My Wife Has Put Me In A Tough Spot

[Sharp]

I'm currently married and have been so for 10+ years.

I have a son from a previous relationship who is 15 years old and lives with his mother. She lives a few towns away, 40 minute drive. He normally stays with me every other weekend. Me and my son have a good relationship.

My son is having issues at home and wants to come stay with me. His mom is in agreement that it's best because he keeps getting into trouble. He's been hanging with the wrong crowd and getting into trouble at school. No signs of drugs and stuff, but his mom is concerned that he could easily be influenced. She's unable to control him because he's now 5'11 165 lbs.

I discussed it with my wife and she doesn't feel comfortable letting him come live with us because she feels that he could be a bad influence on my younger kids aged 4 & 7, girl and boy, respectively. She suggests that he comes on the weekend, but that he stays at home with his mom.

How do I handle this situation? Do I go against my wife's will and have my son move in, or do I tell my son and his mom that they have to make other arrangements? I have a feeling that him living with us might put a strain on my marriage, but if I don't intervene I may lose my son to the streets. I also feel I can provide a more stable household.



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[Lewis Black]

Take him in but its up to you to control him breh, just assure your wife that he won't be a bad influence on the little homies.

Talk to him and tell him whats on the line

 

[Ziggiy]

Your son and his well being is most important. You did the RIGHT thing by discussing it with your wife but at the end of the day if you have to put your foot down and tell her "this is how it's going to be" then so be it....

 

[Lewis Black]

disclaimer: this was taken from another site

 

[I'm Billy FUCO!!]

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[Bender Rodriguez]

he gave her the heads up but thats his seed, whether its from the same girl or not, you cant be good to your 2 other kids and throw your other in the bushes either. If he can control him and know what he's getting into, then be straight up with him AND her like yo, none of this is happening, these the rules, set him straight and assure his wife no bad business will happen and mess up the other kids, he gotta be the one to control the situation and no one else. if not he will fukk up everything with everyone

 

[MoneyTron]

Your son and his well being is most important. You did the RIGHT thing by discussing it with your wife but at the end of the day if you have to put your foot down and tell her "this is how it's going to be" then so be it....

You say that but in reality, she could easily give you the and bounce with half of everything you have. Again.

But, the current wife knew what she was getting into so

EDIT: Hey @3Rivers sorry to bother you fam, but can you put Fantasia's head on the Bill Duke smiley?

 

[beenz]

@Sharp if you take him full time, does his mom have to start paying you????

and when he normally visits, is he a bad influence on ur other kids?

 

[Brandon M.]

please toss this thread to the bushes

old this was taken from another site ass nikka

 

[Chris.B]

Old girl afraid the new kid will get all the attention from you.

Women love attention

 

[Sharp]

please toss this thread to the bushes

old this was taken from another site ass nikka

It's from a group I'm apart of. One of the members posted this regarding their situation.

It's always interesting to see how people would handle them.

Just don't want cats thinking this is me.

Yall need to lighten up. Life is good

 

[Brandon M.]

It's from a group I'm apart of. One of the members posted this regarding their situation.

It's always interesting to see how people would handle them.

Just don't want cats thinking this is me.

Yall need to lighten up. Life is good

lmao....its just joke my guy. i HUMBLY apologize.

 

[Rawtid]

The wife would have to take the L on this one. They should all talk and express their concerns to each other. The son definitely needs to live with the dad but maybe there can be a behavior agreement lists some expectations on how the son should behave living in a new house. Get an idea of what the "rules" are at his mom's house because things could be totally different and that could impact behavior as well. Have open lines of communication. The wife and son should try to bond as well.

 

[posterchild336]

I'm currently married and have been so for 10+ years.

I have a son from a previous relationship who is 15 years old and lives with his mother. She lives a few towns away, 40 minute drive. He normally stays with me every other weekend. Me and my son have a good relationship.

My son is having issues at home and wants to come stay with me. His mom is in agreement that it's best because he keeps getting into trouble. He's been hanging with the wrong crowd and getting into trouble at school. No signs of drugs and stuff, but his mom is concerned that he could easily be influenced. She's unable to control him because he's now 5'11 165 lbs.

I discussed it with my wife and she doesn't feel comfortable letting him come live with us because she feels that he could be a bad influence on my younger kids aged 4 & 7, girl and boy, respectively. She suggests that he comes on the weekend, but that he stays at home with his mom.

How do I handle this situation? Do I go against my wife's will and have my son move in, or do I tell my son and his mom that they have to make other arrangements? I have a feeling that him living with us might put a strain on my marriage, but if I don't intervene I may lose my son to the streets. I also feel I can provide a more stable household.



disclaimer: this was taken from another site

blood is thicker than water..the wife should knew you had a son and personally if I have a kid, if a woman is not accepting of him she doesnt really care about my best interests as well. If I am getting involved with a woman and she has kids I have to understand that she is coming with this baggage and if I really check for her I will accept it and the kid as mine...

Sorry to say it but this is a lame excuse that you wife made..

 

[King Poetic]

He should stay with his mother period.

your ex and you both need to sit down with him and work out the situation.

u asking for your marriage to end with bringing him to your home, especially if he's a bad kid. can he change but he can also make your other kids change

i say set up some type of schedule with your ex and she what have she been doing and not doing for the kid to be out of control