When did all this get so complicated? If two people like each other, they usually genuinely want to be in each other's company. Wouldn't that be the path that would naturally lead to both parties putting in equal effort?
Third wave feminism + the internet + social media = Clusterfukk In Gender Relations, because chicks have gone more or less batshyt expectations wise
They've always been batshyt emotionally but the barrier of entry was low enough men were like, "Shyt what else is there to do?" now they like "Maaaan, I got better shyt to be doing". Funny thing is grinding/hobbies/other aspects of life didn't significantly improve, women just got significantly worse. I'm 21 and for my generation and my brother's (he's 27), men are like entertainers for women, they think we're supposed to keep their interest, fight their boredom, provide for them, support them emotionally, and fukk them like a pornstar, while being 5'10'' (bare minimum) and at least a 7, if all these things can't be done you're alright or decent at best, of course when they hit 26-27 they start going:
Wait a min it's almost like this isn't possible for me or the few men that check these boxes don't want average ol' me
By 30 it's
Damn all those plain janes/nerd girls that weren't super hot in high school and college have boyfriends/husbands and I'm still single?
By 35 it's
All I wanted was a good godfearing man
It’s like the Wild West out here bruh.
I tell all my younger female relatives to find a legit mate by the end of college or before they’re 25. After that it’s slim pickings.
Conversely, if no one pops up for me by 25, I'm no longer interested, I want a family, but on MY terms, otherwise I'm comfy dying alone