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Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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So you're going to ask her if she's been cheated on without mentioning her ex? And do you really thing she's going to admit she's insecure? Lol, handle yours!
huh? there are ways to find out of someone is insecure w/o talking about exes...smh
and you can tell if someone has been cheated w/o mentioning exes, you just got to listen. I had a gf, i found out her previous bf cheated on her because we were watching tv and in the tv show the man cheated on the woman, what she said afterwards told me all I needed to know
all you have to do is sit back and listen
Man, a lot of these so-called nice guys are really snakes, so don't feel sorry for them. They are the dudes that want to pretend to be a woman's friend and then try to morph that friendship into something else. They are the type to claim to want nothing from a woman and then try to listen to her problems and then using her moment of weakness to make a move. Can you be mad at a woman for not dealing with a guy like that?
On the other hand, realize that while you can be a type of friend with a woman, never be her buddy, aka the guy that listens to all her problems and talks about whatever she wants to talk about. She will either look at you as a favor buddy or one of her 'homegirls', both of which will breed disrespect.
Something else to keep in mind. A woman uses you once, that's on her. She uses you twice, that's on you. Something to understand about women is they WILL end up doing what you allow them to do. Remember, your attention and time is valuable, so you aren't going to toss your pearls before swine. You aren't just going to give it to anyone. If a woman tries to play you as a favor buddy, then don't give her no more shine. Also, always make your intentions clear and give the woman the opportunity to bite on it. If you're lying about what your intentions are, then don't be mad at teh woman for not giving you any shine. You got to be mad at your own snake-like demeanor.
On the other hand, realize that while you can be a type of friend with a woman, never be her buddy, aka the guy that listens to all her problems and talks about whatever she wants to talk about. She will either look at you as a favor buddy or one of her 'homegirls', both of which will breed disrespect.
Something else to keep in mind. A woman uses you once, that's on her. She uses you twice, that's on you. Something to understand about women is they WILL end up doing what you allow them to do. Remember, your attention and time is valuable, so you aren't going to toss your pearls before swine. You aren't just going to give it to anyone. If a woman tries to play you as a favor buddy, then don't give her no more shine. Also, always make your intentions clear and give the woman the opportunity to bite on it. If you're lying about what your intentions are, then don't be mad at teh woman for not giving you any shine. You got to be mad at your own snake-like demeanor.
International Playa
Playa with a Passport
Dont date single mothers brehs, I think I might have got a single mother pregnant, will let you know the outcome in the following weeks
nope..unless shes wifey of many years with kids
Tres Leches
Empire Business
Now since this last post, I kind of fell back on shorty at the job and we don't talk or text on the phone like we used to(i haven't/she hasn't called/texted in a while) and today at work after not really paying her too much attention she talking to me saying that I've been acting real different lately. After a little chit chat with her I'm just standing at this desk in the back of the office behind the wall of the front office and she came in to get something. Now this back area is pretty tight so whenever it's more than one person there people usually have to squeeze through but it's usually not extreme to where you're physically touching someone. So i'm standing writing something on a desk and my back is to her as she's coming in and she PURPOSELY slide up on me pressing her ass cheeks on me but the thing that made me likewas that the manager was right there but his back was facing us so he couldn't see. That's the second time she done some shyt like that where she purposely tried rubbing her body on me at work. No lie that shyt got me aroused as her ass felt soft but
Just call her what she is in her face: a tease. Make it a known fact you're aware of her being a tease and see how she responds.
CrossBones
Louder than words
everybody stop doing favors for broads who are fukk ups. when you put that buffer up for her, it actually encourages her bad behavior and lets her get off scott free. thats like with a child, and they do something bad and you always try to cover it up or reward them for it. that says to them that youre okay with them doing stupid shyt, and youll be their net.
let them fall. there are consequences to doing wrong, so dont let them get by doing bad in life and thinking its alright because youll be there for her
I dont like to hold hands period, because it looks like some child shyt. like youre being lead or are at the school yard together. you cant really distinguish who is the leader in that set up. I would say, put your arm around her shoulder, or at her waist. or dont hold her at all and just walk with her. I just personally dont do the holding hands thing because it looks and feels off to me. plus when you hold her shouder or waistline shes less prone to just walking off somewhere trying to drag you by the hand. in a way theyre like children. so I dont want them to think they can just walk me to where they want to go. its phsychological when you have your arm around her and shes more likely to follow that way. just my two cents and my recommendation breh
let them fall. there are consequences to doing wrong, so dont let them get by doing bad in life and thinking its alright because youll be there for her
I dont like to hold hands period, because it looks like some child shyt. like youre being lead or are at the school yard together. you cant really distinguish who is the leader in that set up. I would say, put your arm around her shoulder, or at her waist. or dont hold her at all and just walk with her. I just personally dont do the holding hands thing because it looks and feels off to me. plus when you hold her shouder or waistline shes less prone to just walking off somewhere trying to drag you by the hand. in a way theyre like children. so I dont want them to think they can just walk me to where they want to go. its phsychological when you have your arm around her and shes more likely to follow that way. just my two cents and my recommendation breh
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CrossBones
Louder than words
old school, big secret, building time (this goes back and a lot of people know this, but regardless I feel like its heavily overlooked these days): women dont have to "like" you to "want" you.
one thing that a lot of males today dont get is that you dont have to be mr likeable, or be a gentleman to get a woman to want you. as a matter of fact, doing that could really work against you. being too laid back and being too agreeable can actually hurt you. especially if its an act because women can see some things that you might think they cant.
women can want a man for several reasons, and still not like him or who he is. its not logical so dont think that it is. women and attraction dont always have to make sense. they cant always help who they desire. well they could, but thats not the point here.
see most women like conflict, they like drama, and/or at the least they like it when theres tension involved between her and a man. this is why indifference works on them so well. it builds tension in them. they get this feeling that theyre not completely accepted. like they have to prove themselves to you. or the fact remains that they might still get rejected and dissmissed for being wack. they dont want that. ego makes them do over half the shyt they do. so this tension works on them and for you. they also like jerks because it creates a stirring of emotions and it makes them feel hot. even if its not for the man in particular, you can take advantage of them like that. creating tension is so much of what goes in attraction. it builds up their juices and excitement for men. do you ever notice how women will talk about how much so and so is an a$$hole, yet they still fukk with him? their ex was a jerk, but she is there when he calls her ... or maybe she tends to date this same type of guy over and over
in committed relationships, women can demonstrate this same behavior too. you see just as a man desires stillness, consistency, and peace within a relationship, a woman tends to like it exciting, tumultuous and full of emotions. they want there to be ripples of excitement and emotion. to feel "loved" and not so much being loved. there is a difference. and if they dont "feel" it, regardless if or not they are being loved, they will change. understand, that they want it hot. they otherwise, they start to feel like "the magic is gone" or worry that it doesnt feel like it used to. the truth is, that the relationship grew and its now taken a lot more serious. so of course it wont be the same, the whole point was to get passed the acceptance phase and get to the committed part. for women that takes out the tension part and they dont understand it
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I say this for three reasons to be weary of:
1) if youre trying too hard to be likeable and tend to agree with a woman on any old shyt she says, youll be seen as weak and not a challenge. or just plain boring. you dont have to be liked, but most of all you have to be respected. be who you are and dont stress over someones opinion of you.
2) if your woman is spending too much time talking about how angry, frustrated, or otherwise occupied with another man, BEWARE. the late great patrice oneil had a bit where he was right and he said "if my woman is so much as ANGRY at another man, or he is occupying so much space in her head that she emotionally charged by him, they I will cut that shyt out immediately." if a woman is spending her time and most importantly, her EMOTIONS (whether its love envy or hate) on another man, be ready to check that and dead that. if shes using her time to let another man get in her head and get her running hot, guess what. its not too long before she has you permenantly on the background and this new man has taken over her mind. this is all true talk
3) in a relationship women tend to slip and forget that peace, cooperation and consistency is how you keep a man. they get into their emotional desires for a burning flame in their life and for high emotions, but dont realize that doing that causes drama and problems. and women dont get it, so they start drama and problems. sometimes just for attention. even subconsciously they might not know it, but a lot of them do shyt just to start feeling tension again. explain to her very clearly what you expect, what its goin be, and why it has to be that way. on your side, try to keep the desire for her and the excitement alive without the drama. put effort in and make sure she does her part to keep it right. aight, peace.
one thing that a lot of males today dont get is that you dont have to be mr likeable, or be a gentleman to get a woman to want you. as a matter of fact, doing that could really work against you. being too laid back and being too agreeable can actually hurt you. especially if its an act because women can see some things that you might think they cant.
women can want a man for several reasons, and still not like him or who he is. its not logical so dont think that it is. women and attraction dont always have to make sense. they cant always help who they desire. well they could, but thats not the point here.
see most women like conflict, they like drama, and/or at the least they like it when theres tension involved between her and a man. this is why indifference works on them so well. it builds tension in them. they get this feeling that theyre not completely accepted. like they have to prove themselves to you. or the fact remains that they might still get rejected and dissmissed for being wack. they dont want that. ego makes them do over half the shyt they do. so this tension works on them and for you. they also like jerks because it creates a stirring of emotions and it makes them feel hot. even if its not for the man in particular, you can take advantage of them like that. creating tension is so much of what goes in attraction. it builds up their juices and excitement for men. do you ever notice how women will talk about how much so and so is an a$$hole, yet they still fukk with him? their ex was a jerk, but she is there when he calls her ... or maybe she tends to date this same type of guy over and over
in committed relationships, women can demonstrate this same behavior too. you see just as a man desires stillness, consistency, and peace within a relationship, a woman tends to like it exciting, tumultuous and full of emotions. they want there to be ripples of excitement and emotion. to feel "loved" and not so much being loved. there is a difference. and if they dont "feel" it, regardless if or not they are being loved, they will change. understand, that they want it hot. they otherwise, they start to feel like "the magic is gone" or worry that it doesnt feel like it used to. the truth is, that the relationship grew and its now taken a lot more serious. so of course it wont be the same, the whole point was to get passed the acceptance phase and get to the committed part. for women that takes out the tension part and they dont understand it
.
I say this for three reasons to be weary of:
1) if youre trying too hard to be likeable and tend to agree with a woman on any old shyt she says, youll be seen as weak and not a challenge. or just plain boring. you dont have to be liked, but most of all you have to be respected. be who you are and dont stress over someones opinion of you.
2) if your woman is spending too much time talking about how angry, frustrated, or otherwise occupied with another man, BEWARE. the late great patrice oneil had a bit where he was right and he said "if my woman is so much as ANGRY at another man, or he is occupying so much space in her head that she emotionally charged by him, they I will cut that shyt out immediately." if a woman is spending her time and most importantly, her EMOTIONS (whether its love envy or hate) on another man, be ready to check that and dead that. if shes using her time to let another man get in her head and get her running hot, guess what. its not too long before she has you permenantly on the background and this new man has taken over her mind. this is all true talk
3) in a relationship women tend to slip and forget that peace, cooperation and consistency is how you keep a man. they get into their emotional desires for a burning flame in their life and for high emotions, but dont realize that doing that causes drama and problems. and women dont get it, so they start drama and problems. sometimes just for attention. even subconsciously they might not know it, but a lot of them do shyt just to start feeling tension again. explain to her very clearly what you expect, what its goin be, and why it has to be that way. on your side, try to keep the desire for her and the excitement alive without the drama. put effort in and make sure she does her part to keep it right. aight, peace.
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CrossBones
Louder than words
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talking is the best way to catch someone slipping. dont judge her, just listen. make it seem like its sweet for a second. when theyre drunk or laughing, theyll slip. or even when shes mad. or just ask about her day. learn to listen to a woman and youll get a lot more than what shes saying if you can peep her out and read between the lines. let her talk but dont lead her too heavy
talking is the best way to catch someone slipping. dont judge her, just listen. make it seem like its sweet for a second. when theyre drunk or laughing, theyll slip. or even when shes mad. or just ask about her day. learn to listen to a woman and youll get a lot more than what shes saying if you can peep her out and read between the lines. let her talk but dont lead her too heavy
I didn't say nothing about it yesterday and today was too busy at work to talk. I should've had my hands out and squeezed it.