Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Cynical Thoughts]

when you get a chicks name and number do you search for her on twitter or facebook to see what else you can find out about her

I will/do now. Although I hate social media it can be very affective in terms of background/update checks. If you know what you are doing. It will work even better if you actually have something to start w/. A friends name or an old boyfriends name. Then look who is commenting on their page and also check their friends list. Use a fake account.

 

[Cynical Thoughts]

only because it was japanese names so u gotta understand hearing names like yuma, yumiko, rei, reika, seika etc

Don't know if you speak Japanese or not but they would not give you a pass cause you new to the culture?

 

[Jesus]

I have noticed recently, if your are not a pushover to many women the "misogynist" and "chauvinist" labels will get thrown your way quite often. I've been questioning myself, but the close women I do trust assure me that I'm good.

 

[Mr210]

I will/do now. Although I hate social media it can be very affective in terms of background/update checks. If you know what you are doing. It will work even better if you actually have something to start w/. A friends name or an old boyfriends name. Then look who is commenting on their page and also check their friends list. Use a fake account.

I dont have a real facebook account so thats all I use is a dummy account. This one chick who I recently met, we are going out tonight I was trying to look her up. I know that she is a teacher and where in the city she is a teacher at, I looked up all the schools in the area to find a last name, but I couldnt find a teacher with her first name

 

[Turbulent]

I have noticed recently, if your are not a pushover to many women the "misogynist" and "chauvinist" labels will get thrown your way quite often. I've been questioning myself, but the close women I do trust assure me that I'm good.

lol, i get called that sometimes. sexist also. in two cases they actually ended up telling me "you're mean but you're actually cool overall"

they just hate that you won't bend to their entitlement for no reason. and they can feel it's not because i'm trying to get over. it's bigger than them (principle) and that's what they hate but respect at the same time. their whole quest is to get you to submit to their desires before submitting to your own principle because that's the equivalent of forfeiting your soul for their pleasure and desire (so they get the ultimate power over you). when they don't get their way they try to shame you with words. It used to fukk with me and i would question myself. now it actually reassures me if they come up with those words and can't back it up with actual logic or rationale.
once they see the shaming language doesn't affect you they either step away or they and eat from your hand.

never give up your principle UNLESS you truly see an error in it. Never allow fear to change your principle (fear of shame, fear of loss, fear of death). only logic should make you change your principle.

 

[MikelArteta]

I get labeled with that always its called shaming language.

Funny thing is I've never cheated, abused, or even like call women names but folks still throw that on me because my ideology isn't PC.

I have noticed recently, if your are not a pushover to many women the "misogynist" and "chauvinist" labels will get thrown your way quite often. I've been questioning myself, but the close women I do trust assure me that I'm good.

 

[Mickey Kane]

Indignation in the right amount works in your favour brehs.

 

[Schmoove]

I have noticed recently, if your are not a pushover to many women the "misogynist" and "chauvinist" labels will get thrown your way quite often. I've been questioning myself, but the close women I do trust assure me that I'm good.

And they wonder why so many sissies are running around.

They made em.

 

[Spin]

Damn you guys found gold with the Black Phillip show. The best ones are with the chicks when they prove his point. RIP Patrice O'Neal

 

[Jesus]

I love my mother, but she accuses me of this at times as well. I see the first hand experience of a grown woman without a father and the effects. Fortunately she got married to my dad.

 

[sixsixtwo]

http://markymarksthoughts.blogspot.com/2013/09/according-to-bible-women-are-incapable.html

 

[Turbulent]

Damn you guys found gold with the Black Phillip show. The best ones are with the chicks when they prove his point. RIP Patrice O'Neal

y'all already know my views on The Black Phillip Show...

 

[re'up]

One of my best friends is going through it with his girl of 5 years...whose 5 years younger then him at 22, and he's been talking about marrying her and having kids, he's 100 hung up on her, and she moved out from their spot 2 days ago, and he's so in denial about it, she went to her moms for a few days....saying she wants to 'get back to how it was when they first met', 'too comfortable', and my boy is just not getting it, that is may be over....She told him she's been spending too little time on herself, I thought that was laughable....I told him, she CHOOSES to work a full time job, go to school full time, and work on the side....where is this selflessness coming from? What does she do for anyone else? "uhhh she tries to be home when I get home from work" She sees 100% of her proceeds....And I LIKE this girl, but shes ready to move on, imo, she wants to party and be single, she's fukking 22, not play house with her homebody boyfriend, whos my boy but thats how it is....I told my friend act like you are ready to move on too, I think she's just calming the waters and bracing him...its partly through all the building and bullshytting in here that I see this much more clearly then I may have a few years ago though analysis has never been a weak point with me..

 

[kevm3]

Yeah man, pretty much is distancing herself so she can 'do her.' That's what's tough as men. You sit back and think that by being the 'decent man' that you'll have a woman sticking around, but these young women want to party and do their thing and then look for mr. right when they're 30 and dusty. It's hard for most men to accept, but it is what it is.

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

It has been on my spirit recently to share some words with you all.


As many of you know, I have been on a journey of heartbreak and recovery for two years now. I have tried just about every method out there and even purchased some e-books from so-called relationship gurus about “How to win your ex back”. (I admit, I am ashamed of this)


I have done it all. I’ve tried NC. I’ve broken NC. Being friends, not being friends. You name it.


Here’s the conclusion I’ve come to:


THERE’S NO FORMULA FOR HANDLING A BREAKUP!



Wait let me repeat that with better diction….


THERE IS NO FORMULA FOR HANDLING A BREAKUP!



Case in point. Last night, my ex of 7 years texted me wanting to catch up. We were at a period of about 50 days no contact. I wasn't sure if I should break that streak. I asked all my close friends what I should do an ultimately settled on talking to her under one condition: I would express how I felt.


You see, I haven’t been honest with myself. I’ve been very passive aggressive. I’ve sat and let all the hurt and pain stew in my heart. I did this because I believed that I was hurting her as well (this is true). I did it hoping deep down that maybe she’d realize the error of her ways, call me up, and want to get back together.


In reality this doesn’t work. The main reason being that nobody has ever wanted to be with another person due to guilt.


But onto the phone call… It started pretty innocently. We chatted about TV shows before she asked me how my anxiety was going. I took this opportunity to express how I felt. I told her that she hurt me and had been continuing to hurt me with her actions. I gave concrete examples. She started crying, offered no explanation, and merely said she was sorry.


This launched us into a debate about the past that I did not want to get into. I merely wanted to talk about actions that happened post breakup, not shyt that happened 5 years ago. Nonetheless, it happened. And as usual, no consensus was formed.


At the end of it all, tears were shed on both sides. I did not get the answers I was seeking, and I will admit that it hurt. BUT I had this weird feeling of happiness. I was able to get my emotions off my chest and I was able to realize that the person I had been holding these conflicting feelings against was human. (Which validated my caring for them in the first place)


Most importantly I realized that I needed to let it go. I needed to forgive her. I needed to forgive myself… and I needed to move on. No more games, no more tactics from relationship gurus. Just an honest conversation between two people who shared some great times and some bad times for 7 years.


In summary, I know I broke a lot of rules… But I don’t care. This was something I had to do for ME. A lot of times people do things hoping to make the other person mad or jealous. That’s not the way to go. There’s no formula to this thing. Be honest with yourself and who you are and start from there. Come to terms with the fact that you may not get the desired outcome. Come to terms that the other person may not be thinking of you. Let go of that need inside you to control your outcome. And if all else fails, chalk it up as a learning experience and live life. You owe it to yourself.


Even with everything I said above, depending on your situation, it may not apply. That’s the point of this post. No one can tell you how to handle your situation. Everybody is different. Personally, me and my ex ended due to factors outside our control. The fact that there was no “major incident” is what kept me holding on.


TLDR: Each situation is different and there is no “one size fits all” solution to a break up. If you need guidance, start by respecting and loving yourself.