low/high self esteem is all relative.
a chick could think she doesn't deserve a nice guy and doesn't deserve love or respect. she could think she deserves to be smutted out. who am i to disagree? Same thing in reverse. A 31 year old precious looking chick with 3 kids by 4 baby daddies could think she deserves a profesional athlete/baller/entertainer/wallstreet dude with model looks. Who am i to say no you don't. The truth is, there is no such thing as "deserve". People want things. Sometimes they happen, sometimes they don't.
It's like patrice said, "some bytches you gotta hoe them up, some you gotta hoe them down." meaning this. A chick will come at you with her own ego, worldview, experiences, opinions, and self-esteem level. That self-esteem she has, if you're gonna influence it, you should do it in a way that benefits you first and then her. Sometimes you'll find a chick who thinks too lowly of herself for your liking and her being more confident will serve you because that way you will spend less time reassuring her and wil have more energy to do other stuff. Notice you are helping boost her self-esteem for your gain first, then hers. You could have another chick who thinks she's a diva and you need her to be more humble so that she stops causing drama due to entitlement. So you teach her another way to look at life where she is more humble and help her believe that she's not as great as she thinks she is. But in reality, maybe girl 1 really IS a loser, and maybe girl 2 really IS that great. So is it right or wrong to teach them otherwise? the reality is that it's neither. They are what they are and you are just molding them to become what you need them to be to serve your happiness and then they get happiness from you.
two key things.
1.They are always free to leave
2. You don't boost their self esteem out of charity first and you don't destroy it out of spite against them. cause in either case you'd be focusing on them first. You gotta do it because it's something that will serve a purpose in your life and then they get to choose as grown women if what you are teaching them also serves a purpose in their lives.
EDIT: But to be able to know what you need from a chick or what type of chick you need in your life, you must first know who you are cause if you don't, you'll just end up teaching a girl random things that may not benefit you cause you don't even know what you need.
a chick could think she doesn't deserve a nice guy and doesn't deserve love or respect. she could think she deserves to be smutted out. who am i to disagree? Same thing in reverse. A 31 year old precious looking chick with 3 kids by 4 baby daddies could think she deserves a profesional athlete/baller/entertainer/wallstreet dude with model looks. Who am i to say no you don't. The truth is, there is no such thing as "deserve". People want things. Sometimes they happen, sometimes they don't.
It's like patrice said, "some bytches you gotta hoe them up, some you gotta hoe them down." meaning this. A chick will come at you with her own ego, worldview, experiences, opinions, and self-esteem level. That self-esteem she has, if you're gonna influence it, you should do it in a way that benefits you first and then her. Sometimes you'll find a chick who thinks too lowly of herself for your liking and her being more confident will serve you because that way you will spend less time reassuring her and wil have more energy to do other stuff. Notice you are helping boost her self-esteem for your gain first, then hers. You could have another chick who thinks she's a diva and you need her to be more humble so that she stops causing drama due to entitlement. So you teach her another way to look at life where she is more humble and help her believe that she's not as great as she thinks she is. But in reality, maybe girl 1 really IS a loser, and maybe girl 2 really IS that great. So is it right or wrong to teach them otherwise? the reality is that it's neither. They are what they are and you are just molding them to become what you need them to be to serve your happiness and then they get happiness from you.
two key things.
1.They are always free to leave
2. You don't boost their self esteem out of charity first and you don't destroy it out of spite against them. cause in either case you'd be focusing on them first. You gotta do it because it's something that will serve a purpose in your life and then they get to choose as grown women if what you are teaching them also serves a purpose in their lives.
EDIT: But to be able to know what you need from a chick or what type of chick you need in your life, you must first know who you are cause if you don't, you'll just end up teaching a girl random things that may not benefit you cause you don't even know what you need.
mood or I'm like chick
up....of course they flock to me. Its like they have a "clearly this nikka is just trying to do himself tonight" radar. I want to be proven wrong, but these ladies just keep re enforcing that a nice dude isn't what they want until they can barely bare children.
I am intrigued
