Damn right and I came in here to expound on this.
She is fukking her BD
When a woman is ready to go to battle with another woman, it's
always over what she think is hers and hers alone.
Trust they are fukking if she's been confronted and this
is really all the proof you need to know that slim ain't right.
She's a user, manipulative and a liar.
We've talked last night and we both admitted our wrongs (her reaching out for friends, me for not being there - never calling and shyt like that). All she wanted was that she was doing a good job back home, taking care of the kids (we have four 15, 12, 8, 5) I admit, that I have not wasn't giving her the attention that shee needed. I tell you this, don't let work consume you. She said she wasn't asking much, just words of encouragement that she was doing a good job. She said "babe, that's all I wanted, just for you to say that I was doing a good job and not your normal Army reply of 'just suck it up and drive on'". Then she said "you know how difficult it is with 4 kids with all there fighting and nonsense I have deal with?
" . She got upset with me because I was making irrational decisions half way arcross the world without sitting down with her. She said she understands how I felt, but at the same time, I owed her that face to face. I agreed.
After 15 years of being with her, I asked her if she cheated, and she said no. I know her more than she knows herself, and vice versa. We've talked on the phone for a good 2 hours. After our conversation, we felt better. One thing I must say, she is a very loving person, we've been through so much shyt to together.
She said that she was worried that I have changed and that she said that she has changed. That's understandable; a whole year away from each other - people are going to change.
Before we got off the phone, I asked her to be straight up with me. "Did you ever cheat me on me?"
She said "No, why would I even do that? Do you see that house and the cars I drive? Do you see our children? Why would I give that up for somebody else? I ain't gone, lie, we got our problems, but that's only between us. "
I asked her "how come you did'nt call AAA to fix the tire like I said?" She was like, "Nikka, you want my rates to go up? You see I got that neighbor cutting our grass for free and you ain't said nothing about that, I got allergies bad and I'm not sweating my hair out either.So what's the difference that I got some ashy nikka changing out the tire for free, you gonna do it all the way ove rthere?"
I was like "The rates don't go up though?
She was like "Do you pay the bills? You know these companies are trying to nickle and dime us for everythingThe boys want to play Skylanders when you get home, Ray J (my son) can only play for an hour though cause he got homework and he been acting up in school
At that point, I had the seperation papers in my hand already filled out that I got from the JAG office earlier yesterday.I threw them in the bushes.
damn these stories are really eye opening, anyone who has been through a divorce u have my sympathy. I think now I'll probably do the super girlfriend thing, if she wants a ring she'll get one, but I'm not signing no papers and making that transition to marriage.
@ you thinking its that easy. what you think nikkas is making it official out of sheer will? 
good luck
tell me more
why dnt nikkas just not sign any papers and just live together with they chick in a marriage like relationship?thats a fantasy that all men hope happens but very few achieve due to legal documents being a meal ticket for women and a ball and chain for men
It's more than just an emotional affair going on at this point. Your wife is a whore breh.I just worked so much, I rarely called and when i did, it was only like a 5 minute conversation. We had a 'talk' a few months ago so we can ge tback on track. Then, she met some friends, starting smoking weed (not a big deal, but that's not like her). She would say "i'm fukked", and I would ask her "what's wrong", but she kept replying to stuff like "im fukked up" or "i need help" - she wasn't telling me what was going. These group of friends she kicks it with, I do not like at all so that plays a big role. For instance, the other week, the honda had a flat tire so she asked me what to do. I told her to call AAA and get it towed to the dealership to get a new one or get it patched. What she do? Call her friend, who is a older lady that has a son our age, asks that nikka to come to the house to change the tire.
So after that, i told her she can never speak to taht nikka ever again, or come over and cut off all ties. She's like fine. So I get over this BS. So yesterday, I call her asking her what's up and how she doing. Im thinking everythign isShe say's she's at her friends mother's house
It feels like ripping off stitches from a gun shot wound to the chest - i'm just reliving shyt all over again.
Don't ge tme wrong, all married couples have issues and problems.
I may be overreacting (hopefully).
I already told my girl that If I see him, I'm going to hill himI've did that shyt plenty of times in Iraq, and I'm down to do it again.
just for you to say that I was doing a good job and not your normal Army reply of 'just suck it up and drive on'
How much did you spend on divorce? Did you have alot of motions and the back and forth? Where issues resolved at the Early Settlement Panel or did you go to trial? Did you get put in the child support system and have to pay alimony to the bytch?Just curious, how did it work out for you? Was it hard or easy? Are there children inovled? If you would recommend how to deal with it, what would you say to that person who may be getting one?
you plan on becoming a slave or something?
