Put Yourselves First Guys - Don’t Get Used.

KingFreeman

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Not true either. Dad made over 500k a year, lived in a suburb full of McMansions and mansions in Chicago. Mom was a traditional stay at home mother. My two sisters went to Ivy League schools (one went to Harvard). Dad called the shots too.

Nice try though.

With that background why would you want to make yourself a babymother?
 

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With that background why would you want to make yourself a babymother?

I’ve always been different. I could delve into the type of child I was, but I’ve always had certain ways to me. Machiavellian personality. Me and my older brother were the family black sheep. We both made our parents cry. Which I’ve said in other threads.

I don’t know why I am the way I am. I always wanted what I wanted. I can’t explain it but at the time I did want to stay with the father, i didn’t want to purposely become a baby’s mother necessarily—I don’t even think that thought crossed my mind. I wanted a baby. After the baby came, things changed and somethings were put into more perspective. I no longer wanted to be with him.
 

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What's really sad is how people are starting to look at their children like pets.

YOU wanted a kid without a father at home.

Did the baby okay this arrangement? Wouldn't they rather have their father around? They didn't choose to be here. But they are forced to live with the consequences of a selfish parent.

And then she wants another one. Lord knows how many random men are going to be fukking this child's mother after bedtime to accomplish this.

If u don't put your child's life first above everything, who the fukk will? And when this child gets older, the cycle continues :snoop:


A 2 parent household is the standard. People need to do things properly. shyt happens and you gotta play the hand you dealt sometimes but outright desiring anything else for your child is mental illness.
 

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I respect @CarmelBarbie because unlike most women, she’s not putting up a facade. She’s showing you her true nature. Of course, not every woman is like her but many of them have her same tendencies. And many of them choose to hide it.

Peep game and listen to her because she’s giving you a window into their mentality and as it has been said by me (and quoted by others): women are only loyal to their emotions. The sooner you learn that the sooner you’ll stop trying to understand them.

That’s why they’ll love you one day, hate you the next and jump on a new dikk the following week and feel no remorse. That’s why I live by the second quote in my sig. and if you to think it’s too harsh, you’ll learn the hard way.
In western society yes.

In other cultures women can't make decisions that will affect their families on their own.

It's not easy to just up and leave or say you are going to be a single mom.

They are more loyal to their culture, religion etc
 

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That type of woman most likely grew up in a broken home, or with some spineless simp of a father. Regular adjusted women don't choose to be babymothers.

You brehs should be able to assess what category to put most women within 2 conversations max. Dudes overlook red flags and try to stick around with trash and then want to cop pleas when a baby pops out, or after the wedding.

she mentioned in the thread all the womwn around her are divorced lmfao so they probably prey on suckers.

dudes giving props about her being direcr are idiots because her baby daddy is not hear to confirm anything and people lie like hell on the internet
 

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I still don’t value marriage breh. But you may have point about upbringing and the models of marriage we see. My parents were married. My dad a provider who made a lot of money. My mom was a stay at home mom. We lived in a huge house in a lily white suburb in Chicago. They were happy but I realized early on that I didn’t necessarily want that dynamic. I didn’t want to be sahm, in fact I did it with my son for a year and couldn’t wait to get back to work. I think maybe in my case I wanted the opposite of what my parents modeled. Maybe if both my parents worked and I saw my mom chasing her dreams just like my dad did, instead of putting it on the back burner to support his career and the home, I would have had a different attitude. Funny thing is after 25 years of marriage my mom did divorce him, and she always said she wish she never would have been a sahm—what she called a glorified babysitter. She died a year later. But it solidified what I already thought—where I grew up I saw so many woman put their lives on hold to support their husbands and take care of children. For me, I wanted to do it all. Follow my dreams and have children. So that’s what I did.

Time is a funny thing, maybe you've already realized, you could only be who you are because of the roles your parents played. I often realize the same with my own parents and the demise of their relationship. In that sense I'm thankful it turned out the way it did because I would be different than who I am and I wouldn't appreciate that.

Very interesting how you described their relationship from your eyes. How you describe relationships is really interesting to me, I wonder if anyone else sees it.

I believe that daughters despite the relationship they have with their mother, are thankful that their mom played whichever role they did. The current generation doesn't feel the need to repeat what the prior one engaged in, in that sense. Where that will lead us in an ever-changing paradigm intrigues me.
 

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A 2 parent household is the standard. People need to do things properly. shyt happens and you gotta play the hand you dealt sometimes but outright desiring anything else for your child is mental illness.

You need to define standard. Because the stats don't agree with this. For us in this age, communal or blended families seem like they would be preferred with our methods in marriages and divorce.
 
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