Married and Divorced twice before 30.

[///Vega+++]

I'm having a hard time believing the taco bell story.

at least you tried

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

I'm withcu homie. My scenario is on the bad side. If you decide to let go then the possibility for real wolves to move in is real.

But you have to think about you too. I am no expert on love. But I think you should think about if you are happy. If not what will it take for you to be happy? Can it be possible with her? If you really sat down and poured your heart out no homo will she be receptive and compromise? Another breh mentioned it but honestly if we had a kid together it would have been 100 times more harder for me to leave. I had a "out" cause we had no children bond. Yall have a kid so you have more to lose than I did.

Thanks again.
We had that uncomfortable knock-down drag-out shouting and yelling convo on saturday.
I mean, we aired ALL our grievances...and she agreed to meet me halfway!!

I couldn't believe it.

I learned more about my wife on saturday than I known in the past 5 years breh....


And think....for the first time in years...she actually heard me.
Like...she listened and UNDERSTOOD what I was tryin to get across to her!!

I think we're gonna be okay after all...
But I definitely gotta focus more on my family and not on me all the time.
If this is gonna work....I gotta pull my weight emotionally and not just financially.

Thanks again for all the encouragement breh,
Man...I just don't know how to thank you enough.

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

I might be going through a divorce soon :'(

I hope that you stay strong through it.
We need a crisis counseling thread on here for brehs going through this.
Apparently there are a lot of us out here.

 

[Just like bruddas]

Will read at work

 

[NO-BadAzz]

Man what pages are GM stories (narrative) thread has gotten too long to read now fuk

 

[bobbiewishbone]

Moms came thru for real.

Moms though.

 

[gangreen]

@General Mills . .... The only Mills who could deliver back to back with material in 2015

Interesting that he married the extreme polar opposites... Too wild wife and too conservative wife.

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

please stop saying he shoulda stayed with her

marriage is really tough even when both people are on largely the same page. it's not retiring from a social life, it's sharing one. they were living two different lifestyles and neither one could be happy living the other's

Damn real.
And it's straight impossible when the two people are different.
Just goes to show...never marry someone who isn't the same as you or who doesn't share your exact likes.

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

Thank you again for this thread...

I had my "Come to Jesus" moment this morning in the car when I got to the parking lot at work.
I'm just going to put this out there....it doesn't matter anymore.
All this past month we've been on the edge of divorce because of various things.

- Me hiking with my coworkers (male and female)
- Me talking to females at church (Nothing flirty, just simple conversation)
- Me wanting to go back to school
- Me wanting to get into more outdoor activities with my survival group (since she won't do anything I like with me)
- Me wanting more from life than just being a "family man"

Everything that she has a problem with involves me doing something more with my life besides "Go to work, come home, eat, sleep, rinse & repeat".
I can't live like that. I just can't.
I have been here before with an ex, another sista that wanted me to be a robot and I can't live like that. I thought that because my wife was a church girl she'd be better than any run of the mill female...nope.
She's just as frickin crazy as any other and I wasted 10 damn years with this bullshyt thinking she would get better one day and all of a sudden life would be great. I've lost my friends, gave up my motorcycle, gave up seeing my family gave up personal growth and only added complication to my life....for what!?!?!
All because I wanted to do things right?
Hell, I don't ever have sex anymore hardly. Gave that up for this woman too. I wasn't rolling in the sheets before her, but at least I was getting it when I needed it.
I've weighed the balance, I don't need companionship that badly if it means I lose everything else that makes life meaningful and fun.
I've considered suicide more in these past 10 years than I have my entire life before her.
That ain't good.
That ain't good at all.

The only choice is to leave her.

 

[Super Ramon]

Somebody quote all the parts to the second story. I'm not trying read through 20+ pages

 

[.༼-◕_◕-༽.]

Thank you again for this thread...

I had my "Come to Jesus" moment this morning in the car when I got to the parking lot at work.
I'm just going to put this out there....it doesn't matter anymore.
All this past month we've been on the edge of divorce because of various things.

- Me hiking with my coworkers (male and female)
- Me talking to females at church (Nothing flirty, just simple conversation)
- Me wanting to go back to school
- Me wanting to get into more outdoor activities with my survival group (since she won't do anything I like with me)
- Me wanting more from life than just being a "family man"

Everything that she has a problem with involves me doing something more with my life besides "Go to work, come home, eat, sleep, rinse & repeat".
I can't live like that. I just can't.
I have been here before with an ex, another sista that wanted me to be a robot and I can't live like that. I thought that because my wife was a church girl she'd be better than any run of the mill female...nope.
She's just as frickin crazy as any other and I wasted 10 damn years with this bullshyt thinking she would get better one day and all of a sudden life would be great. I've lost my friends, gave up my motorcycle, gave up seeing my family gave up personal growth and only added complication to my life....for what!?!?!
All because I wanted to do things right?
Hell, I don't ever have sex anymore hardly. Gave that up for this woman too. I wasn't rolling in the sheets before her, but at least I was getting it when I needed it.
I've weighed the balance, I don't need companionship that badly if it means I lose everything else that makes life meaningful and fun.
I've considered suicide more in these past 10 years than I have my entire life before her.
That ain't good.
That ain't good at all.

The only choice is to leave her.

Have you told her how much it's bothering you?

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

Have you told her how much it's bothering you?

Yes. For 10 years now.
She justifies everything by the bible and then blames me for getting into a situation I did not think through fully.
Yes, I asked her to marry me....because I wanted a mate to SHARE my life with and enjoy the things I like doing TOGETHER!!
I didn't get married to only do things that we both like...we don't have damn near enough in common to be happy doing that!!
I know that I need my space....she apparently doesn't need any space and has no intention of giving me any and blames me for being a married man and expecting space.
The only time she's not hounding me and asking me where I am is when I'm at work.
I've used vacation days and claimed working late so many times just so I can have some free time and do the things I love.
I shouldn't have to do things like lie and hide and sneak as a grown ass man!!!
Why am I a grown man living like I'm back in my moms apartment and 17 again!?!?! What the hell kinda mess is that!?
I've told her how I feel countless times and she always has a reason to blame it back on me and maintain her position.
I'm getting to the point where I'm seriously gonna be like "fukk your position, I'm out. If you're here when I get back then fine, if not...fine."

All the love in the damn world ain't worth a lifetime of suffering....

 

[King Sun]

We were so far behind on the rent that the Apt complex just wanted us gone. They did not even want us to get it current. . So I had to find us a new place. . I am grilling her like WTF??? What was going on that you could not pay the rent??? Also I forgot. before I left. . .. I had a friend. ( old ex actually ) who worked at ADT. She was a supervisor. I called her and told her I was married. . etc. . she was happy for me. .She had a new dude too. . I asked her if they were hiring. .She said yes. . I helped my wife with her resume. .Got her an interview. So right when I was leaving she was going for her final interview. . One of the first letters I got from her was her happy as fukk cause she got the job.

Wellllll. . .She lost the job. . Because she lied on her application. . She did not have a high school diploma brehs. .

Damn I am trying to get this shyt out and I am missing shyt. . When I first met her kids her 11-12 year old cornered me in the hallway one time and said. . You know me and my mom have the same taste in men. Lil girl was built like a grown woman. . . I literally ran out of the trailer.



Ok so back to this shyt. . I am asking and asking. WHAT THE fukk HAPPENED??? . Not even really wanting to know. She is deflecting and playing dumb. . .I get us a new place. . A townhouse. As I am paying for that her truck gets repo'd. Well. . MY TRUCK! Cause it was in my fukking name. Somehow my car in 4 months has brakes that are worn down to the metal and is now sounding like a go-cart. . . I am


And to top it off. . .One day her 7 year old says. . I miss my sister. . I go. . Your sister is in the kitchen. . She says noooo. My sister Anya. I am thinking she is talking about her cousin or some shyt. . So I offhand mention it to her. . Your daughter was asking about Anya. . She says ok. . I will get her from her grandmother. . .I am like ok. . Then I ask her. . Is she a cousin? She says no. She is my daughter. .

Sounds like a typical duval chick

 

[Nature's Fury]

can somebody copy the whole thing in a few post or sum??

did this ever happen??

 

[KravenMorehead™]

Poor food company-named homie...

lmao