Marriage In The 21ST Century

[Bunchy Carter]

I teach women about finances and the importance of being debt free. I encourage black female business...but the biggest help bw need is the relationship department and working on their esthetics which I am working on to reach bw worldwide. Right now I stick to my friends and family and anyone I can connect with.

So; basically you stick to your friends and family because your not comfortable talking to regular black women you do not know because they can see through your bullshyt and they can see your a fraud.

I see people like you all the; I don't believe that bullshyt. Your the type that only shows up during christmass and some other holiday. Just to make yourself fell good.

If your really about that black woman movement you don't need a connection when talking; the connections comes when they know that your speaking from the heart.

 

[Remote]

like i said 75% of women file for divorce, once you walk down that aisle and sign that piece of paper. There is nothing you can do, as a man your leverage is gone.

Its not men that are walking away from marriage its women, yet its women who write these articles and all shaming men into getting married

the hypocrisy is outstanding, if men were initiating divorce 75% of the time then I'd be willing to listen to what these bird brain brehettes have to say but nah

Should a woman stay with an abusive husband and wait for her husband to file
to avoid being considered a home wrecker?
Numbers alone don't mean jack...

There aint that many wife beaters out there.

 

[agnosticlady]

Should a woman stay with an abusive husband and wait for her husband to file
to avoid being considered a home wrecker?
Numbers alone don't mean jack...

If 75% of women are filing for divorce there is no way 75% of married men are cheating or abusing their wives. That's an old myth created through feminism. The whole all men are abusive and evil. If women were divorcing men simply because they were really abusive then I can understand it be at 15% divorce rate, but 75%? That is ridiculous. A lot of women enter marriages due to wanting a fairytale, happy 24/7 marriage, and not wanting to put in the work to maintain it. A lot of women do not really know what they want when they get married.

 

[agnosticlady]

There aint that many wife beaters out there.

Exactly.....There is no way that many men are abusing their wives. Also nobody really speaks of domestic violence in lesbian relationships, and women abusing men. All forms of domestic violence should be spoken about. A lot of women divorce their husband over things like, "We don't get along anymore, and the passion is lost".

 

[Yup]

So; basically you stick to your friends and family because your not comfortable talking to regular black women you do not know because they can see through your bullshyt and they can see your a fraud.

I see people like you all the; I don't believe that bullshyt. Your the type that only shows up during christmass and some other holiday. Just to make yourself fell good

I speak to strangers...what are you talking about. You approach blacks cold turkey and talmabout black power/black business/white supremacy like a hotep? You have to build relationships before people are comfortable to discuss such topics...and have learned over the years that not all blacks are on the same wavelength when it comes to these type of discussions and get easily offended and all you have is pissed off person...that you tried to help.
I am in my 20s and many blacks of my age group/generation are on that see no colour/post racial tip...especially in Canada.

 

[Remote]

Exactly.....There is no way that many men are abusing their wives. Also nobody really speaks of domestic violence in lesbian relationships, and women abusing men. All forms of domestic violence should be spoken about. A lot of women divorce their husband over things like, "We don't get along anymore, and the passion is lost".

That's probably the #1 reason.

There are people who aren't quite as happy with their jobs as they were when they 1st started, but they stay there more than they stay in their marriages.

 

[Bunchy Carter]

I speak to strangers...what are you talking about. You approach blacks cold turkey and talmabout black power/black business/white supremacy like a hotep? You have to build relationships before people are comfortable to discuss such topics...and have learned over the years that not all blacks are on the same wavelength when it comes to these type of discussions and get easily offended and all you have is pissed off person...that you tried to help.
I am in my 20s and many blacks of my age group/generation are on that see no colour/post racial tip...especially in Canada.

You said that shyt like black people are a different species; like you have to talk to this black person differently than others. That means your fake; if you can not talk regular to all people that means you have different faces.

O let me put on my black face when I talk to these negros and blacks ; time for me to put on my white face when I go to work and starbucks

 

[agnosticlady]

That's probably the #1 reason.

There are people who aren't quite as happy with their jobs as they were when they 1st started, but they stay there more than they stay in their marriages.

I've never been married before, but I do believe that one should always try to make it work. A lot of women use what I mentioned as an excuse to divorce their husband and go discover what they think they are missing out on. While on the other hand divorce is a tedious process and can be stressful. I believe that a lot of men who do divorce their wives do so for legitimate reasons. Men are mostly simple creatures that like structure and normalcy. They aren't going to divorce you over nothing. Of course some do (I am not denying that), but I think that most men have a legitimate reason for filing for divorce.

 

[Yup]

If 75% of women are filing for divorce there is no way 75% of married men are cheating or abusing their wives. That's an old myth created through feminism. The whole all men are abusive and evil. If women were divorcing men simply because they were really abusive then I can understand it be at 15% divorce rate, but 75%? That is ridiculous. A lot of women enter marriages due to wanting a fairytale, happy 24/7 marriage, and not wanting to put in the work to maintain it. A lot of women do not really know what they want when they get married.

I am not claiming that the stats are all due to abuse...I am listing one of the many reasons why a woman may divorce. There's also infidelity, etc...my point is quoting 75% of women is not painting a whole picture numero uno and dos these stats that emperor is quoting do not apply to black women. I inferred that quickly because I know how this site love to disparage black women.

Tres...this thread kinda confirmed what I already knew these dudes who are getting married interracially are not necessarily reaching heaven despite the picture they want to display.

Case in point; emperor's quote of black men being more married than black women...which would suggest that they are more affected by women filing divorce by non black women and not black women. And since a bm who is married interracially is more likely to be financiall stable or well off as another article/has suggested they are more likely to have his money ''taken''.

However, that's not the reality of many black couples.

 

[Yup]

You said that shyt like black people are a different species; like you have to talk to this black person differently than others. That means your fake; if you can not talk regular to all people that means you have different faces.

O let me put on my black face when I talk to these negros and blacks ; time for me to put on my white face when I go to work and starbucks

Nah I am nuanced in the way that approach topics of black economics and community with people that have not established a relationship. You sounding like a hotep who yell like a banshee in the street.

 

[Yup]

I've never been married before, but I do believe that one should always try to make it work. A lot of women use what I mentioned as an excuse to divorce their husband and go discover what they think they are missing out on. While on the other hand divorce is a tedious process and can be stressful. I believe that a lot of men who do divorce their wives do so for legitimate reasons. Men are mostly simple creatures that like structure and normalcy. They aren't going to divorce you over nothing. Of course some do (I am not denying that), but I think that most men have a legitimate reason for filing for divorce.

many men not divorcing is not an indication that they are taking their vows seriously. Plenty of men married and unfaithful or leading double lives. All that tells me is that women are more likely to want to separate officially from their marriages instead of putting a front.

 

[agnosticlady]

many men not divorcing is not an indication that they are taking their vows seriously. Plenty of men married and unfaithful or leading double lives. All that tells me is that women are more likely to want to separate officially from their marriages instead of putting a front.

There is also a high rate of women who cheat......Do people consider why some men step out of their marriages and cheat?

 

[Bunchy Carter]

Nah I am nuanced in the way that approach topics of black economics and community with people that have not established a relationship. You sounding like a hotep who yell like a banshee in the street.

LoL naw I'm low key; I'm not a front street person, I'm a behind the scenes brother. You reach more people when they know your doing it not for show and to be seen; but for the reason of helping and not being scene. If I have to be in the spot light I'm fine with that also.

 

[JSmoove29]

Be mad at a stat that applies to your community the least breh (assuming your black).

It's like me posting a stat on the percentage of people afflicted by skin cancer due to exposure to the sun...sure some blacks can be victims but on average...

Black women will have to get married to be able to divorce at the rate that black men and women marry.

True

 

[Yup]

LoL naw I'm low key; I'm not a front street person, I'm a behind the scenes brother. You reach more people when they know your doing it not for show and to be seen; but for the reason of helping and not being scene. If I have to be in the spot light I'm fine with that also.

I agree, I try to lead by example...but believe me I practice what I preach.