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The Millennial Gen did what they were told to do, and now are in a rocky job market with no backup plan.

Working all day at a purposeless job is soul crushing and yet all we will tell people is suck it up and work harder.

Now it's all about whose fault it is, but how does someone gain these life skills with 20 years of mental traumas and debt up to their eyeballs?

How about the folks that end up taking care of their parents until their mid to late 50s. They have to figure out how to "live" after.

Their purpose was their parents, which while noble, makes it difficult to actually have a life. That's my aunt now.

Attitude and resilience is built not born, but you need the proper tools first. Many don't get that.

And here we are.
Usually I’d be with you, except for the fact that I believe where a lotta younger generations go wrong is viewing work as “soul crushing”.
Sure it can be. But it’s also necessary. And with as many options as we have these days to start businesses and thrive, the opportunities are there.

Also consider this: I think many in this generation are FAR too materialistic. Depending on where you live and how you live…you don’t need $100,000 to live well.

You might not be able to DoorDash everyday. Or buy $200 weaves, $400 Jordans, a new car, ect. But you can set a budget and stick to it and learn to live within your means.

We wasting too many opportunities with almost learned helplessness. I’m also concerned about people that complain about student loan debt.
But do you know how much money goes back in the pot each year b/c kids don’t even apply for scholarships and opportunities? There’s so many ways to pay for education without huge amounts of student loan debt. Any debt I accrued in my career came from traveling and spending frivolously b/c my education was paid for.

But you are right about those values being instilled…which is why I’m hypercritical of our school systems. We have all the young minds in our nation from the ages of 5-18. 180 days, 5 days a week, 8 hrs a day.

That’s a LOT of time to spend away from your family learning absolutely NO marketable skills to prepare you for life after graduation.
Every damn kid in this sorry country should graduate with some type of certification in a trade if they don’t have acceptance to a university AND funding.

A lot of what made me successful came from my school experiences and training. And a lot of those experiences are absent for a lotta kids these days and parents are too overworked to pick up where schools leave off.
 

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Ummm.. the whole notion about having a partner is better for fortune and promotes growth/looking towards a future is true.


When i was in a relationship, I had something to live for; felt like there was a paternal purpose in my life and I wanted to love/nurture the girl and have a family with her.


Now I'm back to my old ways, spending exorbitantly and drinking/driving drunk every weekend in the godzilla; prolly gonna go out like James Dean/Paul Walker.



It's a shame... but I control my destiny.



And I'm going out with a bang.



If i dies... I dies...











































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They not the right women breh..
Find a woman thats talking some real shyt.. Family, supporting the community, education, economics etc.. Simple shyt like that. A woman thats talking about building real shyt... Not no materialistic h0e neither.. A woman who has goals that'll take years to accomplish and she's constantly working on them..

Those are the women men need to seek after when desiring a relationship.. And there are plenty of women out here like this.. But they aren't "baddies" and go unnoticed..

When your values are different, your surroundings change.. When your surroundings change, the people change as well.. Then you'll elevate to where you desire to go.. And its not going to be over night..
Its all in the vibe.. Just make sure yours on point..

been there done that, and those same women still gonna drop you for some michael b jordan looking nikka when they get the chance...:mjlol:

like i said i've learned my lesson... get money, live life, they opinions of me dont matter anymore... :manny:
 

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People still don’t want to admit that marriage doesn’t mean what it once did.

The next couple of generations will put the nail in the coffin.:yeshrug:


Edit: And this is coming from a breh who has NO PROBLEM getting women…I like my space and doing what I want to do.

been there, done that with the nagging, jealousy, mood swings, and hypocrisy
 

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This is actually really bad news for Black women and Black children. I realize that a lot shyt on the thecoli boils down to some simple minded points of view, but there is a bigger issue in that story and it involves Black women and Black children. A single man can work a bunch of bullshyt jobs and eventually scratch together enough money and economic resources to get into the middle class if he were really motivated to do it. Regular dudes don't really live lavish lifestyles except for fronting purposes to get women. Otherwise a single dude by himself that works a couple of jobs can easily get into the middle class.

The reason this is bad news for Black women and small Black children, is because this is a perpetuation of single family households that continues a trend of perpetual generational poverty. Black women in the lower socioeconomic category that have children out of wedlock and rear the children in a single family home literally have no way out of the lower socioeconomic status. That is horrible and that also means that her children are growing up impoverished.

I concluded years ago that African Americans need to go back to fixed or arranged marriages. I realized that people used to hate that shyt, but in many cases that was the only way that women had husbands and children had fathers which was necessary to lift family units out of poverty. It is sad, but we may have to go backwards in order to go forward.
 
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People still don’t want to admit that marriage doesn’t mean what it once did.

The next couple of generations will put the nail in the coffin.:yeshrug:


Edit: And this is coming from a breh who has NO PROBLEM getting women…I like my space and doing what I want to do.

been there, done that with the nagging, jealousy, mood swings, and hypocrisy

I guess you have 0 baggage...
 

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if you a single man making money what's the point of marriage?!:pachaha:

Man I'm currently in a relationship a great one at that but I know it will end soon because I want kids and she is older with two already (long story, kids before I was even around, never meant to get serious, etc..)

But I look out here and see whats out here and im like:picard:. From dimes to below average women too many of them are just scorned, selfish, crazy or all 3. I dont mind being single but I'm not creating a child with just anybody. :mjcry:
 

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I concluded years ago that African Americans need to go back to fixed or arranged marriages. I realized that people used to hate that shyt, but in many cases that was the only way that women had husbands and children had fathers which was necessary to life family units out of poverty. It is sad, but we may have to go backwards in order to go forward.

funny you say that.. this is a discussion I’ve been having with family and friends lately...
 

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This is actually really bad news for Black women and Black children. I realize that a lot shyt on the thecoli boils down to some simple minded points of view, but there is a bigger issue in that story and it involves Black women and Black children. A single man can work a bunch of bullshyt jobs and eventually scratch together enough money and economic resources to get into the middle class if he were really motivated to do it. Regular dudes don't really live lavish lifestyles except for fronting purposes to get women. Otherwise a single dude by himself that works a couple of jobs can easily get into the middle class.

The reason this is bad news for Black women and small Black children, is because this is a perpetuation of single family households that continues a trend of perpetual generational poverty. Black women in the lower socioeconomic category that have children out of wedlock and rear the children in a single family home literally have no way out of the lower socioeconomic status. That is horrible and that also means that her children are growing up impoverished.

I concluded years ago that African Americans need to go back to fixed or arranged marriages. I realized that people used to hate that shyt, but in many cases that was the only way that women had husbands and children had fathers which was necessary to life family units out of poverty. It is sad, but we may have to go backwards in order to go forward.

Can you picture black 20+ year olds having this conversation? Everything is social issues and entertainment.. A talk about family will probably be 20 minutes tops.. Values are fcked up..
 

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What percentage of those men are actually desirable though? :francis:


Let’s keep it a stack brehs, a somewhat good looking dude with his shyt together and a good head on his shoulders is not having these problems frfr. :hubie:

Even if you don't look good, if you can provide, women will show interest. The key difference they note is education. While a degree doesn't mean you're more intelligent than someone, women tend to go to university and become more liberal whereas men are middle, working class and lean conservative. Those two right there create a great incompatibility. Whereas men wouldn't necessarily care, women absolutely do.
 

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I'm glad they had the ethnic breakdown. I dont really care about fixing problems any other group is having besides us.

If you're broke its hard to get married. You can't have a healthy relationship when your own life is in disarray.

If pu$$y (p0rn, prostitutes, clubbing, apps, dating) or passive recreation (TV, video games, social media) are on your top 5 priority list (where you spend the most time)
and
your life ain't stable (no longer living in your parents house, enough money saved to cover bills for 3 months, life plan in place, in your career)
And
Youre over 24

Then youre fuking up and need to get on your square.

:ufdup:

I think it's waaaay easier to go broke single. I would be broke if I was single. I would fukk around too much. I found my girl early and we both had nothing and struggled together. This way both us of saved more money by living together, cooked together, spent less money going out and keep up with the joneses. Now, we gotta house and kids. Find a partner in the same stage of life and same goals. It's easier to make it happen together. If you and your girl are trying to get Insta-famous you're going to have a bad time. All the successful people I know are social media hermits but are doing it bigger than the ones that post all the time.
 

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Even if you don't look good, if you can provide, women will show interest. The key difference they note is education. While a degree doesn't mean you're more intelligent than someone, women tend to go to university and become more liberal whereas men are middle, working class and lean conservative. Those two right there create a great incompatibility. Whereas men wouldn't necessarily care, women absolutely do.

Bro this is it right here. My homie is a conservative dude and pretty much an atheist and his wife is liberal and spiritual. They are always going head to head with each other.
 
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women own 100% of the p*ssy on earth.
trick/simp culture is gonna make sure
they are gonna win from here out.
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