Put Yourselves First Guys - Don’t Get Used.

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no one did a thing to me. I had and still have a good life. Sometimes it can be a bytch though. I think that’s true it for everyone.

I endorse the take away message from the op though—don’t get used Brehs, put yourself first always. :wow:

its just how yall (women) are....

finally men are starting to wake up to it....
 

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yep....

took me a long term to figure this one out....after my last LTR i finally GOT IT

all that matters is how she feels RIGHT NOW....

this why you only do things you want to do lol. Doing things to please her leads to an endless cycle of confusion. If she really rocks with you her being in the presence of a happy and healthy version of you will satisfy her. When you are unhappy and depressed because are focused on making her happy, she won't be happy
 

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this why you only do things you want to do lol. Doing things to please her leads to an endless cycle of confusion. If she really rocks with you her being in the presence of a happy and healthy version of you will satisfy her. When you are unhappy and depressed because are focused on making her happy, she won't be happy
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i speak from experience. I've had women live with me and have over a Decade of LTR experience. I said before, meeting chicks on apps or the club and having ONS IS NOT the same as managing a relationship, so I can tell the dudes who have zero experience and think smashing a woman is the same as holding frame/standing on your square in a committed relationship.
 
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I been known that and I low key hate having to maintain side pieces just so ur not left high and dry should ur main get any funny ideas.

It’s just too much damn work to be chatting up multiple women and trying to keep track of conversations. U do that long enough, you’ll realize u know, I’d better focus my energy on a worthwhile hobby.

yep

thats what happens whenever i juggle multiple women...i get tired of it eventually

then like clockwork once i pour my energy into ONE woman the shyt ends....

i finally figured out that you have to keep them on their toes..and trying to figure out where they stand...anything else and they get bored
 
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breh I was 23, I was not trying to get married. And it’s a good thing I didn’t—I way too immature. It would’ve resulted in a divorce. There were also a variety of reasons I left. Someone can be a good person but not necessarily compatible with you, especially for the long term.

as for the flowers, I didn’t know he was going to send them. It was a get well gesture.

My boyfriend is well aware that my son’s father is not over me.

I’ve always been very upfront with Brehs about who I am. Thing is a lot of Brehs I dealt with got blinded by looks and the sex and what not, and ignored what were red flags, and then turn around and get salty.

I’ll never forget the day my bf looked at me and said “damn you can be cold”. he finally saw me.

Brehs need to pay attention and really get to know the woman they’re with—on a deeper level. Y’all also need to stop generalizing women—I’m one woman. We all are not alike smh. I’m fine with being an example of the type of woman you should stay away from. But y’all be taking one example and using it as a demonstration of all women. It’s very strange tbh.

theres no way you can possibly personally know the 4 billion women on earth....so we generalize....generalizations exist because they hold some basis of truth....thats with most thiungs in life...not just women

after having dealt with a number of women in my life...im a lot older than most of yall....you are not as unique in your thinking and behavior as you might think
 

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this why you only do things you want to do lol. Doing things to please her leads to an endless cycle of confusion. If she really rocks with you her being in the presence of a happy and healthy version of you will satisfy her. When you are unhappy and depressed because are focused on making her happy, she won't be happy
they got a void that's infinite. you try to fill it, you get stuck in a hamster wheel called the rat race.
 

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yep

thats what happens whenever i juggle multiple women...i get tired of it eventually

then like clockwork once i pour my energy into ONE woman the shyt ends....

i finally figured out that you have to keep them on their toes..and trying to figure out where they stand...anything else and they get bored

yup
 

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they got a void that's infinite. you try to fill it, you get stuck in a hamster wheel called the rat race.
they also sense weakness when you shift focus to pleasing them, vs focusing on yourself lol. Its hilarious after the fact, but it can be hell on earth for men who do not understand this dynamic. Dudes end up killing themselves figuratively and literally wondering why they can never make her happy when a mans purpose is to focus on his journey. Only thing a man puts before himself is God.
 

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Actually, heard that from multiple women especially older.

It cool, homegirl kinda snake-ish for not telling dude upfront tho
 

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I been known that and I low key hate having to maintain side pieces just so ur not left high and dry should ur main get any funny ideas.

It’s just too much damn work to be chatting up multiple women and trying to keep track of conversations. U do that long enough, you’ll realize u know, I’d better focus my energy on a worthwhile hobby.
Nothing but the facts…

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Then when you get her and juggling side pieces, she decides to go through your phone, email, car, social media, etc., trying to find any resemblance of a side chick. Trying to get you to cut off legit female friends, etc…


Only for that shyt to end and you have to start over meanwhile her “best friend” she be talking to either got her a nikka or some nikka been waiting in the wings
 

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You'd be surprised how many women (mainly BW) that actually prefer this type of setup.

It's not uncommon.

I don't see anything wrong with it tbh, as long as they're fine with it and they keep it 100

Not many.

Both parties would have to be financially stable to pull this off. By financially stable I mean both parties would have to be high earners.
 
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