Rigamortus
Superstar
mama mills the goat
My mama would've been like "You married her. Deal with it."
:sadbronc:
mama mills the goat
I never really talk about it. . Fam knows of course. To be honest for a long time I was embarrassed of it. Now I am not exactly proud of it now but I use both marriages as learning experiences. If yall have read any of my stories you can tell I am a pretty happy go lucky guy. I am not uptight, a$$holeish, etc. . I love life. I love to laugh. Also I aim to please. . Which when I was younger made me naive to the shyt that some women . . . hell people can do.
I will share with yall both marriages. . How they started. . How they ended. Not saying it is going to be the funniest thing ever. . But hopefully some younger brehs who are like me character wise can use my L's to avoid some of the pitt falls I fell in to.
Like I said I personally am a get along kind of guy. . And when I was younger I placed women on way to high of a pedestal. But I made it through it all. . I was married twice. . Both times for two years. Somehow I avoided having any children with them ( thank gawd ) and avoided having to pay any alimony.
I will start with the first. . . Met her when I was in the Navy. . Still one of the biggest natural asses I have ever seen on a woman who was not obese. I will start with her first. . Lets call her Charlotte. . .So of course the story will be called Charlottes Web of Lies.
I told her what I wanted. . She looked me dead in my face and said no. She is not comfortable going anywhere at all.
So she did not switch up the game. . I did.
I was like what?? Everything is straight. She was like boy stop. Whats going on with your marriage? I told her everything is fine. . .She did not press but said think about it. Are you HAPPY. Then she dropped the convo. . Later that night I sat there and thought about it. . . Even this trip to PA. . She refused to come. She did not want me to go really. . But I was going to see my people. I really truly sat there and looked at the whole situation and realized I was miserable. .and I was going to let her know. I was not angry or upset. . I was looking forward to it. . I figured she would meet me halfway.
I get home and I tell her straight up I am unhappy. We need to make some changes. . She was shocked but eager to help. . This I FULLY ADMIT. She never changed who she was when we got married. She was not a going out person when we were dating. We normally hung out at each others house. She did not pump fake me or anything like that. I was attracted to the fact that she was not in the streets every weekend. .
So she did not switch up the game. . I did. Everything that I was cool with I was not longer cool with when it became apparent that this is how it is going to be till one of us dies. No more traveling. No seeing shows. . etc. . Not even road trips. But I was sure when I explained to her what I wanted. . Just us to get out the house. TOGETHER. I had no wish to do trips solo when I am married. Seemed weird.
I told her what I wanted. . She looked me dead in my face and said no. She is not comfortable going anywhere at all.
I wish we could bet real money on what was really going on.. This nikka mills about to drop a BOMBSHELL on us.. I cant fkkin waitThis is the silence before the beat drops....
I wish we could bet real money on what was really going on.. This nikka mills about to drop a BOMBSHELL on us.. I cant fkkin wait
She actually caught me by surprise! I was I said What? I remember we were in our room and she was folding up my draws. . She looked at me in my eye and said. No. She said it cold as fukk. . And continued to fold clothes. I was at this turn of events. . I did not expect this at all. . . I kinda told her my heart and how I was feeling and she was
I was like Well things can not keep continuing like this at ALL.
She paused in her folding and said why not? Its been going this way for a year and you had no complaints.
I was cause this was all truth. I literally had no one but myself. . I was so busy sucking shyt up I did not speak up for myself when I was not happy. . I just rolled with that shyt. . As far as her. She was living the dream. She told me she was VERY HAPPY. And saw zero reason to change.
She wanted to play rough? I told her then if you are unwilling to compromise with me a little then I want a divorce. I am not asking you to go to the strip club or Freaknik. I am asking to go to the movies with my wife.
She finished her folding and looked at me again. .And said no.
I was again.