So I just looked around and who knows what happens behind closed doors, but black women at my college mostly date black men, and will give a black man a chance inasmuch as he's around their "level".
Some black men are dismayed and confused when black women reject them, but sometimes it's because said black man are reaching too high and are not really on said black woman's "level". The same black men don't have a chance with high level non-black women either, so it's a personal failing on said black man's part. I notice black men with class and/or style are with good-looking black women.
I think you're falling into the this-or-that dichotomy trap,
@gator_king . While some of what you say has some truth, it is not ALL the truth. Focus on self-improvement.