People hype up being single these days. Anyone not like being single?

[ThrobbingHood]

All jokes aside, I always preferred being single until I met my fiancée. I really didn’t see myself settling down and not because of infidelity, but because I really just preferred my own company.

I found relationships draining until I realized that I didn’t genuinely like most of the women I dated. And that was my own fault for not vetting them.

I liked what they had to offer on a superficial level but beyond that, they weren’t really likeable. I would dread having to spend time with them outside of having sex.

I thought there was something wrong with me until I met someone who I genuinely liked. It was a shock for me because I truly thought I could never maintain a relationship but I was just choosing the wrong women.

I truly believe when you match someone’s energy, it can change your life in more ways than you imagine. Just don’t ever settle because you’ll grow to resent them. I know too many men than genuinely despise their spouse and I worry for those women.

 

[Micky Mikey]

i like p*ssy and prefer the intimate and warm company of females. i can't help it

 

[mag357]

All jokes aside, I always preferred being single until I met my fiancée. I really didn’t see myself settling down and not because of infidelity, but because I really just preferred my own company.

I found relationships draining until I realized that I didn’t genuinely like most of the women I dated. And that was my own fault for not vetting them.

I liked what they had to offer on a superficial level but beyond that, they weren’t really likeable. I would dread having to spend time with them outside of having sex.

I thought there was something wrong with me until I met someone who I genuinely liked. It was a shock for me because I truly thought I could never maintain a relationship but I was just choosing the wrong women.

I truly believe when you match someone’s energy, it can change your life in more ways than you imagine. Just don’t ever settle because you’ll grow to resent them. I know too many men than genuinely despise their spouse and I worry for those women.

Respectfully... And I hope all things go well with u.

But every divorced and miserable man felt the same way you feel now.
They found the one... nobody else was right for them. Yada yada yada.
Edit:
And then bang... Misery.
You can't control another person. And that other gender can barely control their own change of emotions.

I see you preferred being single. Don't understand why someone would change a good situation, for something that can get extremely bad in a few years

 

[ThrobbingHood]

Respectfully... And I hope all things go well with u.

But every divorced and miserable man felt the same way you feel now.
They found the one... nobody else was right for them. Yada yada yada.

We’ll see. I’ve played the field enough and vetted more than enough women to narrow it down to her. If I’m wrong, then oh well. But I trust my instincts.

 

[mag357]

We’ll see. I’ve played the field enough and vetted more than enough women to narrow it down to her. If I’m wrong, then oh well. But I trust my instincts.

I had to edit and add more to my comment.
This site is killing me smh

But in a situation like getting into a relationship u can't just go "if I'm wrong, then oh well".

That's where guys get this sht fcked up.
Your time, money, life is too important to gamble it away on somebody else, unsure of the outcome.

But blessings to u

 

[NaijaProdigy Redux]

I STRONGLY preferred being single until I met my current girlfriend.

She's amazing -- attractive, independent, well-educated, wealthy, and from a good family. I've dated these types before but the most important part is that she's empathetic, gives me peace and is a value-add.

Part of it is also age. I have no interest in juggling a "roster" like I did in my 20s and early 30s.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

I see you preferred being single. Don't understand why someone would change a good situation, for something that can get extremely bad in a few years

Because she’s added value to my life in all the years we’ve been together and continues to do so. If she didn’t, I wouldn’t be with her now.

She made a good situation even better.

 

[mag357]

Because she’s added value to my life in all the years we’ve been together and continues to do so. If she didn’t, I wouldn’t be with her now.

How long y'all been together.
And the things that she's done, could u have done for yourself?

 

[ThrobbingHood]

How long y'all been together.
And the things that she's done, could u have done for yourself?

Coming up to five years.

Yes. For example, I’m a very fussy eater and have always cooked for myself. Even though she can cook too, she knows how particular I am.

So she went out of her way to make breakfast/dinner exactly the way I like it. The fact I didn’t have to prompt her spoke volumes to me. I don’t mind cooking but she wanted to alleviate that aspect of life for me to make my life easier.

Now something like that may seem trivial or expected but I’ve been in relationships where that kind of effort or gesture is non-existent if not rare. And she’s kept it up five years on.

Beyond cooking, it’s little things like taking a genuine interest in my family, getting along with my parents, sharing hobbies but most importantly: respecting my boundaries and giving me peace.

I’d say we share 90% of the same hobbies and activities. The 10% we don’t, that’s our “alone” time, and I can’t stress how important that is. As much as we love each other, you shouldn’t be attached to the hip with anyone.

We have our own friends and sometimes we cross over but for the most part, we understand the importance of having “our” time and “alone” time.

I couldn’t be happier because in previous relationships, having alone time was taken as an affront to those women. And in reality, they were somewhat right as spending time with them felt like a chore.

In all my years being with my fiancée, being with her has never felt like a chore. But again, she’s also likeable and interesting. And is always willing to learn and expand her horizons: a trait severely lacking from my exes.

 

[WesCrook]

Coming up to five years.

Yes. For example, I’m a very fussy eater and have always cooked for myself. Even though she can cook too, she knows how particular I am.

So she went out of her way to make breakfast/dinner exactly the way I like it. The fact I didn’t have to prompt her spoke volumes to me. I don’t mind cooking but she wanted to alleviate that aspect of life for me to make my life easier.

Now something like that may seem trivial or expected but I’ve been in relationships where that kind of effort or gesture is non-existent if not rare. And she’s kept it up five years on.

Beyond cooking, it’s little things like taking a genuine interest in my family, getting along with my parents, sharing hobbies but most importantly: respecting my boundaries and giving me peace.

I’d say we share 90% of the same hobbies and activities. The 10% we don’t, that’s our “alone” time, and I can’t stress how important that is. As much as we love each other, you shouldn’t be attached to the hip with anyone.

We have our own friends and sometimes we cross over but for the most part, we understand the importance of having “our” time and “alone” time.

I couldn’t be happier because in previous relationships, having alone time was taken as an affront to those women. And in reality, they were somewhat right as spending time with them felt like a chore.

In all my years being with my fiancée, being with her has never felt like a chore. But again, she’s also likeable and interesting. And is always willing to learn and expand her horizons: a trait severely lacking from my exes.

These 90's R&B lyrical dudes out here talking that "she's my everything" . It's not healthy either, but that's whole 'nother topic.

Always keep a piece of yourself....for yourself

 

[ThrobbingHood]

These 90's R&B lyrical dudes out here talking that "she's my everything" . It's not healthy either, but that's whole 'nother topic.

Always keep a piece of yourself....for yourself

People neglect how important alone time is. You can’t reflect when you have someone else standing in front of the mirror. That’s how you forget who you are.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

it's not really a preference either way, just what it is and i'm still thriving lol
this week i will have done 2 flights, 2-3 work deadlines, 4 personal appointments, church, my bro bday, my cousin funeral, quality time with my niece (i learned a life hack of getting gum out of hair....olive oil!), exercise.
and i missed a few events at that (game night, quarterly in office meeting and related social events)
i just want to sleep longer.
not even thinking about dikks.

 

[WesCrook]

I STRONGLY preferred being single until I met my current girlfriend.

She's amazing -- attractive, independent, well-educated, wealthy, and from a good family. I've dated these types before but the most important part is that she's empathetic, gives me peace and is a value-add.

Part of it is also age. I have no interest in juggling a "roster" like I did in my 20s and early 30s.

I don't know about you, but the biggest deterrent about having a roster is that those women in the lower pecking order will soon want to be your #1 and insist on spending more time with you IF YOU ARE THAT GUY.

There's only so much free time in one day/week.

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

Respectfully... And I hope all things go well with u.

But every divorced and miserable man felt the same way you feel now.
They found the one... nobody else was right for them. Yada yada yada.
Edit:
And then bang... Misery.
You can't control another person. And that other gender can barely control their own change of emotions.

I see you preferred being single. Don't understand why someone would change a good situation, for something that can get extremely bad in a few years

Every one.

 

[idonttouchgrass]

But again, she’s also likeable and interesting.

what do you think makes her likable and interesting?