People hype up being single these days. Anyone not like being single?

[ThrobbingHood]

what do you think makes her likable and interesting?

Eclectic music taste (which says alot to me).
Also plays instruments.
Reads a variety of books.
Different hobbies.
Open minded.

A mirror of me, which is why we get on so well.

Edit: most importantly, she has a genuine self-deprecating sense of humor. Not forced or try hard. Just naturally funny.

 

[mag357]

Coming up to five years.

Yes. For example, I’m a very fussy eater and have always cooked for myself. Even though she can cook too, she knows how particular I am.

So she went out of her way to make breakfast/dinner exactly the way I like it. The fact I didn’t have to prompt her spoke volumes to me. I don’t mind cooking but she wanted to alleviate that aspect of life for me to make my life easier.

Now something like that may seem trivial or expected but I’ve been in relationships where that kind of effort or gesture is non-existent if not rare. And she’s kept it up five years on.

Beyond cooking, it’s little things like taking a genuine interest in my family, getting along with my parents, sharing hobbies but most importantly: respecting my boundaries and giving me peace.

I’d say we share 90% of the same hobbies and activities. The 10% we don’t, that’s our “alone” time, and I can’t stress how important that is. As much as we love each other, you shouldn’t be attached to the hip with anyone.

We have our own friends and sometimes we cross over but for the most part, we understand the importance of having “our” time and “alone” time.

I couldn’t be happier because in previous relationships, having alone time was taken as an affront to those women. And in reality, they were somewhat right as spending time with them felt like a chore.

In all my years being with my fiancée, being with her has never felt like a chore. But again, she’s also likeable and interesting. And is always willing to learn and expand her horizons: a trait severely lacking from my exes.

Cool.
I could run through this and nitpick but I like seeing people happy. No matter what it is. 4ever or temporary

I personally ain't never had a bad day being by myself and I see these married nikkaz and nikkaz with girlfriends.
That life looks terrible.
Good for u tho.

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

Coming up to five years.

Yes. For example, I’m a very fussy eater and have always cooked for myself. Even though she can cook too, she knows how particular I am.

So she went out of her way to make breakfast/dinner exactly the way I like it. The fact I didn’t have to prompt her spoke volumes to me. I don’t mind cooking but she wanted to alleviate that aspect of life for me to make my life easier.

Now something like that may seem trivial or expected but I’ve been in relationships where that kind of effort or gesture is non-existent if not rare. And she’s kept it up five years on.

Beyond cooking, it’s little things like taking a genuine interest in my family, getting along with my parents, sharing hobbies but most importantly: respecting my boundaries and giving me peace.

I’d say we share 90% of the same hobbies and activities. The 10% we don’t, that’s our “alone” time, and I can’t stress how important that is. As much as we love each other, you shouldn’t be attached to the hip with anyone.

We have our own friends and sometimes we cross over but for the most part, we understand the importance of having “our” time and “alone” time.

I couldn’t be happier because in previous relationships, having alone time was taken as an affront to those women. And in reality, they were somewhat right as spending time with them felt like a chore.

In all my years being with my fiancée, being with her has never felt like a chore. But again, she’s also likeable and interesting. And is always willing to learn and expand her horizons: a trait severely lacking from my exes.

Once she becomes your wife

As a fiancée, she’s still auditioning.

 

[Givethanks]

Aren't human's are social by nature?

 

[Redwood]

Aren't human's are social by nature?

Yes, but some people will choose solitude if things are too extreme.

 

[Luke Cage]

single or in a relationship. both equally fine to me. Relationships bring greater fulfillment but also greater stress, being single can be lonely at times but also brings more peace and freedom. I take advantage of both whenever i have the opportunity.

 

[africngiant]

ts goated no nagging, pursuing your goals freely. a lot more free time on your hands for limitless potential and exploration for continued personal development

 

[Nokids]

Single life is dope as fukk, and you could sense the envy from your married friends/ones in relationships. Especially when you’re taking trips whenever, doing your own thing.

Was getting ready to go to the bars at 10:00 on a Friday my homie hit me up like tryna get on the game his shorty heard us on speaker and said where’s he going my boy said Out all his girl could say was hmm

 

[richaveli83]

Being single sucks. I haven't had a real relationship in years. Just a bunch of hook ups and casual stuff.

 

[Koapa]

I would rather be in committed relation but I will never settle for a bullshyt partner again.

Being single with a roster is nice. As long as you're being upfront with a chick, you good.

 

[ConPHIdential]

Relationship happiness > Single happiness > Single loneliness > Relationship misery.

Being stuck in a situation where you’re not happy really fukking sucks.

 

[ViShawn]

It's all posturing. People are meant to connect with others. It's innate in humanity. You'll have women trying to post statistics about how women are unhappy when they're married, etc yet still yearn for relationships with men. It's funny. Also I'd argue a lot of men don't want to be single and that's evident in the major impact of the loneliness crisis on us.

 

[Givethanks]

Yes, but some people will choose solitude if things are too extreme.

100%, I feel like a lot of people do that even when things aren't extreme. I know a few guys who choose solitude because of some bullshyt, that's all in their head.

My friend let's call him guy1, his dad is short, going bald with missing dreads, patchy beard, has 7 kids 2baby mamas (a black one and white one) but his mom has been married to his dad for over 30 years... But he'll swear up and down women have high standards.

When he was smashing fat bisexual white women with colourful hair he was happy, making hella excuses but he was happy.

Ever since he listened to our other friend, who told him he deserves better and to stop messing with white women. He's been on this "why am I so lonely, why is getting into a relationship so hard" business lol.

Now it's " I only like thick black IG models shaped like anime cartoons" which he doesn't see in real life and when he see's women like that he just stares at them


I used to want to help them, now I'm just. I just don't think it's ever that extreme and a lot of it comes from egos and having acceptance from other men, which is understandable.

 

[Henny and_ HotWings]

I've had bad relationships and the peace I get from being single outweights the frustration and toxicity I expereinced in previously relationships.

Bro, same here smh

 

[BaldingSoHard]

I'm in a good relationship now but I think I prefer being single.
If this doesn't work out, I'm done trying to link up for life.