My best friend is in his last phase of his Divorce, my other best friend is in the beginning phase....

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people stay getting married for the WRONG reasons....

her:
he cute
he got a good job
he pedestalizes me

men:
she pretty
sex
sex
sex
sex
sex
sex
sex
sex.....sex

brothers WAKE UP!!!

do not get married for sex.
do not get married for love

only get married if you and her have aligned goals and are building something together...ie business....legacy....family....whatever

other than that...stay single
 

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I had to leave a few relationships like this in my 30s. I was so used to me and a chick going our seperate ways in our 20s when we got tired of each other that I was baffled when I got to my 30s and found women my age that will continue to be in a relationship they ain't feeling.

They making the Triple H face at you whole time :hhh:. No sex, no romance, just frigidness, no cooking, no quality time, just anger and misery.

But then you try and give her key back so you can go your seperate ways `and now shes like :whoa: :mjcry:
That is WILD to me. I can’t waste my or a man’s time like that. If it’s that obvious just let it go…:mjlol:
 

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you don’t feel weird airing the homies’ business online, breh?…:patrice:

edit: didn’t read btw…shyt too chatty patty for me…:scust:
This is a message board, the entire creation of it is to be a "Chatty Patty".
you don’t feel weird airing the homies’ business online, breh?…:patrice:

edit: didn’t read btw…shyt too chatty patty for me…:scust:
Talking about the sadness and realization that many of people's friends and family are currently going through divorce is "Too Chatty Patty" for you?

This is grownup talk, some should feel more comfortable elsewhere


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That is WILD to me. I can’t waste my or a man’s time like that. If it’s that obvious just let it go…:mjlol:
I didn't get it either. She was fukking miserable, I know I did not do anything bad on my end. I even asked multiple times did I do something wrong or could do I something to help. She would always say "nothing" or she was "tired." This carried on for months.

I can only assume it was something illogical that she knew made no sense and it was just better to dip and get my Saturdays back vs waiting for an explaination.
 

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Marriage isn’t easy, gotta be willing to be all in and honestly put up with some shyt you may not agree with. Two different people can have different morals, beliefs and other things. Also, people may change as they get older. Me and mines been together 15years, it ain’t easy and people shouldn’t assume it is.

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I didn't get it either. She was fukking miserable, I know I did not do anything bad on my end. I even asked multiple times did I do something wrong or could do I something to help. She would always say "nothing" or she was "tired." This carried on for months.

I can only assume it was something illogical that she knew made no sense and it was just better to dip and get my Saturdays back vs waiting for an explaination.
most women operate exclusively on how they feel in the moment....logic rarely has a place in their thinking process....
 

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Met my dog working IT in DC in 2007. Cool , hardworking Bmore dude. Works IT and has a union job at the Baltimore Harbor. Just one of them good dudes that tried to do things the right way. College, good career, wife, house, kids. In the early days I could see things weren't right. I've posted about him on her before, but he would work 12 hours a day and would come home to an unemployed wife with no meal prepared. On top of that she was rationing out sex. To me, that's major disrespect. He help get her a Top Secret clearance and Lifestyle poly. They're banking, but she just keep getting worse. Fast forward to 2023, after years of complaining, his wife finally drops the divorce papers on him. He already pays for most of everything. Mortgage and 2 kids in private school. My boy making around 180k a year. He moves back in with his parents, gets a lawyer (5k retainer) + a few thousands every other month. After the lawyers do a financial colonoscopy on both of them. He finds out she's been saving (30k+) while his spending all his money on the kids and trips and upgrading their home. After a year an a half of depression and misery ( suicidal a one point). Plus kids shytting on him. It was settled.

1.Wife gets the house (she has to refinance and give him the equity out of the home) He has to pay her closing cost and tax.
Got the house for 315k in 2017, now it's work 450k. Says some how he's only getting about 20k.
:sadcam::mjcry:

2. Plus pay 1700$ monthly child support and pay the kids private school I think is around 6k a year.



My other boy i met in 3rd grade, been cool since. I was in his wedding in 2017. He's in Dallas. Wife always rubbed me the wrong way and she doesnt like me. Bcuz she known my ex, who's finer and 14 years young than us. I've never said anything to him bcuz he doesn't speak much on his marriage to me. His wife is a successful career woman, makes more than him. He recently opened up about how they're deciding if they want to stay together or not. He doesnt seem to want to talk much but he called her a b:tch...

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I had no idea Maryland changed their Divorce Laws recently.

I think California is by far the worst state for men when it comes to Divorce. You gotta be a complete fool to get married in that state.

Your buddy with Union job still got off easy compared to dudes I know. Lotta dudes go into a deep Depression and lose their freaking job after a Divorce. You get behind on those child support payments and it's over.


No-fault divorce law takes effect Sunday in Maryland​


Under the changes, spouses seeking a divorce need only demonstrate that they have lived physically “separate lives” for six uninterrupted months — even if they reside under the same roof — or assert that they have “irreconcilable differences.”
 

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This is a message board, the entire creation of it is to be a "Chatty Patty".

Talking about the sadness and realization that many of people's friends and family are currently going through divorce is "Too Chatty Patty" for you?

This is grownup talk, some should feel more comfortable elsewhere


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all that yappin just to say you like to gossip…:mjlol:

figured the thread was gonna be about breh’s newfound insight that he gained from his homie’s situation smh…
 
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