Parents Keep It 100 In Son's Obituary

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Nah I can’t respect that. :unimpressed:

I had a cousin involved in street shyt and everybody in the family knew it. One day he got shot up and left for dead after leaving the barbershop. Luckily someone called the paramedics and he ended up surviving. But if he died and my aunt and uncle said some shyt like this in their obituary, everybody in the family would give them the:camby:

I disagree fam. What’s even worse is propping a degenerate up as a saint in death. When you engage in these things, you devalue life and the living. Speak truth to power, maybe save a life that is worth living.
 
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I don’t know how old everybody is on here but I’ll tell you from experience there’s no greater pain to have to go through than having a child go against everything you’ve worked hard to instill in them their entire lives. On top of that, as this thread shows people will blame you and say you didn’t do enough.

Some kids are just selfish hearted and want what they want.

Pretty much this...... I know more than a few live street nikkas that came from great homes...
 
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How can y’all blame the parents in this? Even by the way the letter is written you can tell they tried but the son was hard headed.

as a good parent you do your best for your kids try and give them all the tools to succeed but for some kids nothing is more enticing than the streets. You try and pull them back but they gotta learn on their own. Hopefully they make it thru without disgracing the family.

I’m speaking as one of those kids that made it thru. I look at my past life and just smh.
 

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How can y’all blame the parents in this? Even by the way the letter is written you can tell they tried but the son was hard headed.

as a good parent you do your best for your kids try and give them all the tools to succeed but for some kids nothing is more enticing than the streets. You try and pull them back but they gotta learn on their own. Hopefully they make it thru without disgracing the family.

I’m speaking as one of those kids that made it thru. I look at my past life and just smh.
Point a finger at someone and 5 more are pointing at you
 

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I respect their choice, i don’t respect their execution, it’s no need to say all that to the public, you were better off saying nothing at all.

Sometimes you need someone to step up to bat and shake things up.

There is no lack of young black men dying from the same shiit over and over again, so if this does nothing but give the world some reflection, especially those in the life ..... then well worth it.

We all have heard the single mama say her son was a darling and innocent countless times, when yes he was probably misguided by the streets and turned into a ruffian, but he was no angel....here we have 2 parents that reveal the 360 degrees of a young adult. He lived fast life, but he wasn't raised with those values, and had parents that tried to steer him in different direction.

Apparently, about 7,000 - 8,000 black american men are homicide victims annually at least in 2016 Where Does Your State Rank When It Comes to Black Homicide?

Crazy part is it use to be much worse. I remember way back in the the 90s seeing 10,000/year or more.
 
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"tough love"

Most kids can't handle "touch love
Black parents need to learn from their predecessor
A lot of black parents don't get that their kids could have mental health and stability issues. My father and I were talking about something similar.

We know this guy having problems with his son (mid 20's now). The usual failing school, wrong crowd, drugs, girls, unemployed, etc.

My dad was like "I don't get why he's choosing this life. His family has done so much for him". I try to explain that it's mental, he can't help what he's doing. But my father just couldn't grasp what I was saying.

Extra love won't fix anything. Their head is wired differently and you need better approaches.
 

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Yup.. Funerals are for the living

they knew that the life that he chose to live was not worth celebrating (funeral), but they hoped that thier once pride and joy didn’t die in vain. So they skipped the funeral, put out a eulogy hoping to change/save a life. And instead of buying flowers or spending money on funeral stuff, put those resources towards people/efforts that are actually making a difference and saving lives.
 

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I don't respect that.

Things like that stand out as red flags to me. When a kid is messed up, the first thing I will do is look at the parents so it doesn't sit right when their port of call is to demonstrate that they did their job when dealing with the demise of their son.

I'm left with the impression that their image is and was always more important than what their son was going through.
I just get a sense that they're angry at him. I don't know much about their parenting, but from what the little that I read, it seems as if they were frustrated parents who tried over and over and over to keep their son away from the foolishness. He was a young dude. Only 22. I can see the frustration in their words. They basically took a "Well, we told him so. Why cry now?" approach. I don't know....I guess this is their closure.
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