My dad is most likely going to die soon

[Rozay Oro]

He needs a transplant and is now on the waiting list. I don't feel bad because he was an a$$hole to me over the phone last night. Our relationship is awful, I thought after being there for him most of December and January. shyt would change.

Guess not. A miracle would be nice but I'm not that delusional. I hope no one is stupid enough to break the news to Grandma. I sure won't.

This is terrible timing, last night I decided I'm done with him. Would just keep shyt at a minimum. The Stockholm syndrome would end I thought. Gone have to see him tomorrow morning with others. Only showing up because my family won't shut the fukk up if I don't and I don't want my absence to make his health worse.

Edit:

Just came thru to see him at the hospital. I was honest and polite. His crying juelzing self telling me he ain't disrespect me how am I going to say that. Told him I can control my actions and words but not how I feel. Let him know this from years. I don't choose to feel how I feel. I called him out how I tried to meet him halfway on the phone the night before and what he said to me.


He said that how he is. I said that's an excuse I see how you are with friends and coworkers. He said he'll try to change.


I'm not buying it. He big mad on the phone and when relatively healthy in person. Now all sick, too weak to be dismissive. He'll get a little more strength again and be on the same bullshyt again.


I see only therapy will help me.

 

[AuntAnniesPretzels]

Toxic family situations like these are why I’m so critical of women who associate with certain types of men

Don’t know what to tell you OP. Just focus on being the rock for the rest of your folks who are on good terms with him

 

[get these nets]

Toxic family situations like these are why I’m so critical of women who associate with certain types of men

This is the first thing that popped in your mind in a story about a MAN'S relationship with his FATHER?

 

[cheek100]

Dang breh u a cold piece. Make peace with him now and u won’t carry a heavy burden as an old man (and father)
Listen to your boy on this

 

[TEH]

You only get one father

Try to forgive for your own sake

 

[AuntAnniesPretzels]

This is the first thing that popped in your mind in a story about a MAN'S relationship with his FATHER?

Look at you capitalizing MAN and FATHER to try and maximize the amount of daps you’ll get


Yes that’s the first thought that came to my mind.

 

[The Coochie Assassin]

I don't know what he did to you but if it ain't nothing serious like sexual abuse, beating your ass to the extreme, beating your mom, etc. then I think you should try to be there with your fam and kick it with him. You don't gotta hang out with him by yourself and shyt if it makes you miserable.

 

[get these nets]

Look at you capitalizing MAN and FATHER to try and maximize the amount of daps you’ll get


Yes that’s the first thought that came to my mind.

How did a woman pop in your head? Oh, it's his mom's fault?

come on,man.

 

[Rozay Oro]

Dang breh u a cold piece. Make peace with him now and u won’t carry a heavy burden as an old man (and father)
Listen to your boy on this

If I am to become a father my teenage years and young adulthood dealing with my father. Has only made me want to be the best father I can be. I'll show up to his ass tomorrow but I'm not there to comfort a juelzing madman. I remained calm and collected last night on the phone. No guilt here.

 

[BmoreGorilla]

This is the first thing that popped in your mind in a story about a MAN'S relationship with his FATHER?

nikkas find every and any reason to shyt on women on here. This nikka basically shytting on OPs mother indirectly. Clown shyt

@Rose Gold stay strong my brother. Got you in my prayers

 

[Rozay Oro]

You only get one father

Try to forgive for your own sake

I already forgave but I'm not going to forget. I'm battered wife status at this point

 

[Rozay Oro]

nikkas find every and any reason to shyt on women on here. This nikka basically shytting on OPs mother indirectly. Clown shyt

@Rose Gold stay strong my brother. Got you in my prayers

Lmao I peeped it but I didn't bother it's just assumption without enough information. Thanks breh, I only feel bad for the rest of the family.

 

[TL15]

It's clear you care or else you wouldn't be reaching out (or lashing out) here...

that being said, if he is an a$$hole or whatever, do what you can on your end to peace things up. If he passes away (I hope not ) then you don't want to have regrets. Even if you feel you won't you probably will. Don't let how someone else is, effect you. Do what you can, continue to support, and worst case scenario you can feel good about your own efforts to mend the relationship.

 

[AuntAnniesPretzels]

How did a woman pop in your head? Oh, it's his mom's fault?

come on,man.

If you associate with toxic men, you are putting your own hedonistic desires above the long term development of your children at worst or are allowing someone to finesse you at best.

Logically you can’t dispute that.

Last comment on this subject I’ll make in THIS thread though.

 

[TheDarkCloud]

If you associate with toxic men, you are putting your own hedonistic desires above the long term development of your children at worst or are allowing someone to finesse you at best.

Logically you can’t dispute that.

Last comment on this subject I’ll make in THIS thread though.

Don’t leave breh.

I want you to connect how this relates to OP and the toxic relationship he says he has with his dad. Unless you’re under the impression OP is a woman...?