On a serious note, who's been divorced or going through one right now?

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Pray..

 

[Phoenix_Knightly23]

Pray..

 

[Mike Ock]

just sayin'

 

[Solano707]

When i was cheated on, here were the signs

- She became distance
- All of a sudden she has a new cousin.
- The sex stop, told me she didnt want to be touched by anybody.
- She would get mad at me easily
- Only time she wanted to talk is when she needed something.
- Talking on the phone with her 'cousin' all day. I had the phone records.

I asked her over and over, is this person really your cousin? She would say yes. I asked her a dozen times, are you cheating? She would always say 'No'.

So i put a keylogger on her computer and found all the answers i needed.. Its crazy how at the time you think you'll never get over it. But with time you will.. My gut told me she was, but my ego got in the way.

Whats funny, even to this day. She still blames me for her stepping out.. lol.. Bruh life is toooo short for drama.

It's wierd, because we don't have any money problems, we don't fight over it. I see all the bills, I know where all my money is going. We talk everyday, if not every other day. All she wanted from me was reassurance that she was doing a good job - something I wasn't telling her.
Her smoking weed, I"m not concerned with because we use to smoke all the time. Being in the military we got away from that naturally.

Now that I'm actually looking back in hindsight - i think im just overreacting. I've asked our older daughter how mom is doing and she says good. I asked her if unual things are happening around the house and she said no. She will tell me.

Plus my wife is clumsy as fukk, she can't hid shyt to save her life. 15 years - i know.

Again, I appreciate everyone's mature response in this thread. I really do.

 

[MikelArteta]

Live in denial brehs!

It's wierd, because we don't have any money problems, we don't fight over it. I see all the bills, I know where all my money is going. We talk everyday, if not every other day. All she wanted from me was reassurance that she was doing a good job - something I wasn't telling her.
Her smoking weed, I"m not concerned with because we use to smoke all the time. Being in the military we got away from that naturally.

Now that I'm actually looking back in hindsight - i think im just overreacting. I've asked our older daughter how mom is doing and she says good. I asked her if unual things are happening around the house and she said no. She will tell me.

Plus my wife is clumsy as fukk, she can't hid shyt to save her life. 15 years - i know.

Again, I appreciate everyone's mature response in this thread. I really do.

 

[Xtraz2]

how's tha sex these days?

duz your wife's p*ssy feel looser?

 

[61 Corpses]

Damn this thread is sad af

I'm glad you're still modding homie

 

[Phoenix_Knightly23]

I'll give you 200 coli cash to check her 'others' folder on FB

When i was cheated on, here were the signs

- She became distance
- All of a sudden she has a new cousin.
- The sex stop, told me she didnt want to be touched by anybody.
- She would get mad at me easily
- Only time she wanted to talk is when she needed something.
- Talking on the phone with her 'cousin' all day. I had the phone records.


I asked her over and over, is this person really your cousin? She would say yes. I asked her a dozen times, are you cheating? She would always say 'No'.

So i put a keylogger on her computer and found all the answers i needed.. Its crazy how at the time you think you'll never get over it. But with time you will.. My gut told me she was, but my ego got in the way.





Whats funny, even to this day. She still blames me for her stepping out.. lol.. Bruh life is toooo short for drama.

why didn't you just have her call her "cousin" on speakerphone? lol

 

[KOOL-AID]

damn these stories are really eye opening, anyone who has been through a divorce u have my sympathy. I think now I'll probably do the super girlfriend thing, if she wants a ring she'll get one, but I'm not signing no papers and making that transition to marriage.

 

[Marco Zen]

It's wierd, because we don't have any money problems, we don't fight over it. I see all the bills, I know where all my money is going. We talk everyday, if not every other day. All she wanted from me was reassurance that she was doing a good job - something I wasn't telling her.
Her smoking weed, I"m not concerned with because we use to smoke all the time. Being in the military we got away from that naturally.

Now that I'm actually looking back in hindsight - i think im just overreacting. I've asked our older daughter how mom is doing and she says good. I asked her if unual things are happening around the house and she said no. She will tell me.

Plus my wife is clumsy as fukk, she can't hid shyt to save her life. 15 years - i know.

Again, I appreciate everyone's mature response in this thread. I really do.

Counseling?

 

[Kalik]

We've talked last night and we both admitted our wrongs (her reaching out for friends, me for not being there - never calling and shyt like that). All she wanted was that she was doing a good job back home, taking care of the kids (we have four 15, 12, 8, 5) I admit, that I have not wasn't giving her the attention that shee needed. I tell you this, don't let work consume you. She said she wasn't asking much, just words of encouragement that she was doing a good job. She said "babe, that's all I wanted, just for you to say that I was doing a good job and not your normal Army reply of 'just suck it up and drive on' ". Then she said "you know how difficult it is with 4 kids with all there fighting and nonsense I have deal with?" . She got upset with me because I was making irrational decisions half way arcross the world without sitting down with her. She said she understands how I felt, but at the same time, I owed her that face to face. I agreed.

After 15 years of being with her, I asked her if she cheated, and she said no. I know her more than she knows herself, and vice versa. We've talked on the phone for a good 2 hours. After our conversation, we felt better. One thing I must say, she is a very loving person, we've been through so much shyt to together.

She said that she was worried that I have changed and that she said that she has changed. That's understandable; a whole year away from each other - people are going to change.

Before we got off the phone, I asked her to be straight up with me. "Did you ever cheat me on me?"

She said "No, why would I even do that? Do you see that house and the cars I drive? Do you see our children? Why would I give that up for somebody else? I ain't gone, lie, we got our problems, but that's only between us. "

I asked her "how come you did'nt call AAA to fix the tire like I said?" She was like, "Nikka, you want my rates to go up? You see I got that neighbor cutting our grass for free and you ain't said nothing about that, I got allergies bad and I'm not sweating my hair out either. So what's the difference that I got some ashy nikka changing out the tire for free, you gonna do it all the way ove rthere?"
I was like "The rates don't go up though?
She was like "Do you pay the bills? You know these companies are trying to nickle and dime us for everything You still want that PS4 right? The boys want to play Skylanders when you get home, Ray J (my son) can only play for an hour though cause he got homework and he been acting up in school

At that point, I had the seperation papers in my hand already filled out that I got from the JAG office earlier yesterday. I threw them in the bushes.

Dat ashy nikka getting his dikk glistening from your wife breh.

I been thru a divorce (she didnt cheat) and I'd divorce my current wife as well. Real talk afetr being thru 1 divorce, I'd do it again if my new one mess up.

My 1st marriage ended over "white privilege" where my ex thinks cuz Im an immigrant Im gonna buss my ass working 2 jobs and she stay home being a housewife.


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You a military dude and your 15 year old son aint mowing the lawn and changing tires. The lawn dude proly bussin her off too

 

[61 Corpses]

Dat ashy nikka getting his dikk glistening from your wife breh.

I been thru a divorce (she didnt cheat) and I'd divorce my current wife as well. Real talk afetr being thru 1 divorce, I'd do it again if my new one mess up.

My 1st marriage ended over "white privilege" where my ex thinks cuz Im an immigrant Im gonna buss my ass working 2 jobs and she stay home being a housewife.


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You a military dude and your 15 year old son aint mowing the lawn and changing tires. The lawn dude proly bussin her off too

What happened fam?

 

[Kalik]

What happened fam?

I meant if anything fishy starts happening.

 

[Jayson_bourn]

i think its over tho.

I read your first reply like

Then this one like

 

[swag2011]

I was just say be careful. I actually like the advice where people where telling you to look further into it to know what you're working with.

Something that stood out was the dude's BM trying to get a hold of you. She is trying to tell you something. I would listen to her to hear what she has to say. It has to be a reason why she wants to talk to you.