. I don't need to use people for gain.

i'm the same way, i mentioned before im a nice person, i'll do things for people and not expect anything in return. the thing is it seems with women they will constantly abuse it. It's raining, pouring outside with lighting and thunder the grocery store is on your way so you take them, from then on every time they go grocery shopping they expect a ride from you.

 

[kevm3]

Fellas a question what if you called a chick out on something but you were wrong

Would you apologize?

Yeah, I would apologize, but I wouldn't do an elaborate apology. I'd do it just out of my sense of personal ethics... sometimes you might take a hit on 'what looks better to the female' in an effort to do so, but screw what they think. No need to turn into some scumbag that never apologizes because that's what women respond to. Your personal set of ethics should always outweigh what looks better to the woman.

It's all about you maintaining a high level of manhood and that includes being accountable for your actions. If she thinks you are weak for apologizing, then kick her to the curb. Don't make your apology elaborate and detail everything you were wrong for... you can simply say "that was my bad", and that's it... and never ever let her hold that situation over your head.


on the situation of apologies, we'll take a slight detour. Men should NEVER let women FLIP THE SCRIPT, which they are very skilled at doing. The woman will do wrong but then get all emotional, cry, act cold and angry and bring something else up and try to make YOU look like you were wrong. Do NOT fall for it. If she screws up, don't let her turn you into the bad guy and have you start apologizing and don't let all those tears sway you. Women can turn them on and off on a whim. Disloyalty is not to be tolerated.

 

[Swing]

I come back to this thread every day...

Im dealing with this girl... long story short, we've been arguing a little bit back and forth, I told her we need some time to think this thru both of us...a day later she hit me with a long ass text, telling me we're not meant to be bla bla bla, I reply "lol, a text tho? go and be happy ".

She texts back, "want to meet up and talk?"

Now, my dumb ass says ok and go meet with her, thinking i need to be an adult... I get there, I tell her: I want to keep seeing you but if you want to go you can go...

The b1tch turns around and says, I didnt mean it, I want to keep seeing you

Now, later that night she texts me again, wanna go to the movies tomorrow?
I said I can't I got plans, no response...

Now, mind you after that sh1t I got heated, but I told her when I saw her today, I agree with the og text, this aint gone work out. Now she all mad, "im not stupid", "i dont regret anything, i learned alot", passive-aggressively accusing me of seeing some other chick.

Deleted off FB, deleted imessages

Thoughts?

 

[MikelArteta]

I come back to this thread every day...

Im dealing with this girl... long story short, we've been arguing a little bit back and forth, I told her we need some time to think this thru both of us...a day later she hit me with a long ass text, telling me we're not meant to be bla bla bla, I reply "lol, a text tho? go and be happy ".

She texts back, "want to meet up and talk?"

Now, my dumb ass says ok and go meet with her, thinking i need to be an adult... I get there, I tell her: I want to keep seeing you but if you want to go you can go...

The b1tch turns around and says, I didnt mean it, I want to keep seeing you

Now, later that night she texts me again, wanna go to the movies tomorrow?
I said I can't I got plans, no response...

Now, mind you after that sh1t I got heated, but I told her when I saw her today, I agree with the og text, this aint gone work out. Now she all mad, "im not stupid", "i dont regret anything, i learned alot", passive-aggressively accusing me of seeing some other chick.

Deleted off FB, deleted imessages

Thoughts?

Smart now dont look back, you made intentions known. The first reaction of anyone when you say you don't want this let's separate is to say no and try to make you feel guilt and lets talk it out and give it another go.

You were going to end it that made her piss as she couldn't emotionally attached so she ended it first then changed herons then changed it again, women hot and women cold.

Secondly whenever a female accuses you of seeing another chick or cheating odds are she is the one doing it.


To sum it up I would end it And move on with your life, she will contact you guarantee, just got to be strong and not look back

 

[Nintendough]

Leave the situation alone and move on. You should have let it go after that text message situation.

 

[You_Ugly_on_Skype]

Smart now dont look back, you made intentions known. The first reaction of anyone when you say you don't want this let's separate is to say no and try to make you feel guilt and lets talk it out and give it another go.

You were going to end it that made her piss as she couldn't emotionally attached so she ended it first then changed herons then changed it again, women hot and women cold.

Secondly whenever a female accuses you of seeing another chick or cheating odds are she is the one doing it.


To sum it up I would end it And move on with your life, she will contact you guarantee, just got to be strong and not look back

This is very true. The reason they accuse you of cheating or doing anything dirty is because they need to justify the cheating and dirt they're doing.

She will reason 'lemme do this dude dirty cause I just know he's doing me dirty' without any supporting evidence, rhyme or reason except for wanting to fulfill her own selfish desires.

 

[Sharp]

If you're in a relationship and your woman starts saying "I" and "me" instead of "we" and "us", she has gone cold on you. You have to pay attention because these things will slip in there and go below the radar. If a month ago she was saying I'm so excited and I can't wait for "us" to get engaged.. and now she's saying I can't to get engaged, she's going cold on you. Women that want to exclusively be with you will always use "we" and "us". They want to make it known that they want you in their lives and their future.

Pick up these subtle hints and play them accordingly. She is in the beginning process of distancing herself. Don't even approach her on it because she will deny it and will speed the process up.

Understand that this relationship is coming to an end and start preparing yourself emotionally. But you will have to cut times very soon or you will get done dirty. For those of us who are built for this, just cut her off immediately. Don't even give her a reason, just end the relationship. It is not your responsibility to give her closure. Deep down inside she knows why you ended it, she just prays that you are stupid enough not to see the signs. A woman will ultimately respect a man who can see their bullshyt and discard them for it.

No closure to a relationship is one of the greatest advantages you could ever have over a woman. I do this to perfection, and still get those random texts asking "What happened to us?" lol

 

[MikelArteta]

If you're in a relationship and your woman starts saying "I" and "me" instead of "we" and "us", she has gone cold on you. You have to pay attention because these things will slip in there and go below the radar. If a month ago she was saying I'm so excited and I can't wait for "us" to get engaged.. and now she's saying I can't to get engaged, she's going cold on you. Women that want to exclusively be with you will always use "we" and "us". They want to make it known that they want you in their lives and their future.

Pick up these subtle hints and play them accordingly. She is in the beginning process of distancing herself. Don't even approach her on it because she will deny it and will speed the process up.

Understand that this relationship is coming to an end and start preparing yourself emotionally. But you will have to cut times very soon or you will get done dirty. For those of us who are built for this, just cut her off immediately. Don't even give her a reason, just end the relationship. It is not your responsibility to give her closure. Deep down inside she knows why you ended it, she just prays that you are stupid enough not to see the signs. A woman will ultimately respect a man who can see their bullshyt and discard them for it.

No closure to a relationship is one of the greatest advantages you could ever have over a woman. I do this to perfection, and still get those random texts asking "What happened to us?" lol

I agree, a chick will rarely just flat out dump you right there and then on a whim, without emotionally detaching, unless she respects herself and you cheated or hit her.

Minus that she will slowly depart, I remember looking back at one of the times I was dumped in my life, I went over to my girls house and the picture of us was no longer up on her desk. She also had "I love reincar" in her man name. But it suddenly disappeared, she used to text me every morning that stopped. I was young and dumb to not pick up the subtle hints, I even asked what's wrong and got the standard nothing is wrong. Then I got dropped and found out she was dating someone new a few weeks later.

As I got older I got like this spidey sense now. Chicks get cold and distant I'm already gone. That 30 year old chick I went on a few dates with and she went cold I was done deleted the number and went on my merry way only to get a email, how she's been so busy with work et

Clicked as spam and next, women want to be cold and distant like sharp said just cut them off ,
Don't even ask why, don't ponder, just delete em

 

[Sharp]

I agree, a chick will rarely just flat out dump you right there and then on a whim, without emotionally detaching, unless she respects herself and you cheated or hit her.

Minus that she will slowly depart, I remember looking back at one of the times I was dumped in my life, I went over to my girls house and the picture of us was no longer up on her desk. She also had "I love reincar" in her man name. But it suddenly disappeared, she used to text me every morning that stopped. I was young and dumb to not pick up the subtle hints, I even asked what's wrong and got the standard nothing is wrong. Then I got dropped and found out she was dating someone new a few weeks later.

As I got older I got like this spidey sense now. Chicks get cold and distant I'm already gone. That 30 year old chick I went on a few dates with and she went cold I was done deleted the number and went on my merry way only to get a email, how she's been so busy with work et

Clicked as spam and next, women want to be cold and distant like sharp said just cut them off ,
Don't even ask why, don't ponder, just delete em

It always does down in a similar fashion.

When I was younger I never understood the reasoning behind keeping some space between me and my chick. I was naive and thought "hey if we spend a lot of time together, it's better for us!"

I couldn't have been more wrong. Like a poster said earlier, you have to keep them in competition mode. If she knows that she is the early one from jump, you might think you are displaying to her that you can be faithful, but it is actually coming across to her that you are desperate and that you need her.

 

[kevm3]

Man as soon as a woman gets into that ol 'we need to talk' mode, it's time to keep it pushing. If you've been consistent from the get-go, what changed all of a sudden? Why is she all of a sudden emotionally different and in need of space/ Most likely she's talking to some other guy and is thinking about jumping ship with him, but then again had reservations later about leaving a 'sure-thing'... but if you stay with her, she's going to be cold and distant a lot. What she's really doing is using you as emotional security until she gets the go ahead that the guy she's dealing with wants to take it to that other level with her.

 

[kevm3]

One thing you young bucks need to learn is that as a man of value, you must ACTIVELY maintain your value at all time. One way that a female shows that she doesn't value you is when you hear the words, "I'm busy". Women rarely do things straight up, but rather speak in a sort of sign language in which you need to observe to see what she's about to do next. "I'm busy" is one of the clearest signs that your relationship is about to go downhill. Notice how when you first meet a woman and ya'll are really digging each other, she's never busy. She has all the time in the world for you. You'll sit and she'll even tell her family and friends that she's busy right now so she can deal with you. She wasn't 'busy' now was she? She was BUSY WITH YOU. When her friends ask her what she did, she'll probably say, Oh work and school got me so busy, or she'll say I was with my man.

Now what do you think is happening when you're dealing with her and all of a sudden she's busy? These women ain't that busy. She's busy with ANOTHER MAN. If there was some Trey Songz concert or her friend invited her to a party, she'd have time, but she doesn't have time for you all of a sudden? She got time to go to work. A woman that was genuinely busy does not disappear for days or weeks at a time. She still finds minutes in the day to just hit you up and let you know she is doing well, how she misses you and is waiting for you to schedule something ya'll can do together. The woman you give the boot is the one you don't see and you ask her why and she says, "I've been busy." If a woman is too busy for you, she is not worthy of you. People find ways to spend time with things and people they actually enjoy. One thing as a man you have to develop in this day and age is a well developed boot. If you sense a woman is playing games, show her your well polished boot and kick her to the curb and keep it pushing.

Does it seem heartless? Naw, it's not. If she was really about you, she would have made that time. A woman that's 'too busy' for her man and is chilling with other negroes in the background is what is heartless. Never let these women do wrong and yet make you feel like she's the victim. She keeps screwing up, she got to go. You aren't going to give surface dwellers deep access to your heart. You will only give that to the worthy. Now what you DO tell a female is, "Look here girl, if you want my love, I'm going to give you a shovel and that shovel is your actions. If you want to be deep in my heart, you got to get to digging." Never get too into a woman because 'she's cool, fine, and ya'll had a couple of cool convos.' She has to demonstrate her downness for you through her actions consistently over time.

 

[winb83]

This is very true. The reason they accuse you of cheating or doing anything dirty is because they need to justify the cheating and dirt they're doing.

She will reason 'lemme do this dude dirty cause I just know he's doing me dirty' without any supporting evidence, rhyme or reason except for wanting to fulfill her own selfish desires.

the thing i never understood about women is the need to rationalize and justify the shytty things they do. its like yeah you're a shytty person but you don't wanna feel like one so you play dumb mind games with yourself and think in obvious patterns so you can excuse yourself for your shytty behavior?

man works his ass off to pay the bills and she goes he was never there and cheats. he worked long and hard to provide and she pays him back with that? or she accuses him of cheating and then rationalizes why something she made up in her own mind with no proof or solid backing makes it ok for her to do some dirty shyt she probably wanted to do anyway.

they can't just be the bad person and accept themselves for who they are?

 

[Primetime]

One thing you young bucks need to learn is that as a man of value, you must ACTIVELY maintain your value at all time. One way that a female shows that she doesn't value you is when you hear the words, "I'm busy". Women rarely do things straight up, but rather speak in a sort of sign language in which you need to observe to see what she's about to do next. "I'm busy" is one of the clearest signs that your relationship is about to go downhill. Notice how when you first meet a woman and ya'll are really digging each other, she's never busy. She has all the time in the world for you. You'll sit and she'll even tell her family and friends that she's busy right now so she can deal with you. She wasn't 'busy' now was she? She was BUSY WITH YOU. When her friends ask her what she did, she'll probably say, Oh work and school got me so busy, or she'll say I was with my man.

Now what do you think is happening when you're dealing with her and all of a sudden she's busy? These women ain't that busy. She's busy with ANOTHER MAN. If there was some Trey Songz concert or her friend invited her to a party, she'd have time, but she doesn't have time for you all of a sudden? She got time to go to work. A woman that was genuinely busy does not disappear for days or weeks at a time. She still finds minutes in the day to just hit you up and let you know she is doing well, how she misses you and is waiting for you to schedule something ya'll can do together. The woman you give the boot is the one you don't see and you ask her why and she says, "I've been busy." If a woman is too busy for you, she is not worthy of you. People find ways to spend time with things and people they actually enjoy. One thing as a man you have to develop in this day and age is a well developed boot. If you sense a woman is playing games, show her your well polished boot and kick her to the curb and keep it pushing.

Does it seem heartless? Naw, it's not. If she was really about you, she would have made that time. A woman that's 'too busy' for her man and is chilling with other negroes in the background is what is heartless. Never let these women do wrong and yet make you feel like she's the victim. She keeps screwing up, she got to go. You aren't going to give surface dwellers deep access to your heart. You will only give that to the worthy. Now what you DO tell a female is, "Look here girl, if you want my love, I'm going to give you a shovel and that shovel is your actions. If you want to be deep in my heart, you got to get to digging." Never get too into a woman because 'she's cool, fine, and ya'll had a couple of cool convos.' She has to demonstrate her downness for you through her actions consistently over time.

All very true. Esp the bold. On one hand, we've all had those females who would always respond back in a timely manner via txt or whatever, and would always be reasonable and eager to find time to kick it even with work/school/whatever going on in their lives. On the other hand, we've also had those females who will give the excuse of being busy when you know damn well they aint any more busy or unable to open up space as the next broad... and sometimes its the same exact female over a period of time lol

but fukk all that, if you truly are feelin someone and enjoyin their company (or lookin forward to enjoyin it), you're going to look for opportunities to get together with them. Point blank period. And its up to the guy, in this case, to be able to recognize that and not continue to disrespect himself by getting drawn along with the nonsense.

 

[winb83]

I agree, a chick will rarely just flat out dump you right there and then on a whim, without emotionally detaching, unless she respects herself and you cheated or hit her.

Minus that she will slowly depart, I remember looking back at one of the times I was dumped in my life, I went over to my girls house and the picture of us was no longer up on her desk. She also had "I love reincar" in her man name. But it suddenly disappeared, she used to text me every morning that stopped. I was young and dumb to not pick up the subtle hints, I even asked what's wrong and got the standard nothing is wrong. Then I got dropped and found out she was dating someone new a few weeks later.

As I got older I got like this spidey sense now. Chicks get cold and distant I'm already gone. That 30 year old chick I went on a few dates with and she went cold I was done deleted the number and went on my merry way only to get a email, how she's been so busy with work et

Clicked as spam and next, women want to be cold and distant like sharp said just cut them off ,
Don't even ask why, don't ponder, just delete em

I don't think its that they're detaching as much as its that women rarely do things directly. They like to beat around the bush and tip toe around shyt. It's the whole concept behind the friend zone she rejects the guy in an Indirect way instead of telling him to get lost. It seems like a lot of men aren't as observant when it comes to how women do things.

 

[↓R↑LYB]

Y'all nikkas need to keep these gems to 3 sentences or less, ain't nobody gonna read through y'all nikkas PhD dissertations breh