Nobody Prepared Me For Thermostat Battles With My Wife

[Hathaway]

Maaaaaaan listen.

When I tried family counseling and my mom canceled it and said it was for me because she was “over it”. And people wonder where my cool demeanor comes from

We need a thread on this

 

[datnigDASTARDLY]

You did it this time breh

Dap + Rep, we all feel that pain

 

[Da King]

81 in the house and we’re throwing hands

 

[#1 pick]

We will have been married 5 years come November. Beautiful relationship. Kids. Healthy marriage. But throughout all of our pre-marriage counseling, I was not warned about the wars I'd have to endure over the thermostat. This is my wife. My Queen. I want her to be comfortable. I compromise a lot in this relationship and so does she. It is necessary for a successful marriage. However, I grew up in a home where my parents kept the temp between 63 and 65 degrees F.

The vent in my room at my parents house was ALWAYS closed. They kept it freezing in that house. I slept in a jacket throughout the Summer and they still kept it cool in the Winter like around 70.

So naturally, I like to keep my home warm. Not overbearingly hot but a modest warm temp 78-79 with no A/C on. Plus it saves money.

Last night, when everybody went to sleep, I stayed up to play my game. My wife turned the air on before she went to bed. Had it set to 75. I said cool. I put on my jacket and chilled for the next 3 hours until she was asleep then I turned it off like I always do. I don't like sleeping with the air on because we already keep our fan on in our room with the door closed, might I add. We get a good circulation of cool air throughout the night.

So last night, I'm playing my game, it's about 1am. My wife come out the bedroom door looking like this:


It was chilling seeing her standing in the doorway in pitch blackness staring at me with a cold, evil intent. She gazed at the thermostat in disbelief. It was at 81 degrees. She said "Coolest, it is 81 degrees in here in the middle of July. I AM HOT. How can you sit in here at 81 degrees and not be hot!?"

I said, the air has only been off for like an hour.

Her response:


I could see her agitation increasing. My wife gets very irritable when she's hungry and doubly so when she's hot and sleepy. I felt like I had sat in this freezing air for 3 hours and it was my turn to be comfortable. Give and take, right? Compromise right?

I was wrong.


Now, I understand that she is hot. I do not deny this. Each of our bodies interpret temperature differently. I do not think 80 degrees is hot. She disagrees. She does not think 75 degrees is cold. I disagree.

I allowed her to turn the air back on because one thing I've learned in my 5 years of marriage is to never allow a dispute, no matter how small, to fester without resolution. I put back on my jacket, zipped it up and continued my gaming. When I got ready for bed about 2 hours later, I turned the air back off

I pay the power bill, so I feel like I have more authority over the thermostat. That authority is challenged consistently, however. Therefore, I have no authority at all.

When I got up this morning, she said she woke up AGAIN at 4am to go and turn the air back on. We had a healthy little 7am "disagreement" and I conceded completely.
I knew this was a battle I could never win. Never. I told her that I hear and understand her grievances and I threw in her face "happy wife, happy life". This is a statement I always throw at her whenever I feel I am forced to compromise unnecessarily/unfairly and it gets under her skin.
Her response:


My points were made but it was all for naught. Keep your wife happy, no matter the cost. I have put my foot down on other issues, but this is one battle I lost. I am the sole casualty of this war. But my wife is satisfied. That's all that matters.

Time to switch to solar

 

[Road20]

Bruh I felt this in my soul . My wife and I go back and forth and that shyt too

 

[Volt]

You share that thermostat.

Seriously though, the smart play is to find a compromise where she can live with the fans on. That way you can at least have her direct all the wind to her and chill.

You almost got stabbed leaving your girl on only fans. 81 is some bullshyt indoors, especially if you're trying to sleep.

 

[Hathaway]

You share that thermostat.

Seriously though, the smart play is to find a compromise where she can live with the fans on. That way you can at least have her direct all the wind to her and chill.

You almost got stabbed leaving your girl on only fans. 81 is some bullshyt indoors, especially if you're trying to sleep.

There is no compromise on this issue, brother. It's over.

 

[BushidoBrown]

my parents kept the temp between 63 and 65 degrees F.

got damn yall had that sht on arctic

modest warm temp 78-79 with no A/C on.

wildin. 70-76 is reasonable in the summertime months

Her response:

When I got ready for bed about 2 hours later, I turned the air back off

nikka signed his own death certificate

I pay the power bill, so I feel like I have more authority over the thermostat. That authority is challenged consistently, however.

reasonable stance but breh, people go to the BEACH when its 81 degrees out

how you 'the coolest' and u need it to be over 75 to be comfortable

 

[Ghetto Denizen]

81 degrees in the house is borderline torture, I see a step-dad in your kids future

 

[BushidoBrown]

Op really is a moron. Stupid idiot saw it was 81 and his wife was sweating and still thought he was right. How in rhe hell can one forum be filled with such morons

nikka let her fall asleep a second time thinkin sht was sweet and doubled down and turned the a/c back off a short while later
that shyt got me in absolute tears after seeing his queen's initial reaction to that hot ass furnace he got her livin in

 

[Champagne Kudo]

Yeah op you trippin. I’d be ready to fight too. nikka in the house in the middle of summer and it’s 80 sumn degrees??

You insane bruh

Tell ya girl I keeps the ac up all the way over here

 

[datnigDASTARDLY]

nikka let her fall asleep a second time thinkin sht was sweet and doubled down and turned the a/c back off a short while later
that shyt got me in absolute tears after seeing his queen's initial reaction to that hot ass furnace he got her livin in

He lyin, you know he spent a night or 2 on the couch.

At the very least breh ain't getting no cuddles and can't smash for at least a week

 

[bordeaux]

waking up to 81 in your own home is disrespectful, honestly. cant fault her for being mad. this is uncomfortable to most us human beings, i hope u recognize.
both my parents kept their home freezing so i relate to that part.

 

[Peter Parker]

I need my shyt at like 65 at least, I'm the type of nikka to leave the heat off in the winter

 

[CodeKansas]

Hi

This thread is interesting to me. I don't really like A/C. I even sleep in 85+ degree weather.

Be Luffy, brehs.

Sleep in Gear 2nd, brehs.