Men Do Not Fall In Love Gradually.

[Suleiman Bey]

"Men do not fall in love gradually, and they do not find themselves suddenly falling for women in whom they weren't initially interested.Now, let me qualify a couple things before going any further. By "love" I mean deep romantic attraction, as opposed to lust or long-term attachment. Lust is primary, physical and fleeting for both sexes, and long-term attachment takes years of shared experience to develop in either sex. Male romantic love is something that either starts early and continues, or else doesn't start at all. If a man isn't falling for you from an early stage - say, the first month - it isn't going to happen."


Do you guys agree or disagree? Why/why not?

Explain please

I'll be back after class to read.

I've been in love about 2 times. 2x's it was with friends we was just cool, had no romantic interest in them at all. 3rd one I was wanted to fukk, but we hung out a lot and she was a cool lil broad.

 

[Action Mike]

It ain't tho

That's why the bench is the bench. When someone you do like ain't acting right, that's when they get subbed in. And the expectations are low

You been deep in love within 30 days?

 

[Rawtid]

I think the way most people go about finding love is ass backwards. Once attraction has been established, I don't feel I'm missing out by saying I will only date/have sex with one guy and curving other guys that express interest.I would rather shoot the shot with someone (is this a good use of a sports analogy?) and if it's doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. I feel that most people want to date as many people as they can and then through those persons' actions they start to narrow down a "candidate".

 

[The Mad Titan]

It's weird because I take time to open up, so when a guy is like "Oh, I really like you./I think I'm falling for you/catching feelings." I'm usually like "yeah, youre cool. I like hanging out with you too."

To me, it's weird. How can you like someone that you didnt even get the chance to know yet? Like, you haven't even seen the real me or angry/hood me or me at my worst. To me it seems like infatuation and I dont take it seriously.

Its not weird, your thinking logically lol.


I think its perfect normal to really like someone quickly, but takes time and consideration to have love for and then work and dedication to claim to be in love with them.


You can like or fall for someone that you dont know in and out just yet, you can even have love for them. You just like/care for those aspects of there personality, its gonna be hard to find someone that doesn't say they really like you until after they see the "real you"



You not gonna catch a fish with just a hook and no bait!

 

[Ashley Banks]

It's like no one these days is willing to build slowly a solid strong house.

Everything is so fast, and rightly so..ends fast.

I think a lot of women rush because you never know how a man truly feels about you. They will say "let's take it slowly and build" because they just want to string you along for years until they get their shyt together so they can find someone else. Plus that whole not being able to have healthy children naturally after a certain age thing. I've seen that happen sooooo many times. Then the guy gets a new gf and they're married with kids within 3 years but you were with him for 10 and he wanted to "take things slow".

And it's the same with dating, guys will just want the girlfriend experience but don't want to make a commitment but also don't want you talk to someone else so they say they want to move slowly when they don't plan to take it anywhere.




*I don't date women so I can't talk about why men do it but i know there are women that do the same.

*yes i know that not all men do this

 

[CinnaSlim]

Infatuation: You like how someone makes you feel; rose-colored glasses, puppy love; put on a pedestal.
Lust: You are aroused by the person, fantasize about sex with that person, persue sex with that person.
Long term attachment: Comfortable with the person, usually because of familiarity. It's easier to be with them than to start over with someone new.
Love: You care about someone else's wellbeing, willing to sacrifice for them. You want to make them feel happy, and are appreciative of them

Infatuation is cutting a beautiful flower to decorate your home, using something up because it benefits you.
Love is pouring into something, nurturing a flower/plant to allow it to grow.

A healthy relationship is one where both people are pouring into/ nurturing the relationship. That 50/50 love

 

[Elle Driver]

I think a lot of women rush because you never know how a man truly feels about you. They will say "let's take it slowly and build" because they just want to string you along for years until they get their shyt together so they can find someone else. Plus that whole not being able to have healthy children naturally after a certain age thing. I've seen that happen sooooo many times. Then the guy gets a new gf and they're married with kids within 3 years but you were with him for 10 and he wanted to "take things slow".

And it's the same with dating, guys will just want the girlfriend experience but don't want to make a commitment but also don't want you talk to someone else so they say they want to move slowly when they don't plan to take it anywhere.




*I don't date women so I can't talk about why men do it but i know there are women that do the same.

*yes i know that not all men do this

I think that's where self-advocacy comes in, where if you don't like the way things are headed you're not afraid to walk away. It's like women who accept being a baby mother as opposed to a wife, you gotta advocate your womb and self and not accept that at all. Some people are just afraid of being alone.

 

[42 Monks]

I think that's where self-advocacy comes in, where if you don't like the way things are headed you're not afraid to walk away. It's like women who accept being a baby mother as opposed to a wife, you gotta advocate your womb and self and not accept that at all. Some people are just afraid of being alone.

Women way more than men.

 

[Elle Driver]

Women way more than men.

Because many tie their identity to their relationship status. Whether that's jumping from relationship to relationship or staying committed long term.

 

[CinnaSlim]

I think that's where self-advocacy comes in, where if you don't like the way things are headed you're not afraid to walk away. It's like women who accept being a baby mother as opposed to a wife, you gotta advocate your womb and self and not accept that at all. Some people are just afraid of being alone.

I agree wholeheartedly. I recently had to put it into practice because I, like a lot of women, think love is to sacrifice, to take care of another person, and I tend to change and do things for people thinking that if we are in a relationship, he will eventually do the same. But you definitely have to remember to love yourself first and not let people take advantage of you. Not to constantly wait for a change but to live in the moment. If things aren't working, and he is not making an effort to fix it. Then basic logic says if nothings changes, the result will be the same.

 

[Tom Foolery]

Stupid thread.

All a women needs to know is if a dude isn't willing to introduce you to his family, it ain't real.

 

[EpicStoryTeller]

This is actually true, we men know if we're in love within the first month

 

[Rawtid]

I think that's where self-advocacy comes in, where if you don't like the way things are headed you're not afraid to walk away. It's like women who accept being a baby mother as opposed to a wife, you gotta advocate your womb and self and not accept that at all. Some people are just afraid of being alone.

Wanting children is way more natural than wanting to be a wife.

 

[Elle Driver]

Wanting children is way more natural than wanting to be a wife.

There are safe guards tho.

 

[Rawtid]

There are safe guards tho.

I don't oppose marriage, but I also don't feel you should wait until you're married to have children. Being married doesn't make a couple any better at parenting than a couple who isn't.