Put Yourselves First Guys - Don’t Get Used.

[semicko82]

SOHH...30+ woman, in shape, educated, career, homeowner, no excess debt, has her own money, doesnt want to spend your money, AND NOT desperate for marriage...but that's a problem now?Are y'all upset because she already has a child and you can't call her a cat lady and say the CNA will beat her? Brehs in here talking about condoms and vasectomy like she trapped dude. She asked and he agreed to have a child

Neva change Coli, neva change

 

[Ziggiy]

OP mostly made some excellent points but @CarmelBarbie made ONE good point as well.


If she was 100% upfront with these dudes about not wanting to get married and basically only use these men as sperm banks then the men should have taken what she said at face value. We all heard and sang along to “Don’t save her. She DON’T WANNA BE SAVED”. We know that that means. J.Cole even remixed it for the new generation so they don’t miss out on the message and nikkas STILL running around giving their hearts and souls to women who couldn’t care less.


@CarmelBarbie correct me if i’m wrong. But basically you knew that your child’s father would indeed end up being a great father so you didn’t mind at all getting pregnant by him. But you told him up front that you under NO conditions would EVER marry him. He seeded you up thinking somehow he could change your mind and was shocked when you stuck to your guns. I’d be willing to bet the relationship probably ended more because he was hurt he couldn’t change your mind than anything else, which led to arguments you hadn’t had before and resentful energy you probably hadn’t felt from him previously.




Now ask yourself fellas, and lets be brutally honest. How is that situation HER fault given the caveat she was honest with him from the beginning? Its the same thing as is dudes telling females we only want to smash and then get annoyed with the chick catches feelings and wants more.


The lesson in this is take women at their word early on and stop thinking that investing time into proving your “different” or “special” and that she’s going to appreciate you being “husband material” if she ain’t looking for a husband.


If she can see you as boyfriend but NOT a husband then the relationship shouldn’t last any longer than 6 months. Thats plenty of time to have some exclusive fun with her before returning her promptly back to the streets

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

These modern women today wonder why they have hard time with relationships

no disrespect , but what’s up with having a child and not having the father around and now step daddy government has to step in, parents are going to be used to baby sit, etc, etc…

feel sorry for all these young nikkas out here

I think it's because they still want to fukk around. Get the baby out the way early and continue fukking the person of your choice well into your 40s.

You brought up living off the government, but some are career women who got they own money. Once they got the baby they can continue traveling and fukking before finally settling

 

[King Poetic]

I think it's because they still want to fukk around. Get the baby out the way early and continue fukking the person of your choice well into your 40s.

You brought up living off the government, but some are career women who got they own money. Once they got the baby they can continue traveling and fukking before finally settling

true. That some are career women

but these career women in their late 30s, 40s especially black more than likely will be settling down with a dog or cat…

not too many professional men are looking to settle themselves with these demanding career women who got kids with bums..

so now you want to settle down with me at 41 years old and I can’t get a kid out of you.. majority of these women chooses to have a kid with a nikka still in they mama house or ex con

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

true. That some are career women

but these career women in their late 30s, 40s especially black more than likely will be settling down with a dog or cat…

not too many professional men are looking to settle themselves with these demanding career women who got kids with bums..

so now you want to settle down with me at 41 years old and I can’t get a kid out of you.. majority of these women chooses to have a kid with a nikka still in they mama house or ex con

Some career women are childless, some aren't. That shyt KS says ain't true all the time. If she's fine, best believe she has a kid or 2. And at the point, she looking to fukk and have fun before finally getting married. Don't women get crazy horny again in their 40s?

I might have to do what @Malcolmxxx_23 said and find me a 4 star hotel with an upscale bar

 

[Savvir]

Why are y’all in a woman’s business? Does she owe you an accounting of her life/views?

Post personal information on a “forum” that’s sole purpose is to discuss posted information…. Then complain about people discussing that information.


Accountability = 0

These hoes raising children in dysfunctional situations ON PURPOSE….

Jesus Christ.

 

[Yinny]

@Savvir someone not agreeing with how you like your wimmenz doesn’t make them a Hoe. Grow up.

 

[Savvir]

@Savvir someone not agreeing with how you like your wimmenz doesn’t make them a Hoe. Grow up.

The last stripper I dated had the same mindset as that chick…. Lol

I know a “hoe” when I see one

 

[semicko82]

Post personal information on a “forum” that’s sole purpose is to discuss posted information…. Then complain about people discussing that information.


Accountability = 0

These hoes raising children in dysfunctional situations ON PURPOSE….

Jesus Christ.

This
That's why I posted earlier if a man did the same shyt he would get clowned and get called all types of dumba$$

 

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

Sisterhood strong like a muthafukka
Women will NEVER point out the fukk shyt other women do
Always place the burden on men for being ain’t shyt
Then you broads wonder why nikkas don’t want to get married because of your wish washy ways
Yall above getting work, anybody saying anything to you, getting joked on, commenting on a situation YOU put out in these internet streets
The fukk they do that at
Thread is a prime example of the bullshyt going on out here between men and women
You can be a momma but not a wife
Ain’t no hope for the future and black folks are done for with this mentality

 

[Vodun]

It be these high earning career women that do this with hobosexuals. They claim that they’ll be alright raising it on their own. And that they may as well get good dikk in the process of doing it

this community might be finished

Naw breh it IS FINISHED I've come to accept it and do the best I can with what I have

 

[Michael's Black Son]

Once you understand women are loyal only to their emotions all of this makes sense.

Its not about long term, its about her and right now and whatever it takes to make right now happen right now.

Ladies don’t wanna hear this but those same emotions they are loyal to are are massive liability that is flat out undefeated. Just give it time.

when logic is seen as pure fiction and emotions are at the wheel, you get some of most must see TV shytty decision making that your eyes can consume.

mix in a lil major lack of accountability and ladies RARELY checking the behavior of their brethren and you have a fukkery bomb in human form.

anyone who disagrees can promptly eat a cock

 

[Mike809]

There's a thread saying to avoid women above 25.

I think we should just avoid all women.
Am I right fellas ?

 

[semicko82]

There's a thread saying to avoid women above 25.

I think we should just avoid all women.
Am I right fellas ?

If you want to go by social media women just want to avoid men lol

 

[Music Fiend]

If God didn't give women the ability to bear children, their innate vanity and selfishness would never allow them to truly give a damn about anyone else but themselves. But the modern woman is so far removed from her proper motherly and nurturing instincts, that having a child is now only done to fulfill that innate vanity. The innate nurturing trait is almost completely ignored by many women. The long term well being of the child be damned, they want a child just to fulfill their own personal desires.

Its not non-existent. Women today just dont want the work involved because they've been told horror stories or seen things out of order growing up.

the difference between men and women today is men KNOW they have to be X before they can get Y. While mist women think when I get Y, ill do X.

so you got a dillemma where the women that do step into the role view it as an added duty/isolation/torment because it was never naturally who they were.

just ask a woman who doesnt cook why? 80% of the time its "i can cook certain things, but why cook and do all this planning for just me. When im taken then ill cook more. You'd be suprised at the anount of sexually active women who will risk pregnancy but wont get in birth control until they aren't single.